How many times?

well lately my bf and i have been having less and less sex...i was just wondering how many times a day/how often you get it onnn with your significant otherr. if you dont mind.

 

Between 3-5

 

Are there any reasons you can think of why your having less and less sex? How often were you doing it before? How about now? Do you feel it's you that doesn't want it as much, him or maybe both of you? Do you do everything in bed that he wants? Does he do everything in bed that you want? How long have you been together?

 

yeah do you eat his jizz
and stuff?

 

If you are talking about having sex multiple times a day every day of the week for months and months, you will have a sore vagina before long, and his organ will also be in need of a rest. If you are talking about weekend sex, and you are apart during the week, then go for as many as you can.

I have been dating my girlfriend for over 3.5 years, and during this period we have had sex at least once a day, and usually more, with only a few days without sex when we were apart or one or the other was sick or excessively tired. But i understand that this is "off the charts" for most people, who as their relationship ages (and as they do also), sex once or twice a week, not a day, is more normal. You need to vary your intercourse positions, and experiment more to keep the mystery alive.

 

2-4

 

7-10 times a week with my GF of 2 years. Usually, we have sex at least a couple times a day on weekends and most weekdays. Some weekdays, its hard to get the time when we're both free and have the energy.

 

4-5 times a week, have you been together long ? if so you might be in a rut, is there an age differance, my chick is much younger than I am, and she keeps me very interested all the time, as you get older people grow accustomed to each other and you may start to take each other for granted, try something provocative spice thing's up, be spontaneous, don't just do the same thing all the time. get in a sexy mood and just jump him, see if that will work. And shame on you there are no ulgy towns in PA.

Peace

 

we've been together for about 15 months. we dont see eachother until the weekends and sometimes we go the whole weekend without having sex. i'm younger than him, but i just dont seem to keep him interested. and its not like i dont try spontaneous or sexy things. i dress up for him, i'll give him lap dances...and the whole jumping him thing doesnt work for my guy....i've tried it since so many people say they love it...he just told me he wasnt in the mood. like this past weekend, i tried to surprise him with me in a school girls outfit in the middle of the afternoon because its something that normally doesnt happen...and while fooling around i could tell he was just doing it not to disappoint me....i dont undderstand what is wrong. he doesnt like to talk about it because i do try... i just dont know how to pick things up, because i'm a very sexual person and this is bringing me down.

 

believe me i try to vary things...and i only see him on the weekends so i try to give a little extra....but he just is losing interest...we recently just went a whole month without sex. i dont know what to do to fix this problem.

 

Hmm, it sounds like you're doing a bang up job of putting effort into the romance. Please don't feel like this is a fault issue, because it isn't. Blaming either yourself or him will only be counterproductive.

Anyway, I see several possibilities:
1. The lack of sexual desire cold be a manifestation of problems elsewhere in your relationship. You should evaluate how you're relating to eachother lately, what has changed since he was interested, etc. I'm not saying this is the case, but it is a possibility that he is not satisfied with how the relationship is going in other ways and it is interefering with the sex.

Also, after 15 months a rut is fairly common.

2. He could have some mental/emotional/stress related issues with weighting on him. Anything from work stress to fatigue to depression can hurt his libido.

3. There could be a medical condition. Many conditions can cause a lack of sexual interest. Medicines and drugs can also hurt his drive.

Anyway, it sounds like its not an issue of your "getting him excited." You should consider all these things.

 

ive been dating my gf for over 3.5 yrs and we're both away at different schools so we see each other on weekends when we both go home, usually we have sex once or twice over the weekend....i dont mind it b/c i really dont feel the need to go more than that, and we both like to make sure sex isn't the glue of our relationship....

over summer, when we see each other pretty much every day, we do have sex close to every day, but then we usually take a break from it for a while (few days or a week) just to entice each other a little more...

 

Currenly single but in the past on average, at least once a night on weekdays, WAY more on the weekends. It all depends on each others schedules and so on. If your together alot like on weekends, then the number should be pretty high. I can remember some weekends without even leaving the bedroom except for a quick shower. Just a full blown weekend of cuddling and sex, nothing else.

 

You seem to try very hard, please take this in the spirt it is meant, maybe he is just lazy and really not interested in sex. You have been together for 15 mos, not that long really, how was he before, did he instigate sex in the past or was it always you, and did you satisfy him even though you may not have been yourself, and is that the way it still is when you do have sex, he may just be selfish. I may be all wrong. But it is hard to imagine a man who is never in the mood, he must talk to you about it, it is not right to deny you just because he is not in the mood. Even if it is a medical thing and he is to embarrassed about it he can get help with that also. It is not healthy for your relationship to keep things locked up inside himself. He must open up to you.

Peace

 

See if you can find the calendar which shows 365 different sex positions, and then try to do that past week's positions on the weekend when you are together. This may stimulate your guy.

 

From my experience. You know he is not cheating on you. Watch him, him acting different. Men always act different and sex is one thing that gives it away. If you know he isnot cheating. Try new things is bed or different places. Go get toys or talk to him. ask what he likes and you tell him things you like.

 

I've been married for 9 years and we average 8-10 times a week. Sometimes we have sexs 8 times in a night, other times we may not have sex for 4 or 5 days.

The average for "healthy" relationships is 2-3 times a week, and the majority of people are content with it. It isn't just about having sex, it is about having good sex. I would rather have good sex twice a week than bed sex every night. Sex is an art form, and with enough practice it can be mastered.

 

i try to initiate new things but hes just not interested it seems. Everything you have said, i have asked about but nothing changes it. so i guess im out of luck.

 

id take good sex once a week. but it just doesnt happen.

 

is that even normal? i envy that shit.