Do you ask for the things you want?

Oh yeah, I know what you mean.

Like I say, just work on it. You'll find the people around you are really intrested in your needs, and it's just something you need to work on communicating a bit.

It'll all work itself out Aura my friend.

 

Except for small mundane stuff, I have no problem, For bigger stuff, I have no issue, as long as it doesnt have to do with money. I try to be as self reliant as possible, and havent had to ask anyone for anything in a while, and hope to keep the streak going.

 

I know they are. Sometimes I wish I could have a thought bubble forming above my head like a character from a comic strip so they could just read for themselves. That would make my life a lot easier :tongue:

 

Hahaha. No kidding.

 

Mmmm... It's very hard sometimes to ask for the things that I want, when I have tried to get them but have failed to achieve them.

It's easier to ask for what I want when I haven't made an attempt to get what I want.

 

Well it's not like you can trick someone into giving you what'cha want.

Better to make those things clear right away.

 

it really depends on what it is i want
some things are easy to ask for
others...not so much

 

sometimes i ask because i have to.

sometimes i ask because i know the person well enough to know they'll respond, because i'm comfortable for some other reason.

sometimes i prefer to just allow things to happen without trying to alter their outcome, and sometimes this is at my expense though often to my advantage.

it all depends on a lot of things.

sometimes not asking isn't so bad, but hopefully you feel its ok to ask.

sometimes i don't ask because i feel selfish though, or because i'm very nonconfrontational with people in my life.

 

Yeah, I used to feel uncomfortable when asking people for things.

Yet, I eventually realized that people either don't really mind or are actually glad to help. I know that I wouldn't mind if people asked me for something, then why would other people... especially those close to me mind? If I need something, I ask for it. That is of course... if I actually NEED it, not want it. (A cigarette, a beer, or a slice of pizza constitute a "need" ). People are usually glad to help, and helping each other out in times of need actually makes friendships stronger.

 

Haha.

I say "Let me win!" a lot when I'm losing to a boy, whether it's a video game or an argument.

 

if i can, then hell yeah! why wouldnt you if it only helps ya. if not that ok to, ill just work toawrds getting what i want.

 

It's funny because I never used to ask for anything, I'd do everything for myself and bought everything for myself and depended simply on myself.

My boyfriend has made me practice asking people for things. If I'm upset, I don't expect him to read my mind, I tell him what I need from him...and he gives it to me. I realize that asking for help is OK, asking for things is OK (within reason), and people actually LIKE to help you! I love helping people...so I feel like since I give a lot to others, it's not unreasonable to ask for things myself.

 

i usually dont ask for what I want, unless I/m uncomfortable, and then I/ll try to seem casual and stuff.

But naw, I hang out around people who like what I like, so I let them be in control and take it as far as they want, cause I/m cool if theyre cool.

 

who's to ask? my wife? god? my 90year old mother?

i ask people to use their own heads about how everything they think and act and do affects each other and the kind of world we all end up having to live in.

in a way that's asking for the kind of world i would like to live in. sure as much for myself as anybody else, but i think maybe as much for everybody else as myself too.

=^^=
.../\...

 

yeah, that's usually what happens to me.

 

They certainly are. I remember being with my best friend back home in DR, she went through this bar drive thru (ah life in DR haha) and told the guy, "I dont have any money, you should give us two beers". The guy didnt say anything and was already giving us the beers.
She's really not shy about asking for things and usually gets what she asks for.

 

I would like a bacon and cheese egg sandwich. Someone go get me one please.

 

Oh I never ever say that. I hate it when people ( especially boys ) let me win.

 

Something that I was taught as a kid...

What's the worst thing that can happen? They might say no? Aw, diddums.

 

My mom always says that to me, I guess I never learned it :tongue: