A little advice would be nice

I just want to get the opinion of adults. My parents have always controlled where I go and how often, so it's not surprising to hear that I never went anywhere. Now I am 18 and they still feel that I have a curfew. I still have to be home. I want to move out. I have been asked by my boyfriend if I would like to move in with him. If I do, I will have a ride to school and work and such, and although I am 18, I'm afraid to because my parents may become bitter about it and choose to not speak to me.

 

You are an adult now in the eyes of the law, but it still will take a while for your parent's to get it. If you are still in high school then finish before you think of moving with your b/f, you have all the time in the world for that. Talk to your parent's about your feelings,( I know they won't listen,) but just maybe, they know you are growing up and can not hang on forever, but the thought of their little girl all grown up is hard for them, talk and give it a chance.

Peace

 

I have approx. 2.5 months of school left, so staying at home wouldn't be a problem, it's just that if I choose to stay at my boyfriend's house, they tell me how disappointed in me they are because I do not respect their rules, which is a lie, I do respect my parents, and I love them.

 

are they respecting you as an adult?
respect goes both ways
they wont respect you as an adult untill you take charge of your life and begin living as an independent adult

they may question your choices, but as an adsult you have the right to makre your own choices and they must respect those, they have no right to complain once your living by your rules

good luck

 

I really don't think they believe that I can be responsible, even though I'm going to get a job, I've got an interview but I've pretty much already got the job, so I don't understand why they can't trust me, even though I make it to school if I stay there.

 

they're probably just worried about what COULD happen. eventually they will realize that you're behaving responsibly, aren't doing anything to get locked up, aren't hanging around with axe murderers, etc...and they'll relax.

 

Be patient, and nonconfrontational at least until you finish school. After that you can talk to them about your concerns, as stated here. Ultimately, it is their house and you must follow house rules while staying there. If you plan on continuing your education, take that into consideration when making your decisions.

 

I have. I believe you guys have given me good advice, but this morning my parents kicked me out. So I don't even have to worry. That's another detail I keep forgetting. They kick me out all the time, only to throw tantrums (literally, they are tantrums) when I attempt to. I apparently left out one dish last night when I did the dishes, so this morning I was told I had to do it (at 6:30 in the morning) and I said no, I want to sleep, I'll do it when I get home, so my dad said "Pack your fucking bags, you don't know how to do anything right". I'm seeking proper advice from a school councellor today, so I am just going to tell her what has been happening and just listen to whatever she tells me.

 

And my education isn't an issue. If I move out, I have a way to and from school. In the morning I carpool with a friend of mine that works not too far from my house, so he drops me off in the morning and he gets off work about the same time I get to my parent's house off the bus, so he can pick me up and bring me home, so it's not like I will never see my parents again, I'll see them everyday before and after school. You would think that would reassure them but it won't. This morning my mom even admitted that she doesn't want me to move out, not even after I graduate, and there's no way to explain that I want to move out to her because she just doesn't listen.

 

I would say, fo your last few weeks at home really go the extra mile in taking initiative to do all your chores, and show extreme amounts of responsibility. Then explain to them your choice, and get them to recall everything you have done, that way even thought they still don't want you t move out, they will be slightly mollified to know that you can take care of yourself and whatnot. Good luck, do what is right for you, but don't break ties with your parents, they are important people.