Being Friends With a Venusian...

Cool. I need to brush up my anglo/celtic references. My man.

 

It's working isn't it.

 

I dont think so.

 

Well I haven't said your trigger word yet.

You will be mine Cate.

Mwahaha. Hahahahaha.

 

hahahaaha. bijou precieux.

 

how funny, i read it "waves eyepatch" and thought maybe y'all had been doing some role-playing cyber stuff.

 

Oh dear, my bodice has become ripped.

 

shall I lend you mine?

 

But then you'll have no bodice! Perhaps you should just take yours off too, and then I won't feel so self-conscious.

 

I think I will

 

Hey, how many guys here actually find it possible to be "just friends" with a chick?

After a while I start to like her and want to move to the next level. They usually say something like "I don't want to ruin our friendship." Well ya just did.

Girls never seem to want to make that transition from "friend" to "relationship." (Read: The Ladder Theory). However, any relationship that hopes to have a hope of a chance needs to be based on friendship. So are women ruining modern relationships? I'm sure some liberal hippy fembot will post and find a way to blame it all on men for wanting to have sex or something. But I've been thinking about this a lot.

 

I avoid getting into the friend zone with women I feel a spark with. Not attracted to, I'm cool with finding friends attractive, but if theres a spark, I'll try to make my intentions clear.

Of course, every now and then I can end up being friends with a girl and she'll tell me she has feelings for me, then, I'm pretty much at a loss.

I've had a couple good relationships start off with being friendships too. I still usually feel the spark at first, she'll have a boyfreind or something, and I'll try not to make a move.

However, if the guy is dumb and things don't work out between them. I'll be there. Not right away though. I give it a few days before making a move.

 

I find myself consciously putting some women into the friendship zone but, that's cool. I love having a big social circle.

 

Damn. I try to wait a couple of months if the girl just got out of a real relationship. And if she happens to get involved with someone else in less than a month or two, well, I don't need a girl like that.

I find it easy to be friends with overweight girls or girls that aren't very attractive. But it gets annoying because they incessantly hit on me and try to use me as a "prop" boyfriend to make themselves feel good.

All my real friends are males. I have a best female friend, but that's because there is absolutely zero attraction between us and she's more masculine than feminine.

 

I automatically flirt with all guys - I can't really turn it off - so I'm rarely fully in the "friend zone" anyway.

Also: it's all men's fault for wanting to have sex. lol

Lode - have you ever met a girl you got to know online? I was wondering if that would confuse things, because online you kinda have to be just friends, so is it possible that by the time you met them it would be too late and you'd already be in the "friend zone"?

 

Couple of months?! That dog won't hunt Ithaca.

 

No Molly. You fully have those men in the "friend" zone, but you flirt with them for validation of your own attractiveness. Once you boost your own self-esteem and find happiness within yourself, you can stop tormenting your male buddies.

 

I'm an automatic flirt too. And then a few women get hurt because they get the wrong impression. Oh well. It's not natural not to flirt with a woman..

 

I'm the only skinhead in Ithaca, so even amongst the ignorant people who equate being a skinhead with being racist, I have novelty, which gives me an edge. Plus, I look responsible when I dress smart, and I'll be working soon which will give me a definite edge over all the scruffy hippies.

So I definitely have options. Don't need to hunt if you set a trap, y'know.

I'd rather take quality over quanity any day. If I'm single for a year before I find a quality chick, so be it. I can always have a one night stand if I feel frisky.

 

I fuckin' like that! Respect. I agree about the rebound factor. That's what AFCs do.