Using My Dick to the Best of my Ability.

How do i do it?
i mean theres always the plain old random sex where its just like random u kno ahaha, but id like to learn techiniques how to reallly be GOOD at sex.

i got an average sized dick, and im sure i could use it good if i knew some tricks, lol tell me what u guys or girls think!

thanks

 

When I first lost my virginity I was under the misapprehension that sex had to be, logically anyway, no different to masturbation - after all, masturbation was just the simulation of a vagina with the hand wasn't it - So, upon penetration I began hammering away at the same rate as I would if I were masturbating as I believed I wouldn't stand any chance of reaching an orgasm otherwise.

Within a matter of seconds I soon learned from her cries for me to take it easy that this was not the way to go & the very first lesson I learned was to take each stroke as slowly & as deep as possible - at least until basic instinct begins to take control of each thrust as you begin to approach a climax.

During latter experiences I learned that good foreplay is just as, if not more important to good sex than the actual act of penetration itself. Being more than amply endowed, particularly in girth, I find that bringing the woman to orgasm before actually penetrating makes things easier & more pleasurable for her as it increases the level of natural lubricants.

Overall, though, I think the guiding rule to enjoying sex most is to focus on trying to fulfill the woman's needs, rather than your own. Try to read her body language & respond accordingly. This has the additional bonus that in so doing, the pleasure factor that you receive is also greatly increased as a consequence, both mentally & physically as the more the woman is satisfied, the more the vaginal muscles react which, in turn, pass on the satisfaction to yourself.

When it comes to sex, it most certainly is far better to give than to receive.

 

Hebrewnational - Pine Man's advice is good - it is much better to give than to receive when you are making love. After maybe 10,000 experiences, involving over 20 women, here are my views on the best techniques:

1. Get to know her, through school, social club, etc., in a nonsexual way.

2. Listen to what she says, and be interested in what she is interested in.

3. Create a romantic environment - a dinner date, a movie she wants to see, not one you want to see, buy her flowers (a real winner).

4. Find a private place to make love to her (not always so easy when you are 19), put on some romantic music, dim the lights (guys like to see what they are doing, girls want it dark).

5. Start out with a lot of foreplay - kissing, genital stroking (most guys treat a woman's clitoris like their penis, and really stroke it hard - be soft and gentle with the little clit thing). And get to know the female equipment -most females have their genitals starting at their public bone and going below it, so that it is pointing down, not out. Guys often miss the clitoris, since you are feeling for it in the dark, not looking for it. Have her take your hand to it if you are having trouble, and ask her how she likes it stroked - most women like a light circular motion around it, not directly on it, because it is extremely sensitive (much more so than the head of your penis). There is also a clitoral hood (much like the guy's foreskin) and some women do not like it retracted when the clit is touched, and others don't care.

6. Make sure her vagina is well lubricated with KY jelly, "Silk" (really good), and use a lubricated condom.

7. Start out with the missionary position - she is face up, with a pillow under her butt, with legs spread. You are between her legs, without your body crushing hers - have your legs supported by your knees, and your upper body supported by your arms.

8. If she likes it, kiss her, on the lips, neck, ear lobes, and nipples before you enter her, and while you are inside her.

9. Go slow with the strokes - try "sets of nine" - eight shallow thrusts, then one deep one, to the hilt, then seven shallow and two deep, then six shallow and three deep, etc. until you are doing nine deep thrusts. Then do another set. And another.

10. If you have problems with premature ejaculation, as most young guys do at first, check out my thread on Premature Ejaculation in the Sexual Health Forum in "Love and Sex".

By all means, talk to her as you are having sex, asking if she likes what you are doing (often better to do this after the first time, which usually is a slightly awkward and not as pleasant an experience as later on, when you have gotten to know each other's bodies and sexual experience levels. Most women are less experienced than guys, and many expect the guy to take the lead. (I was lucky - when I was your age, I spent a week with an older woman (28), who taught me everything and anything I ever wanted to know about sex, and I have put the teachings to use ever since.)

One other thing - before you get going with oral sex, intercourse (unprotected, if she is using birth control methods), etc., you have to disclose each other's sexual history, to make sure you are not going to get an STD from the other. This is an unromantic thing, but today it is necessary to do. Some adults, before they couple up, go jointly to a doctor to get tested, and show each other the results before they hop into the sack. From other posts, I note you are circumcised, so you have a 50+% less chance of having an STD than an uncut guy, but still have your package checked out if you have had any prior sexual experience.

You are just beginning your sexual adventure. It is a wonderful journey, but do it responsibly.

Follow these techniques, and you will become one of the great Hebrew lovers.

 

Even the dumbest among us has fucking figured out..

