Hey, everyone, I know I am usually posting advice on here rather than asking for it, but I need some guidance. I will try to make a long story a little shorter to save a bit of reading, and I do appreciate whoever takes the time to read this. I am very good friends with a guy, but we have only talked online and on the phone thus far. To summarize, I met him through a chain of friends (my two friends had a neighbor/friend who moved to another town in my state and made a bunch of other friends who all began to talk online to one another). Anyway, I eventually started talking to this guy and hit it off with him right away. We discovered we had a lot in common, shared the same beliefs, and just had a unique connection. Before I continue, let me mention this was a couple of years ago. I began to really like this guy, and I felt, or at least hoped, he liked me back. I eventually told him how I felt to find out he felt the same and was going to tell me had I not told him first. Time moved on, as in months, and we grew closer. He hinted at us possibly meeting up and such since we didn't live that far apart at all, which I eagerly waited for. All of the sudden, he got a girlfriend out of nowhere and brushed me off. I was really upset because he led me on a lot and kept hooking me with the possibility of us going on a date. It was a struggle for me, but I got over it and went on with my life. The next thing I know, he broke up with this girl after a while and came back to try to get things together with me. I cared so much about him that I didn't give it a second thought and tried to make it work once more. Again, the same thing happened--I was led on and brushed off out of nowhere. This time his relationship lasted a long time, and I was well over him after a while. He then broke up with her and told me the night it happened after over a year of us not talking to each other (this was strange, as we were always very close friends). He was extremely upset, and I was naturally there for him as his friend. We didn't talk for a while after that night, and then we gradually got closer over the course of a couple of months. He ended up telling me he always liked me, and I kept myself reserved a bit this time. I knew I still had feelings, but I didn't want to admit them because of the situations I kept putting myself in. Eventually, I knew I had to be honest with him, and more importantly, with myself. We have been growing closer ever since, and things seem very different this time. He seems genuinely interested in a relationship now. I won't go into all of thie details, but I can tell he is making an effort to show me he cares. My problem is that we still haven't met up yet, and we don't live far away from each other at all. He told me he wants to but is always shy about actually going through with it. I (as a terribly shy person) feel the same, but I am still willing to suck it up for the simple fact that I would do anything for him. I am getting a little nervous now about the whole ordeal, and my head is telling me I am a fool and that I should have forgot about him long ago, but my heart is telling me to continue to wait because I will always wonder about what could have happened if I had just stuck it out for a little longer. I feel I am getting so close but am still so far away. Truthfully, I am really confused about what to do. I ask you to please do me a favor and take a moment to imagine yourself in my situation and let me know what you would do: either keep waiting or just forget about it and move on before something stupid happens again and you feel like a dolt. I thank you all for your patience in reading this.
wait why are te only choices wait or give up? you say he lives close then get your asses together and see whats there otherwise you'll go on year after year wondering but never knowing
i agree with soaringeagle, you two have got to get yourselves together somehow, it doesnt matter how, just meet up for a coffee or go see a movie together- if you don`t give yourself a chance, you will always be wondering. if he is too shy to arrange a meet, just turn up unexpected and say hiii !
well from what i understand, youve done more than dropped a few hints for him to make a move. there is nothing wrong with you making the move instead of him, but if you do, you may end up in a relationship where you are always the one to act, while he just chills. so i think youre better off waiting to see what he does. if you took the first step and said you liked him, and he admitted he liked you too, its strange that you two arent together yet. but best luck to ya
Yeah, the whole situation is frustrating. I wanted to give him a chance because we could have ended up having something really great. I am not going to bother waiting around anymore, though. I feel like I am waiting for nothing.
well i dont mean to say close the book, but you should definately not keep yourself from opening new ones.
Hey, I know this is an extremely old thread, but I just wanted to say we did end up getting together and have been dating now for almost nine months. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I am forever grateful for it .
