i came out yesterday

oh god...i absolutely can't believe it...i am so terrified...this is how it all went down:

i was staying at my dad's this weekend but i had to stop home for some homework stuff...my mom was home...i found her and she said, "i was cleaning your room (me in my head: holy shit...bridge of privacy...you bitch!)...and i cleaned out your headboard and i found ciggarettes and a marijuana pipe..." so in the midst of trying to semi explain myself...she asked if my drug use was due to a sexuality issue...well...playing dumb i said, "what do you mean?"...she then asks, "well are you gay?"...and with out even thinking about it (which is what really scared me) i said i was...and yeah...she didn't really react...she said she'd prefer if i weren't...but as long as i am happy...oh god...i am still in shock...and she shrugged off the drug use too! i have no idea what is going on...i'm just glad she didn't find any other stash...or my love letters...
i'm glad it's over with though.
oi.

 

Well done pet. It's way easier when they work it out for themselves.

 

Nice one Blackie! HAHA! Don't it feel dead good once your out? My parents found gay pron under my bed when I was 13... long story, just shows how fucked up my childhood really was/is!

 

I came out without having a boyfriend or any porns, so it was quite easy to ignore. Then about a year later they came back early from holiday and met my boyfriend. That was fun.

"Oh... right... so it's not drugs then? No, good."

 

right on patch

 

OK, it's great that you've come out - well done. But I'm confused. what does the weed pipe have to do with being gay? How could she put 'you' and 'pipe' togther to equal 'gay'?

In any case, well done.

 

well basically she was getting at the whole "troubled soul drug user" thing...um...she thought that my self destructive behavior had to do with me being in the closet...which may or may not be true...i avoid analyzing my psychosis...and my mom is insane.

 

Congratulations. Under whatever circumstances, it's so much better, and I'm so happy for you!

 

Congratulations. I'm sure you will find being out to be a liberation experinece. It sounds like your Mom is also going to be supportive which is good too.

It is goofy to me that she equated smoking weed with being a lesbian but whatever. It gave an opportunity for the dialog which seems to have tuned out well.

Welcome out of the closet.

 

It's fairly common actually. With mine it was always "Yr gay? Oh well, at least it's not drugs", and I was like, "Well, actually..."

 

i wish i could come out too, but, my parents wouldn't like it, and I have to pretend to like men sometimes in front of them. And if they found out, I dunno....
It sucks :-(

 

There are many people your age that are too afraid to admit even to themselves that they are queer. Time will come when you can tell your parents. You'll know when it's right unless they find out on their own then it's a different issue but you being confident in yourself & your true being will help you through if they do take it badly.

 

Just act like they already know, then when one of them sees you doing something lesbianic (playing pool, wearing a tracksuit, fighting, stealing my taxi a few years back, I dunno, whatever you lesbians get up to these days) and asks you, say "Oh, yeah, I'm a lesbian. No big." all cool-like. Go on, it'll be funny.

It's better to save coming out until you can do it with a bit of elan, don't embarass yrself like I did.

 

I'm very glad it went well...easy...okay.....that was , basically, like mine, the complications start later when they start trying to teach you about safe sex (for gay people which they aren't)...

Brian

 

It's harder to hate a gay person than gay people. Not hard, but harder.

 

how the fuck does a weed pipe lead to being gay? do people smoke weed in your area as a means for expressing their sexuality? it makes no sense!!!!

 

(unless its poppers)

 

Congratulations! It can only get better from here!

 

Yep....or worse...

 

Follow here buddy. A pipe doesn't lead to being gay. People often use drugs, alcohol, sex, cutting, or whatever else to escape from their confusion, pain, sexuality, truama, or other difficult situations in life. Mom finds pipe, wonders if daughters is smokin' to deal with her sexuality. Hits nail on the head.