I have no sex drive and I'm 19?

For some reason I don't get horny ever. I used to all the time. I don't even feel like dealing with guys anymore, I'm like fed up with boys and I haven't had sex in a month and a half. I'm thinking about abstaining until I get into a real relationship. Std's and pregnancy have me too paranoid. Everyone's so dirty these days. But is it normal to not get horny at such a young age. I used to have to at least masterbate once a weak to keep me from going crazy.

 

Forgive me for saying so, but... "DUH!"
"I'm thinking about abstaining until I get into a real relationship"?? What does that mean you were doing?

I don't know about normal to not get horny... I know that different people experience different degrees of horniness. But if there has been a marked change in you, it might pay to see a doctor and have things checked out, just to be on the safe side. You do have a gynecologist, right? Tell that doctor about it, since that's the kind who should have provenance over that kind of issue. (at least, I think I used "provenance" right... )

I think it is a valuable lesson, learned early if you are only 19, that it is much better to stay out of people's beds unless you are in a relationship. How much of the shit that goes on comes from unstable relationships that get sexual and fuck up all kinds of things? LOTS. Best to wait til you find a decent guy, get to know him, save sex for a bit afterwards, and be in something that lasts and feels good. Besides, every day spent not throwing it around is a day spent not catching something that'll dry up your crotch like a left-out piece of flank steak.

-Jeffrey

 

By the way... used to masturbate once a week?! If you're asking guys, they're gonna tell you that that was RARE. I dunno if I'm different or anything, but I'm good for at least once a day, and on days like last night, when the hurricane was coming through and I was stuck alone in the house (and like three weeks ago in the same circumstances) I'll go at it four, five times! Now, I know that it's pretty common for women to like to or need to far less than guys, but... I had to laugh when you offered "at least once a week," as though it was a lot! LOL!

-Jeffrey

 

Dear Midnightoker, try not to worry about it. It is one of those things that gets worse the more you obsess over it. I dated a woman for five years and it took three years before she felt comfortable enough to cum. Forgive my frankness here, but I went through puberty early, in grade six. From that time on, I had a very high sex drive. for most of the years I 'shook hands with the bishop' daily. When I met my current love, my fiancee, in December, we had a very active sex life, sometimes making love for six hours in a day.
I do have a point here that might help you, I am just setting the history up. She was injured in March and almost died. She is still in hospital now, six months later. For the first couple of months after her accident, I never even thought about sex, did not get even a semi hard on for months. In this past six months I have cum twice.
I can relate to what you are thinking. But it will pass, just accept it for now,and try to take your mind off of it with other activities. My fiancee is recovering, and I can tell you, when she gets home.......

 

Cool pic, BlackGuard! Were you up there to do a BASE jump?!

-Jeffrey

 

i completely understand what you said. I'm sort of on the same boat.
I havent had sex in about a month and a half and sex is been the last thing on my mind lately. i've had the opportunity to get laid (still have) but i just dont want to. i feel i dont have the energy, nor the desire to do so. I'm just so fed up with it all. I just want to get on with my life, preferably on my own, every boyfriend i had, always cause me grief and i sort of lose my sense of direction.

I can't fuck up my life anymore, so i have to take it easy.

I reckon my sex drive will come back to me once i'm feeling better, i'm still a little heartbroken.

 

I wonder if you, or girls like you, realize that there are some guys like me who are waiting and hoping to cross paths with a girl who is finally ready for a genuine honest, caring guy who is out to make their lives better, who will work to avoid causing her grief.

'Cause I seem to read about girl after girl who apparently has been involved with nothing but all the worst assholes that the guy world has to offer. But lately I don't even get the attention from girls, and I have to reckon they're still just after the flashy guys who are all into their clothes and cars and not about what's real. Call me bitter, but unless girls are willing to give a second look to ordinary guys who have a heart, instead of self-centered jerks just because they have the "bad boy" attitude and looks, they're gonna get what they're gonna get, and soon they'll be here bitching about it.

-Jeffrey

 

Everyone goes thru patches of just not feeling horny. Mine lasted til I was about 17. If you're feeling depressed, it's probably best not to force it. And if you're happy and don't want sex, so be it. You'll gain respect for that if nothing else

 

i get what you say, but in my case, i've never gone for the bad boys...I can't stand arrogant, self centered people, I dont have a ceratin type of guy either...it's just that after a while into the relationship, it all goes sour and it has to end cos there's nothing left (this has always happened to me)

I'm willing to have an honest relationship with a good guy, i thought I had found him but i was wrong. I've been making the same mistake over and over...it just doesnt work anymore..that's why i'm now taking a long break from all sorts of love relationships cos all i've got from them is suffering and misery.

 

Midnighttoker: Start doing some exercise!! I sugest running, it will start your sexual drive back on. Push a little at least once a week until you really are tired, i'm not talking just 10 minutes or so.

 

Peacefuljeffry,
Girls aren't necessarily after arseholes, but they aren't after honest 'caring and sharing' guys either. They are biologically programmed to find a partner who has the manliness to look after her and her children. Possessions like expensive clothes are an indication that the man can look after himself.

I'm a nice guy and I love my wife, but I'm tough when I need to be too. And it works, it really really works. My wife is feminine and she loves my masculine. And she loves the way I love her too.

So you don't need to be an arsehole, but you do need to be a man's man.

Mark

 

i think its good a focused girl not "getting caught up" I havent dated in about a year. i could but all the girls i sceem to meet cant keep there legs closed. i think its the ultimate turnoff. Your on the right track girlie just dont get frustrated about it


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