I have had times in my life where i had a job, a good bit of confidence, was nice to talk to, was good looking, and had alot of promise. those times are long gone, and most likely wont come back. Looking back at all my relationships, i was always a poor comunicator, in my own world, at times not the best lover (although at times an extreemly good one) and its my general feeling that those women are all better off without me in thier life. In fact, i wouldnt want to have any woman be stuck with me for longer than two or three days. but i still think about women, still want to find one for me, or at least a few from time to time to share my company. but i know that i would be bad for them, a bit of a dead end if you will. I guess my question is, should i keep trying/looking, not so much actively searching, or should i just do us all a favor a go celibate for life? Anyway my details are: early 30s, no drugs but pot a couple times a year, light but often beer drinker, no kids, no diseases, no debt, very skinny, no marketable skills.
Rastapasta - A lot of guys with your credentials go on to have a successful life: Early 30s - you have a long way to go before you kick. No drugs, a little pot - what's wrong with that? Beer drinker - aren't we all? No kids - makes you a good catch - no child support. No diseases - makes you better off than say 50% of the population. No debt - also makes you a good catch. Very skinny - skinny guys make the best lovers, and you say that at times your lovemaking skills have been exceptional. No marketable skills - if someone with no marketable skills can become President of the United States, who's to say this is a problem? Give yourself some credit and get back into the mainstream of life.
rastapasta, if you keep on focusing on all the negative things about you then yeah, I'd say you're bad for women. You're also bad for your friends, family, anybody who cares about you. Oh, and did I mention that you're very VERY bad for yourself? Do yourself and the people around you a favor and start LOVING yourself. If you cannot even begin to do this, then no wonder the women you dated are better off without you. How can you love anyone if you can't love yourself?
