I've been dating my boyfriend 2 years. the first year was bad for us. I hated his friends, and I made it known. I was a bitch I will admit but they treated me bad too. they hated me, I hated them. I moved back home, we both grew, and I am a completely different person. I am nicer to people, I am happier, I treat my boyfriend better, and I am not that girl I was the first year. the problem is, those friends still hate me and I hate them. they haven't changed, they are still bad influences on my boyfriend, but luckily they dont influence him. I am polite when I am around them, but I try my best not to be around them. I guess when Im not around, they make comments about me and it got to the point where about two weekends ago, my boyfriend finally freaked out. he told me this last nite drunk, but he said that someone said 'well at least Im not like b.' and he said 'what you say?' then he freaked out and said they dont even know me, they dont give me a chance, and I've changed. he stuck up for me. but I dont get why they still feel the need to diss me and in front of him. I never see the guys anymore I just want this drama to go away, but Idont even want to see their faces. these guys have caused nothing but problems between my boyfriend and I. and he's cool bout not making me hang with them, he knows how I feel and how they are. but I can tell it kind of bothers him we dont get along. what do I do, from a guys perspective
you reap what you sow. You say you've changed but what have you done to make amends with his friends? If you've done nothing then why should they think you're any different. You created this problem so take the initiative and solve it if not for your peace of mind then for your boyfriend cos he's still regarded as the guy going out with the difficult woman, just being polite only takes you so far. Unless you've been hoping he'll change his friends if so keep doing what you've been doing. Also If you've changed perhaps they did too.
Throw a party with the point of asking his friends, if as a group they are into something special make that the focus. Be as kind, nice, sweet, and gracious as you can be without throwing up. At some time during the party single out the ring leader and say "look I know we got off on the wrong foot but I'd like a second chance, lets start over", do it so everyone else can hear you. After that if they don't come around its on them, you tried. You do have your BF incommon with those guys they should make amends for his sake.
you should be so glad that he stuck up for you. your not with his friends, your with him. doesnt matter what they think only matters what he thinks and by sticking up for you like that he was being awesome ;p a lot of other guys would of shrugged it off or perhaps even agreed.
