Before I begin my story, let me give you somewhat of a prelogue. I've had the same best friend for a few years now, and over the past 2 years I've started chilling with his cousin him too. Everything used to be all good. She would bring us on blunt rides when we wanted to smoke or when she wanted to smoke. We would usually match each other, or other times we'd just smoke each other up depending on who had green. Lately, like over the past year things have been changing a lot. The last time she even matched me was probably last summer. About every week, I spend at least 30 dollars smoking with my friend and his cousin. Its been pissing me off that she never throws down for anything. When I ask her why she never does, she uses the excuse of gas money. Well I figured the most we ever use is about 3 gallons, and her car gets about 30 miles to the gallon. Its probably even less than that. And if I round gas prices up to 4 dollars, its still only 12 dollars, which doesn't even compete with my 20 dollars a day of the weekend. She won't even give me a bogie if I ask nicely. But what has been really pissing me off is how when she has trees, she NEVER calls me, or if I'm with my friend she gives him an excuse to make me leave. Take for example yesterday. I'm at my friend's house and she calls. After that, my friend tells me that I have to go home at 12 because him and his dad have to do something. No big deal, I'll just get the money he owes me later that day. Well, when I get home I IM him. His brother answered the message and told me that he was with his cousin. I call him later that day and ask him why he was with her and not his dad, and if he could get me my money today. His response was a mumbled bunch of words, and the only clear thigns I could hear were "I'm tired, I'll come over tommorow". So now its today, and I called him and he is with his cousin again. Even last week, we slept over this chick's house and she brought me home first, and then I call my friend later to see whats going on for later that night, and I find out that he's doing shrooms at the chick's house with everyone else that was there the night before, except me. The same exact thing happens every weekend. What should I do?
I have no problem with my best friend. He throws down at least once a week, and he throws down 20 too. Its just his cousin is turning him into a grade A asshole.
don't worry about shit like that. different people have their own lives to tend to. i don't care if people want to hang out, but when they're ALWAYS calling wanting to hang out or to put some money on a sack or even smoke them out i'm never interested in dropping everything im doing to go chill with them. and when that happens they think im the worst person in the world. this might be whats happening with you and your friend. sure they like chilling with you and smoking with you, but that gets old and people need space. so don't feel bad if your friend doesn't want to hang out with you all the time, and don't let it show either. find something else to do, let yourself know you don't need them to have a good day, respect their decision even if you don't agree with it. try calling up some other friends to see if they want to throw down on a sack or something, maybe call a few girls, just do something instead of mope about your friend having other friends. he'll pay ya back dude, don't trip.
i realize everything you said, and its what i've been doing for the past few weeks. we haven't even chilled that much during spring break. its just that we make plans, and then he goes and chills with his cousin who he chills with WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY more than me, and we don't end up doing what we were supposed to do until way later or till the next day.
IMHO, your friend sounds torn between both you and his cousin. his cousin sounds like a mooch/scavenger. not trying to cause shit. again this is my own biased opinion.
This is basically the truth. Except she has her own money. Its just for some reason whenever she buys trees she never has the decency to call me or anything.
i agree with what 40oz said, that kinda shit has happened to me and its easier if you just kinda let it go and find new people to chill with. sometimes when people first start hangin out they enjoy the other people a lot so they start chillin all the time. eventually people get to comfortable with eachother and get annoyed with eachother. find other people to chill with for awhile, at some point they'll want to hang out more. that was more directed towards the dudes cousin, not him...
I know exactly what your saying. I believe it has already happened between him and his cousin because every fucking day they fight over dumb shit, but then get over it, and end up getting into bigger and bigger arguments. Its really stupid.
