suffering depression, only getting worse.

Discussion in 'Mental Health' started by roxynesss, Apr 8, 2008.

  1. roxynesss

    roxynesss Member

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    hello all. i've been suffering from depression for about 9 months now, and it's really starting to take a toll on the people around me, especially by boyfriend (almost a year and a half together). i can't take it anymore, and he's now sending out messages like he can't continue to be with me anymore because it's taking a toll on him, and how he really thinks i need to get on medication for it because if i don't he doesn't know if he can stay with me.

    i kind of understand his situation, because he's been with me ever since i first started experiencing depression, through many late night breakdowns, crying every single day, me getting yelled at daily by my schizophrenic mother, me threatening to kill myself, and ultimately me ending up the mental ward for a night. i really need some help, but i'm not sure i'm really ready to go into the whole medication thing. i am supposed to be getting prescribed medication next week for my social anxiety, but i don't know if i should do that still or not. i tend to overdramatacize it for attention because all i crave is attention. it kind of what i'm used to know from him because he gave me so much attention when the depression first came on, but now i'm kind of being dramatic about everything.

    yes, i am exremely depressed with legitimate reasons (can't live at home, unable to get a job, social anxiety, paranoia, father disowns me, aunt constantly judges and down me and my life.. calls me ugly, etc, and having a paranoid-schizophrenic mother takes a toll on me)

    please help me figure myself out, how i can fix things naturally or some suggestions on how to handle my baggage. i'm tired of feeling so lifeless and uneasy everyday. i just want to be happy and satisfied again, and him to not give me messages like he's going to leave me for this.
     
  2. fibre1

    fibre1 Banned

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    Hey, I've been through very bad times, if you could see through my eyes you'd see. I understand where you are. There are ways to get rid of this depression. Try taking rhodiola rosea in the morning and 5-HTP in the evening. This will help! You'll have to be patient and let your body adjust, but you'll see improvements by one week at least, and over the next few weeks after that you'll realise your depression has gone! Trust me, this will work. You'll still have all the problems in your life, you'll just be able to look at them from a more detached perspective, and have the mental stability and strength to cope with your situation over the short-term, and change it for the better over the medium to long-term. Feel free to PM me anytime I can be here to support you. :)

    Rhodiola rosea and 5-HTP together are MUCH stronger than (most) prescribed antidepressants and don't have the side effects of SSRIs, TCAs, MAOIs, etc. Just becuase they're not prescription-only or controlled drugs doesn't mean they're not effective or strong - they are! Only the MAOIs are stronger than RR.
     
  3. haha_uwish

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    I have had depression for about 3 1/2 years now. I've been on different medications. Some of them have worked but most of them have not. I really hate the fact that I'm on medicine at my age, but they really do help me most of the time. I have my off days, but I'm doing better. I suggest going to a psychologist...that can really help alot. I hope you get better. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here.
     
  4. stalk

    stalk Banned

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    exercise.
    eat good.
    love stuff.
    simple.
     
  5. soaringeagle

    soaringeagle Senior Member

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    try everything else before u try medications

    the medications can have theyre own huge set of dangers and problems

    you know roughly what causes the symptoms dont you?
    thats where u should apply trewatment, not to the symptoms..to the cause
    moms a dificulty thats hard yes, shes got her own mental issues that arent fair to you but you have yto accept and help her thru..
    but all the rest, that is stuff you can worlk on together..with or without help

    feel free to talk to me as well if youd like

    you got alotta suport here

    if yoiu think the depressions purely clinical or would only benifit from a clinical approach try fibre's idea b4 thinking meds
     
  6. soaringeagle

    soaringeagle Senior Member

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    well said..but


    sometimes its not easy to remember the simple things when things start feeling so complicated
     
  7. stalk

    stalk Banned

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    Amazing, huh?
    I totally agree.
     
  8. MovedOn

    MovedOn Senior Member

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    psychologically disconnect from the people that don't provide beneficial relationships. Even if it's your mother, father or aunt.

    just by the little you said, it seems to me your boyfriend is prolly the most caring and respecting and loving to you? Or am I wrong? Certainly don't jepardize real love by having to absorb psychotic or negative energies from your parents or relatives. If he provides the energy and feeling you most enjoy being around and that you believe you most need. Then work with it. Don't associate with your mom, aunt, dad. Follow the positive energy, pay no attention to the rest. Don't feel like you have to associate with someone just because there a relative, really old friend, or anything.
     
  9. haha_uwish

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    It's really not that easy...Depression can be caused by a chemical imbalance and you can't fix that by exercise and eating well.
     
  10. owlchemist

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    Actually, you can.

    Sometimes when you've hit rock bottom its hard to believe that thers a way out. But there is. I can promise you that. And its a hell of a lot easier than you think.

    Learn to meditate. People underestimate the power of "chilling out" and just letting things happen. You don't have to sit there cross legged chanting or any of that shit - go for a walk! notice your breathing, fresh air. Put on some music that brings back good memories. It really is as easy as that.

    Then whenever you start to feel bad again, do what worked last time.

    Everyone has there preferred method. I normally just grab my mp3, put on some ambience/chill out music.. and go for a walk. Within just a few minutes you'll begin to feel more free & serene. Just the simple act of braking a habit works miricles.

    If you need to talk to anyone drop us a pm. I used to have severe social anxiety to the point that I secluded myself off from the world. Things used to play over and over in my head, litrally driving me 'in sane'

    Just letting stuff off your chest works wonders. And don't feel like your throwing your burdens onto others. Its actually the complete opposite. People feel better knowing they are needed. Thats what we live for :)
     
  11. fibre1

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    When you're at rock bottom it's virtually impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I've been close to killing myself. When you're in that black hole you have no energy to get out ... so you have to make the energy and force yourself out. It's extremely difficult to begin with. To get your brain chemistry back to normal you NEED to exercise, eat healthily, take vitamins - B-vitamins especially, and take 5-HTP and rhodiola rosea. If you do all of this you will improve after a few weeks. No-one is going to come along and wave a magic wand and take your depression away. As Owl said, music and meditation can be very helpful. I like to chill out too ... but too much chilling out gets me extremely bored! So try to find a balance between activity and rest. Balance is the key to happiness - being manic is just as bad as being depressed. Good luck with everything, we are all still here, and if you want to get anything off your chest to me personally there's nothing that would shock me, and I'd never judge you or anyone. Anyone feeling depressed can PM me. :)
     

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