Feelings for OPPOSITE sex

I was just wondering how everyone FEELs about the opposite sex. I have this attraction towards girls, but its not nearly the same as the attractions for guys... its just a different kind of feeling I guess, and I am not sure which is the "right one" for me, so to speak, so I wanted to hear how you guys felt.

Thanks and
Peace.

 

I love hanging around girls when they are not hormonal.

Under 25, most of them arent about the sex, or should I say sex to land a husband/make babies, so they are G-rated fun.

If they get into their 30s still without child, geezus christ, They are like the Gay Kryptonite, although some of them get into that mode from teen years. Either way, hormones make them go nuts. Hormones makes guys go nuts but only in that 15-21 yr range, and only really about sex, with girls it affects all emotions.

As for my sexual attraction to girls, or lack there of, its the eyes if anything, doesnt matter how pretty, you look into their eyes and you either see the little girl that is to be taken care of, or the girl that just wants to be a mum in which case I'm not the guy for that. Its never really just about wanting to have a good old shag, and if it is well doesnt really matter, gay sex is ten times hotter.

After saying all that though, Thank god for Women, sometimes I just need to hang out with the girls, they think more like me than most guys. Gay and in my 30s, the most negative aspect for me is the dwindling supply of calm female friends

 

to the poster above...YES!!

except for teenage girls and me as a teenage boy.

the thing is, as I get older I imagine most if not all sexual relations, and even kissing, to be for guys. It's just hard to really want to do it with a girl for me...but at the same time, I do have a desire for a girlfriend. Not a kissing buddy or anything...just an emotional attraction. And eyes mean a lot for me when it comes to girls...

 

i have that emotional attraction too, and when I see a hot girl i think "Damn she's hot" ... but thats it. When I see a guy, "Damn he's hot" and all sorts of feelings and thoughts flood my mind

 

I have many great friends who are female.

I'm not interested in pursuing anything other than friendship though.

 

Oh man my attraction is wierd, i dig women in porn, but when i actualy get down with a girl all i want is out and to be with a man, is wierd. i like women, as friends but not much more.

 

I have heaps of female friends, but when it comes down to liking them anymore than just friends...no way. I just don't like females that way :S

 

Straight guys are driven by both sex urges and paternal instincts (picking a girl on baby making ability), The paternal instincts are hard to see when they are young as its all disguised by sex urges, but when they get older you get to see it.

Thats the difference between pretty and sexy. When its all about the pretty, like supermodels, its about the pretty face and flat chested slim figure to hint to the guys what a daughter turned out by that girl might look like (although that body shape is also closer to a slim guy) Whereas sexy is more about curves, like the big busty girls in straight porn.

So if you think of it as a scale, some straight guys are 80% sex driven, 20% paternal; some are 50/50. Then gay is when its more paternal: 10% sex driven, 90% paternal, or even 100% paternal.

Gay doesnt mean you dont have paternal urges towards girls, doesnt mean you dont look at pretty girls and think how cute the kids would be, just that that sex drive isnt really there or never really strong enough, or only is ever strong enough for a bit of experimentation in teen/early 20s years.


Also Physical attraction is a lot more subtle than a lot of people seem to think, boy parts in the girls can catch your eye, wide shoulders, still having small hips later on, even short hair can throw in a dose of confusion. Anyone seen Jessica Biel in the movie 'Stealth'?, It's like someone put boobs and a girls head on Shwarzenegger.

Its why the Gaydar thing works best for small slim effeminate guys, or big beefy guys. The small guys see that recognition in some guys the way they might look at a girl - thus more likley to be straight. The big beefy guy sees which guys look at his arms in a certain way.

I'm a big guy with pecs bigger than most, I'm well aware of the difference between the look that says "thats right, must get to the gym" and that zing when they see a girl part in a guy. If they give that zing look and look at my arms, I know that means they are gay or at least do have naughty thoughts on guys, if they just give that zing look with my chest, and they dont look at my arms and then try hide that look, I know that means straight. A lot of straight guys do that. Although I wouldnt tell them that

 

men are strong and lovely yet try to control me as i am independent of spirit, yet i ultimatly want to settle with a man as i love the feeling of a love between a man and a woman, they are strong and capable and i just feel this longing to feed them up - lol my motherly instinct always get me everytime lol
for me women are powerful and sexy and fwargh!- i spend most of my time out and about watching women as the ways they act is so darn interesting!, for example how they can capture a man by their smile or a wiggle and how easily they can charm!

 

Yes I agree, us beautiful ladies can use our feminine charms on handsome men!

 

Sometimes I actually question my homosexuality and here's why. I feel like I would have sex with a woman, but only in order to have a baby, which I suppose, is what sex is for anyway. It doesn't really bother me that much, but it makes me think.