does he like me or not? (very very long)

Well this is gonna be kind of long. im 17 years old and bi, and i've fallen seriously hard for one of my male best friends (hes 16). we only really started talking in mid 2007, about june...but after a month we were freakin close friends. we always used to talk in a very gay-manner with each other, such as referring us as each others significant others and discussing "fantasies" about each other, and we were very open to telling each other we loved each other. after a while i really started to like him, and in August i confessed to him that i was bi and that i really like him. i also said i'll get over it eventually, and that it's just a crush, so i hope it wouldnt ruin anything.

he was surprised but nothing really changed. 3 weeks later school started again..and apparently both of us started to give vibes to just about everyone that we're a couple. people started asking both of us if we have a thing with each other and we always replied with no. they say we were very touchy and we look at each other in a certain way. people have also seen him looking at my ass.

all of his other best friends are very homophobic (he's told me he used to be too) and started to tease him about it. he started to treat me very differently around begining of october..he wasnt open to saying 'i love you' as often anymore and he rarely wanted to be seen with me, seeing as i got used to it, it started to really hurt me. we started fighting about it all the time cause i missed how he used to be. but even so he didnt want to lose me, he always apologized to me, but nothing ever changed. we fighted maybe about every day for about 2 months..then he met this girl online.

they started to bond a lot, and after a while the girl decided to add me on msn because my friend talked a lot about me and she wanted to get to know me. the girl has told me that my friend has always given her this vibe that he likes me. i started bonding with her aswell after she added me, we really started to get along. my friend started asking her for advice about me as hes affraid of asking anyone else as hes affraid they might think hes gay and tell people, this girl was from a whole nother country.

my friend started to treat me differently again, it slowly started to become the way it used to be, and then to the next level. my friend started really treating me like i was his boyfriend, but he would always say "his love" or even "the love of his life" or something. he always hated saying boyfriend, he was never comfortable about saying that word. he started saying stuff like im all that he wants and that he wants to be with me forever. when he got a joke lapdance from a girl at a party, he apologized to me right afterwards and started saying his sorry and that it didnt mean anything. many similar situations has occured.

he always tells me im really hot to him. he sent me a few semi-nude pics of himself and wondered if i would send some to him. he started to say that he hopes we're together forever and even started to plan a "future", with a family and sex and such. he tells me he loves me more than everything in the world and stuff on I.M. perhaps twice in an hour, and we talk for several hours every day. he also tells me stuff like when he sees me he feels weak, that he thinks about me almost all the time, theres no one he would rather be with and that he feels like the luckiest guy in the world. in person we usually just look at each other a lot, but dont talk that much, but when we do its when people arent around, otherwise we try to talk normal but it isnt usually a succesfull conversation. he still doesnt like to be seen that much with me, but much less than before.

today we started talking about buttsex with each other, and he told the girl he met online about it...this girl knows our entire situation...he then told her that this sex wouldnt happen for another 10 years...and she asked him why so long...then he asked her if she thinks that we'd really have sex in 10 years...he started to say that me and him just joke around about it...she told him that he could tell her anything and that she wouldnt judge or tell anybody...he denied and says its just jokes about sex...when she asked him again..he told him that we're just friends, thats all..she told me that he talks about me 80% of the time, telling her how i make him feel and stuff of that nature..

what i have with him seems to feel like a deep meaningfull unofficial relationship...we've even gotten into fights cause of relationship sort stuff...we've almost "broken up" once...he seems to get very jealous when im with certain people, etc

ive tried to get over him for monthss now...but it really isnt working..so now im wondering...does he really like me but is in denial or is scared to confess officially... or is he really straight like he claims he is to other people (he has never ever told me his orientation)?

yes i realize its loong, and yes i realize this sounds very odd, uncommon and pathetic xD,..but we're normal otherwise haha..this has been bothering me for a while now ..i seriouslyyy need advice, i like him and reaallyy love him a lot..and im not just saying that

 

...weeel...maybe, if he has multiple personality disorder, or is on...super crack, or is being threatened by the alien russian mafia, he doesn't like you -.-
Unless he's just gay acting & jerking you around (for which he should have his legs broken) which, from what i'v read, is highly unlikely, then yes, he likes you.

I'm no mind reader though, ask him or drop hints or try to be a bit more...touchy/intimate with him? Being straightforeward is often a good idea, especially if he's taking so much interest in you.

And as for being "normal otherwise"...don't worry, you can be treated for that

 

sounds to me like he cares for you but is still in the closet and not ready to come out of it

 

Ya, thats what I was going to say. But he might not be, so respect that possibility. If he isn/t able to come out, then maybe he isn/t able to be in a deeper relationship with you.

And you gys could just be really close friends. He'd feel the exact same way about you if he was gay.

 

i know there's a posibility he's straight.,but the girl started talking to him about how he may like me, and it came to his attention that he really likes me emotionally, that he sometimes think there might be an "us"..but that hes not gonna do anything for now. and he said he thinks theres a chance his heart wants me, but his brain wont accept it. and he also started to say he doesnt know how his friends or family would react..maybe that means something? but he hasnt mentioned anything about his sexuality though during that convo, thats what the girl told me anyway. though hes not ready to tell me anything about how he feels himself.

and btw, sorry if my english isn't too good, primarily i speak dutch lol

 

It seems like you have a relationship that is based on communication and trust. From what you mentioned, you guys have shared quite a bit with each other.

The only real advice I can give (though, probably not what you want to hear), is that you tell him exactly what you told us. You don't deserve to be jerked around. If he is interested in you and wants to commit and do whatever that would be great. He needs to figure out what he wants, and the only way you can find that out is by explaining your situation and asking how he feels. Otherwise, it will always be a "what if.."

I hope everything works out well.