okay so heres the story.. i have been with my boyfriend for 14 months and i love him very much. we have history thats absolutely nuts.. lets just say i hated him for a little while before i actually got to know him better. well hes a bigger guy 6'2 about 265.. and well he isnt very well endowed so the sex isnt the best.. ive only cheated on him once before this past monday and i hadnt slept with him yet before i did it.. but thats besides the point.. i met up with a friend of mine on monday night and ended up sleeping with him.. and now i cant get it off of my mind because of how good it was.. i still love my boyfriend and all but im kinda sick of him... and im kinda too young to be tied down
oh and also a personal note.. me and this guy have faught every weekend for the past two months because i don't stay home and be his house keeper. (he hates that i go to school)
well seems ya definately got enough reasons to leave but 1 big reason to stay ya definately dont desserve to be treatted like a maid ofcourse the new guys a total unknown the sex maybe better but he may not treat ya good does the new dude know about the old dude?
You don't sound compatible at all - dump him. No point in forcing a relationship that isn't there just because you have some feleings for the person. If you feel you are too young to be tied down - why are you in a relationship in the first place? And there's no excuse for cheating.
yea ur 18 and he's mad that you still goto school? that should tell you alot about him right there if you ask me
yes he does know. and he knows the situation that im in as well. i do have enough reasons to leave but im scared that ill never find somethiing as caring as him without the control issues
QUOTE=Duck]You don't sound compatible at all - dump him. No point in forcing a relationship that isn't there just because you have some feleings for the person. If you feel you are too young to be tied down - why are you in a relationship in the first place? And there's no excuse for cheating.[/QUOTE] ill agree with you but im in the relationship because i do care for this man and we went through a lot of trouble to be with me. and the only reason why i feel tied down is because he acts like hes 40
Well, you can't stay in a relationship just out of emotion and sympathy - if the compatibility isn't there, it's not there. And as far as acting like he's 40, I can't say much about without knowing more, but if you have a tendency to feel tied down it would be better to stick to more open/casual relationships.
thank you for being kind to me. most people would have called me a slut. and i think ill take the advice given
Oh, goodness, dear. You've tasted freedom, now go for it. Believe me, I once was scared to get out of a relationship for similar reasons, but there are always good people out there. Good people who don't believe in controlling their lover.
Yeah if what you're saying about him is true, I'd say to break up. Leave him or whatever. HOWEVER, I don't agree with cheating before you break up with him, REGARDLESS of how he treats you. Break up with him and THEN do whatever you want with whoever you want. If he's bad to you, then leave him and find someone else, but don't be finding someone else before you leave him. That's just my opinion, so sorry if I've offended anybody.
These are the three important ingredients to living happily in a world of others: Finding yourself (and staying true to it) Finding what they are (and not letting it suck you in) Finding what they want to be (and appear to be it) Dealing with people will always bring about troubles, the most good you can do is try not to cause any of those troubles. If you aren't one for commitment or you aren't ready for commitment, trying to force it upon yourself is only going to cause trouble.
i do have to admit i am not ready for commitment.. i thought i was but now that i think more in depth about it. im not. im not ready to be married with a family and shit at 20. thanks for the advice.
nothing wrong w/ slutting it up while you're young & hot (i'm assuming).. might as well have some fun while you've got the option
