Insult or compliment?

well, we're supposed to have the figure we were born with. some women are willowy, some women are rail thin, some women are hourglasses.

 

Tsk-tsk.Some men never learn.Women are mysterious creatures,albeit desirable,wonderfull beings.However,it's best to walk on the old eggshells when it comes to certain (many,many!)topics.Let this be a lesson-hahahaha.

 

well, yes of course.
BUt what I'm saying is that naturally, women are naturally more curvy than men..the majority anyway..
But, the point is, is that an hourglass figure is the most femanine looking to me....not that i'm saying rail thin isn't pretty too.. i think really thin women are gorgeous; I'm just saying that women with more curvacious figures shouldn't feel bad about themselves..because it's a very womanly shape/.

 

Asian women are notoriously slim and in their culture, anything else is viewed as kind of a bad thing. I would take that as a compliment, but that's me.

It doesn't help that you told her right when you met her. Once a woman starts getting carried away with being offended, there's no stopping it. She's officially pissed. But the slap in the face? That was really rude.

 

i think that she is just insecure of her body, sad for her, because hourglass shapes are the best, i think.
if a guy said that to me, i would have definitely taken that as a compliment.
however, if i was heavier or more insecure with my body, i might not have.
it sucks that she didn't realize you were complimenting her, and she needs to feel better about her body and herself.

 

i think that she is just insecure of her body, sad for her, because hourglass shapes are the best, i think.
if a guy said that to me, i would have definitely taken that as a compliment.
however, if i was heavier or more insecure with my body, i might not have.
it sucks that she didn't realize you were complimenting her, and she needs to feel better about her body and herself.

 

It depends on how you said it and what kind of guy you are...but generally, a lot of women take "hourglass figure" as a nice way to say "you could be skinnier." I would avoid that particular compliment in the future unless you're awfully sure you know how secure the woman is about her body.

I WISH I had an hourglass figure. Seriously, I could use some more curves.

Oh hell, this thread is ages old. Oh well.

 

it's a generational thing, apparently, because when i was growing up, hourglass was what our aimed for, dreamed of, drank weight gainers to achieve if you weren't so physically inclined.

 

And from what I can see, you have an amazing body, mamaKCita!

 

thanks. it's not so awesome at the moment. winter doldrums. bah! hate it.

 

I would've slapped her back.

 

Sounds like she has body image issues. Maybe if you had said "damn girl you have curves in all the right places" she would have been flattered.....who knows. Personally I see nothing wrong with what you said.

Next time stick to "you have beautiful eyes" or some generic compliment like "you're so pretty".


p.s. Next time don't forget to duck

 

It's best to keep it to yourself. As a woman it's better to feel like you're only focusing on her personality, and not her figure.

 

i dono it depends on how you say it but i def dont like people complimenting me that way maybe dont be like shapely but just say that she has a great figure

 

a woman never has a right to slap anyone. it's called assault and is illegal. he should have slapped her back ... but then he'd be probably be in jail. she did him a favor in reality ... the op seems sweet and deserves much better than that bitch.

 

Yeah, she just took it the wrong way. Women are sensitive about their weight, it's usually better not to mention it at all really.

 

Hourglass is said to be the sexsiest shape for a woman to be. I'd have taken it as a compliment. Most women have weight issues, you're either too big or too small. It's best to never mention it. Unless you're saying, "you have a beautiful figure." which can't be taken the wrong way. Although I've found women would much rather have their brains than their body complimented.

 

I agree... If it was the other way around and a guy slapped a girl for saying something that they took offense too, he'd be in jail and labeled a women beater...

I think it's a compliment and so is voluptuos... And for her to slap someone over that is just truly moronic and pathetic...

 

Yeah I have to agree thae slap was way out of line, I mean I know I can be a right little hot-head but I'd never hit a guy for trying to pay me a compliment. Except in self defence there's never an excuse for violence. You can do way better than her love, you're too good for her!

 

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I have to agree with this person here.
She sounds overly sensitive. You didn't deserve a slap.

I am an overly sensitve individual BUT I wouldn't go around slapping people but can be somewhat confrontational at times.....but then again....I'm a chick.