Have fun and take your time.

 

lol REALLY? the sets thing where u count the strokes and shit is well known? like its common for ppl to do that? i had no clue, i never heard of it hahahah Wierd.
so it really works huh? ppl last longer that way?

 

What does Demistar know? - she's not a guy. I have taught the "sets of nine" to many guys, and they have reported back that it works really well. Not only does it focus your brain on the counting, but it builds expectation in the female for the deep thrusts. The vagina is most sensitive in the uppermost three inches, so the short thrusts are really stimulating for her and less so for the guy, which helps him last, and the deep thrusts are always sensual for both parties. Check out my thread on Premature Ejaculation in Sexual Health.

 

It's true, I'm not a guy but I am on the receiving end of the thrusts & have had sex once or twice.
Cutted how do you know all women want a counted thrust pattern?

 

counting strokes????? wtf?????


dont do that in fact stop thinking completely stop thinking about your dick just enjoy being together pay attention to her
her breath alone should provide the tempo if u count strokes youd fuck it all up entirely your mined wioll be on numbers not moans



your mind must be on her not in your head

if you want true skills tho study tanttra both sides of tantric yoga

but dont think about using your dick to its full potentiial think of usiur heart and mind..
..and energy..

 

Pay attention to your partner.
Thats all.

Omg,sets of nine.That is seriously fucking ridiculous,the simple fact that very woman is different ,and likes it different ways should show you the basic error of that. Counting how many strokes,I guess that'd be effective if you worry about premature ejaculation,but otherwise it sounds distracting and unenjoyable...and if you are worrying about counting how the fuck are you concerning yourself with what your partner wants needs and enjoys? which is what is of actual importance.

--and no i don't have a dick,but my hubby does,and I am damn certain he has never counted strokes.Thank the sex gods!

I will say i had a BF that had a similar "method" for everything.Roboto boy was NO FUN.

 

All I know is it works well for me and the women I have been with, and the reports I have gotten back from guys I have taught it to have been that it was really great.

Think about it - do you, as a guy, just want to do random strokes in and out, or do you want to do it with a little style, first slow, then faster, and faster, then slow, then faster, etc., then shallow, then deep, etc. What do you think makes great lovers? It is guys who listen to their partners and do what pleasures them the most, which in turn reflects the pleasure back to the guy, and makes his pleasure more intense.

If you just want to masturbate inside a vagina, wham away until you get your rocks off and then roll over...

 

Quite a leap between mindlessly masturbating - and counting strokes. I am sad for you and your partner(s) if you can't see that

 

so u guys are sayin countin the strokes is retarded? lol i thought it wasnt the smartest thing i could do in bed, i mean it might help me keep it up for longer...considering i havent had sex millions of times haha...

so what do u guys suggest i just wait for the right moment were we're both messin around and just go from there, and not worry about how long i last, or how good i perform?

...what if the girl im with never really talks about sex, and never really trys to have actuall sex, but we mess around plenty and we make out a shitload lol and like do everything but actual "sex sex" and everytime i try to have sex with her shes like kind of wiered about it. i dont think shes "not ready" for it, b/c shes about 3-4 yrs older than i am (about 22yrs old).

 

I want my partner to listen to my breathing, heart pounding, moaning, my whispering in his ear not counting. If you are counting how can you be in tune with her needs/wants?
Do you use a clicker for this?

 

A clicker, and a timer.And a buzzer for when sex is over.
and only on friday nights in missionary position..
Anything else would be mindless masturbation

 

Im doing physio for my shoulder and have to count rep etcs while grimace in pain!! I dont think for most people doing reps is it. I usually try to delay my orgasm but that is usually because I want my partner to enjoy it longer. I think that people just need to listen to each other in life and in the the bed! By the way Baby Hellfire your partner is a lucky guy.

 

Thanks.

 

You don't count out loud - just in your head. She probably will never know.

 

I'm 49 years old and I realized 30 yrs ago that its all about make her happy...listen to her,,,talk to her, pay attention to every move and breathe she has. Forget about how many times you going to move left move right, up down,,save that shit for the gym..

 

couldnt have said it better myself. if you learn anything, be cool with foreplay and lots of it

 

Really it's better not to overthink it. Just go with the flow and get to know the other person's body. When it feels right to speed up or slow down, do so. Pay attention to her expressions, any hand movements, or what she says. Do what feels good for you too.

It really depends on the woman. Most of us orgasm through clitoral stimulation, so as she gets more excited, leaning forward in that area is better. I've been with men who never do that and it's beyond frustrating because it's so much harder to get off. The man I'm with now is the smallest I've been with, yet he's the best simply because he always seems to know how to hit that general area.