Are you still single? My thread on advice to get a new boyfriend/girlfriend.

Dont fret if you cant find a partner! First things first we have to come down to the core subject, everyone goes for looks first before getting to know the personality. Thus popular people with good looks like Vanessa Hudgens or Orlando Bloom will have endless streams of people wanting them.

But all is not lost, if you are above-average,average or even tethering to the bad-looking side, you still have a chance. Look at all the superstars photos before they got famous, they are the average you-and-me before becoming sex goddesses after professional styling.

Would you should do is get a nice haircut, dress nicely( get a range of nice fashionable clothing, be neat. More importantly be sociable, enjoy what you do and have fun. Guys/gals like to be with fun people, people that enjoy what they do.

Also test your flirting skills, dont go overboard though. Just maintain eye contact for a longer time, touch his hand, talk to him more often, smile. They are bound to be some people to be interested.

One very important advice, most people complain about is no opportunity to get to know the opposite sex. They go to school/work, come back straight home. The next day, go to school/work and come back straight home again. If your whole life revovlves around work and home I can see why you have trouble finding a partner.

Getting a boyfriend/galfren, there are many ways. He/she can be from your school/workplace, from pubs/party, through friend gatherings,church, or from other activities you like to do( For example if you like music, you can join a band, from there on you will get to know more people in the music circle and some of them are bound to be good lookers! ), you can meet even through online!!

Just think of all the possibilities of meeting people, and apply it to reality. Though I would advise extra caution in meeting people from online.

keep in mind, any guys/gals arnd ur age are potential candidate for being your partner( though please keep high standards, dont go for any person just for the sake of it). It can even start from something as trival as a complete stranger you pass in the park everyday at 5pm. Maybe one day you decided to break the ice and say hi, stop for a chat( like why does he pass the park every 5 pm? He responds coming back from work, then u can probe more abt his work to know him more), exchange numbers and the rest is history after you ask him out on a date.


After I applied my method, ive got to know more guys after being single for awhile, ive started going out on dates and stuff but havent maked a choice.

hope u guys/gals can find love through my method!

have a nice day!

 

I am 28 yr. old. I am single after being with someone for 11 yrs. I am kinda liking this. Don't have to answer to no one or tell them where I am going, who am i going with. I just GO. I love it. I have not started to date. I just want friends right now because I have none because of my past relationship, I had. I have met a few and maybe start hanging out with them. Everyone one ask are you afraid of dating again. I said NO. I have alot to offer someone. So when it happens it happens. I will let it find me until now. Thanks for some advice of the dating. Good luck

 

too bad your in florida, you and i could keep each other company. Break-up pals...

anyway yeah i like what you had to say good advice all round. just got out of a six month relationship so this stuff should help thnx.

 

Opportunities lies everywhere. True that

 

The best way to meet people is to be outgoing and make an effort. However that being said too many people spend all their time 'looking' for someone, when you really should be focusing on yourself.

I have found that the best opportunities present themselves when I am putting in the time to better myself.

Excersizing regularly, taking an extra minute or two infront of the mirror to look good when you go out works wonders, having a positive mindset is what its all about. Looks merely get you in the door, of course everyone has standards and has a basic idea of the type that they are looking for but I believe that you should always try to be the 'best' version of yourself.

I see way too many people that are down on themselves, wondering why they can't find someone, and that negative self attitude can be a self -fullfilling prophecy. Of course no one is perfect and everyone has a day or two where they may feel at odds with the world.

 

ummm...shouldn't you just try to be yourself and what if i don't want to go get a haircut or buy a new wardrobe, hmm? i mean, i'm pretty sure that there are people out there who are just too busy being themselves to worry about having to live a lie just to get someone to notice them. that's terrible.

 

I'm sorry you just went through a break up...
You should never have to report to somebody...if you are dating or not. There shoul be no control factor in a relationship..just living in harmony.
I hope you find somebody that you can have that special bond with.

 

I had a friend that always complained that no one ever noticed him when he went out, and he dressed like a slob and looked like he bought stuff at K-mart, he never wanted to put forth the effort to do anything for himself to make himself look more appealing, and he always wanted the most attractive women too, common sense should have came into play at some point but some people just don't get it, he could have dated someone who didn't care, but they obviously were not the most attractive ones around either.

Thats the way the world is though, you don't have to necessarily be wearing something you bought at neiman marcus but no one wants to be with a total slob either.

Its more about mindset than anything, doing good things for yourself can give yourself more of an edge because you feel good and look good, there is nothing wrong with that.

 

well, yeah, but...for those of us who don't dress like "slobs" and feel halfway decent about themselves, i don't think that we should have to lie to ourselves. =]

 

Hahaha.. sorry, I know this thread is well intentioned, but becoming someone you're not just to attract men/women is completely the wrong way to go about it.
Know why all the "pickup tips" books say Be Yourself? because it's the only thing that works.

Sure, by dressing to attract people who focus on looks you will attract one eventually, but is it really going to be a great relationship? I doubt it.

Love the way you look, cause honey, it ain't gonna get any better.

 

X2

 

THAT'S WHAT I WAS SAYING! hahaha. =]

 

Haha yeah.. but I phrased it succinctly

 

Well, it's obvious that there are at the very least, two types of people that we've noticed in this thread. Those who are okay with changing themselves to recieve rewards from others, and those who go with what they are, sometimes resisting change, and get the same rewards by putting in more effort in other areas. People can be attracted by factors other than looks. Competence, for one.

 

true. i guess we are a team! haha, no one can understand me and everyone can understand you, it's perfect! =p

 

Indeedy-do... those of us who focus on meaningful contact rather than one night stands tend to value other things besides looks. There's three "levels" of attraction, in my experience:
- Physical: looks, clothes, makeup etc., the whole shebang
- Mental: becoming attracted to someone for their mind, their conversation, personality; looks may be a secondary focus, but definitely not the main objective.
- Emotional (or "spiritual" if you like it better): "just clicking", "love at first sight", generally a quantum leap above either of the other two, you KNOW when it happens, it's unmistakeable.

 

i know that the one i look for the most is mental. If you can't have an intelligent conversation with me...then you are not worth my time.

 

True dat =D

No conversational ability = not attractive. Hence why I rarely go in clubs.

 

"WHAT?!" "I CAN'T HEAR YOU, THE MUSIC!"
that and "omigod, i just love __Enter superficial shit here__!"

=p

 

Ugh, indeed, indeed.. plus the music's crap as well!