FireflyInTheDark it was the same for me too many many years ago. Even though I was not sure I enjoyed those days very much and would not trade those thoughts and memories for anything. Enjoy your youth don't worry.
Ok...guess what!! my best friend, the one i was talking about came out as bisexual today. while i know you can never really take her seriously...this is one thing i totally believe her about. we were talking and i didn't say anything about me because i don't want to come out if its not true (that wouldn't be right). but we were talking and it made me realized, combined with reading all of these forums, that i think everyone is attracted to the same sex a little bit, even if it is only a single physical feature and that now it is just a question of how much i am attracted to females. whether or not it is only physical, whether i can have a relationship with them...how much. Now i know im young and i dont know exactly what i want. i still dont know exactly what i am and i relize that imjust me and that i dont need a lable, but was wondering... i want to be completly open with at least my close friends for now, but should i bither saying anything? If i do what would i say...would i come out as a bisexual or bi-curiouse, or is it worth saying anything??? should i wait until i have figured out what i REALLY want. or should i say im bi and then go from THEIR to figure out if i can be in a relationship with a girl, or if its just a slight or strong PHYSICAL attraction. i dont know how i shold go about it, or if i should go about it at all. sry for dragging on again! thnx!!!
^^ that's cool! you seem like a pretty smart kid and i think you're thinking the right way about this. you don't necessarily need to label yourself one thing or the other, especially at age 13 -- but if this girl IS in love with you, of course you have to be considerate of her feelings. if she tells you in some way that she has a crush on you (and it seems from your first post that she might), i think it's best just to be honest with her about what you feel..so she doesn't have to be confused. p.s. i love your sig....is that from The Little Princess? (the first part)?
thanks, and I'm not sure about the signature... i think i just herd it somewher, its possible it is. And i'v been dropping hints kind of that im 'interested' in the gay comunity and that i might be bi. my only delema is that i dont want to say "im bi" but then find out that i may hardly be attracted to females and never want to be in a relationship with one. i dont want to have to "take it back" so to say. plus...i have never actually been in a total, more-than-a-month relationship with a guy. i think i may just be COMPLETELY honest with her and tell her about the whole not-sure thing too. that way she'll know that their is a possibility is she even really DOES like me, but not a complete im interested in only girls or just as much as guys thing. sry for babeling again but what do u think?
BIG HUGE E-HUG!!!!!! first off, don't ever let someone tell you that you're "too young" to be figuring out who you are!!! jesus christ, that's exactly what being 13 is about! and thanks molly for saying that too!!! when i was 13 was when i was figuring out that i liked girls too. not saying you do or you don't, but it sounds like you might. and if you do, great! if you don't, then okay, at least you know. but seriously... try it... you've got nothing to lose. and i personally don't think your friendship will get that wierd, especially if she's sure she's bi, or at least publically saying that she is. i had some wierdness with frienships when i came out as les. because i had messed around with some girls under the pretense of "we're practicing so we know how to kiss/etc. with boys... i went to an all girls school), and a lot of friends got pissed off and said i was using them, etc. but as long as you're up front that you're interested in seeing if you like girls, and she says she likes girls... experiment... it's fun! gahhh, i miss being young again. well, not really, but sorta! but for the specific advice... don't label yourself... unless you want a label, but i find them too constricting. i am lesbian, but i'm living with and sleeping with a man. but i'm not bi because it's only ever happened with this one man... no attraction to other men. see? neither label fits me. so i'm label-free.... but i got distracted. tell your friend you think it's awesome that she's figured out she likes girls. ask her about it, tell her you're interested in knowing about how she came to this decision. tell her it sounds kinda nice to kiss girls. say you're kinda maybe attracted to her, but you're confused, and you don't really know what you feel... honesty is always good! but big hugs to you for going through this tough stuff and not running away from it! you rock!
quote: "but for the specific advice... don't label yourself... unless you want a label, but i find them too constricting." see, thats exactly how i feel, that i don't need a label, the only reason is that if i wanted to come out to someone, would i say I'm bisexual, or at this point bi-curious? Also, i kinda do want to try and experiment, but I'm not sure if i would be able to...you know without chickening out and feeling awkward. thats my problem is that I"m never sure. I'm not the "first move" kind of person. thats also why when i imagine myself coming out, i can only picture it as if someone else brought up something that could be answered as yes or no.Yet another annoying issue with insecurity. thank you though, it does help a lot
awww... i know, it's really hard stuff. and i'm kinda the first move type of person, so it's a little easier for me. but i don't think you even really have to "come out" as anything. just be like... hey... lets share some secrets... you go first. she'll tell a secret, then you can say... yeah... my big secret is that i'm interested in this bi thing you're talking about, and i'm curious about it. that way, you're telling secrets anyway, you're in that kind of sharing mood, and you never know where it could lead!
