A Real Tough Decision..What Would You Do??

honestly i would get rid of it, unless i knew the person who raped, i might consider keeping it, for some reason. but if it was some random guy, no way

 

I'd terminate the pregnancy atmediatly. Imagen what ti'd be like for the child to hear his/her father was a rapist. Not a nice thing to tell, and you have no clue what genes it might get.. and you're confronted with that one moment your intire life. No; i'd deffinatly terminate the pregnancy.

 

I'd probably get an abortion.

It would be a horrible decision to have to make, and I hope no one here would judge any woman no matter what she chose.

 

I just started thinking about the implications that would result if I actually became pregnant- I wouldn't be able to take my medication for bipolar disorder. If women have mood swings due to pregnancy, I really hate to see what would happen to me if I wasn't on medication. There would be a very good chance that I would be hospitalized due to these mood swings and if they would get severe enough, the only treatment would be ECT- electro convulsive therapy. My fiance and I are starting to see that the risks of pregnancy may be too high and we should adopt instead.

And if I became pregnant due to rape? I have no idea what I would do- it's not as black and white as I had previously thought. What if I became suicidal due to mood swings and the rape? Would I carry the baby and risk both of our lives or end the pregnancy and spare my life and somewhat my mental health? I really don't know. I hope I don't have to make that decision, but if I do, I'll have doctors and therapists to help me make the decision. It won't make it easier though.

Peace and love

 

interesting thread and replys. i just couldn;t think about this until it happened and i hope i never have too it is just too hard a choice to make it does make me think though about what a tough choice to make and live with afterwards

 

terminate.

And if for some reason I couldn't i'd do a coathanger jobby myself.

Miss Beatle, what if the child had some genetic predisposition to being a rapist??

 

I suffer from clinical depression and am currently pregnant. Because of the fact that my antidepressents are risky for the baby I am weaning.

IT FUCKING SUCKS BIG TIME.

I'm down to one a week and usually the day before I'm due to take it I spend the day crying and being irrational and finding problems with my partner when he's trying his best to support me.

UGH. I'm doing alright though. I'm not at risk of suicide but my partner probably is!!

 

see I'm completely pro choice.. but me personally I couldn't have an abortion.. so I'd carry the baby full term and give it up for adoption.. I don't think I could keep it..

 

I would carry it full-term and most likely keep it. no abortion, and every child deserves a chance to have their real mother.

 

I was date raped in collage, and I chose to keep the baby. He's almost three now, and I couldn't imagine life without him.

 

i would keep the baby. even if the baby's father was a rapist, i believe the way you raise a child is how they will turn out, geenes don't have president over learned behaviors. I know most people would terminate, which i cannot understand. Although, you cannot really know how you would feel unless it actually happened to you.

 

so what are you going to tell your child when he/she asks who his/her daddy is? If I knew that I was conceived due to my father raping my mother, then I think I would have a negative outlook on family and life in general. You can't lie to someone when they ask who their daddy is.

 

i hope i am never in that situation.. i would definitely keep the pregnancy to term, but whether i would adopt the baby out or keep it, I have no idea.

 

I haven't read all 14 pages of this thread, and I can't say what is right for you. But, when it did happen to me at the age of 18 I terminated the pregnancy as soon as I found out about it. Yes, I still think about what life would have been like with a child that age, and yes, I have four children now, but only two are with me, and I miss the other two something awful.

So, whatever you decide, do know that YOU, and nobody else, is going to have to live with that decision in the end. You are the one that has to look in the mirror every day, you are the one that would have to look at the child every day if you chose to keep it, and you are the one that would have to live with the knowledge that you gave that baby to someone else. It matters to you in the end.

I wish you all the best, and please know that while my post may sound harsh, it isn't meant that way.

 

I'm a rational person. After the initial shock had worn off and I'd "recovered" (can one ever truly recover from such an experience?) I would look at it this way:

~ How this would effect me physically.
~ How this would effect me mentally.
~ How this would effect the baby physically.
~ How this would effect the baby mentally.
~ Whether I think I can handle raising a child that was forced upon me.
~ Whether I was raped by someone I know or a stranger (some might say it makes no difference, but others like myself might disagree.)
~ Whether I'd been given an STD, AIDS or HIV (and the likelihood that the child was born with that disease).
~ What my situation in life is in (whether I could financially handle the situation, whether I was still in schoool, whether I was in a solid relationship with someone who could help me with this).

It seems cold and calculating, but after long thought on the subject of abortion, this is one of the few circumstances in which I see it as a plausible option to the situation. I don't agree whatsoever with abortion as a form of birth control (i.e. "Oooops, we're pregnant, let's go 'take care of things'.") I hope that doesn't offend anyone. I see abortion as an option only in situations in which the pregnancy risks the life of the mother (and then it is her decision whether she wants to sacrifice her own life for the child's or whether the child's life is forfeit), or in the case of a rape -- in this instance, the brutality of the experience can significantly harm the mother and having the child can be far too scarring, resulting in a miserable life for both. A good alternative, of course, is always to have the child and give it up.

I hope in such a situation, I would either have the baby and then raise it, or have it and give it up for adoption. But I cannot say for sure.