How do I know if he's gay?

Long time reader, first time poster. Anyway, I've seen some other topics on here about this, but I didn't want to hijack anybody's thread.

A couple of months ago, I accepted the fact that I am gay. Since then I've told one friend, and while he hasn't told anybody, he has avoided me since.

What led me to accept the fact that I am gay was an "experience" with another friend. It kind of just happened, and it felt so right. Neither of us really knew what we were doing, but he decided afterwards he would never do it again, because "if any of his friends found out, they'd kill him." I decided that I would pursue what I felt would make me happy, regardless of what social pressures exist.

Well anyway, about a month ago I was checking out another student in study hall. We'll call him Chris. I knew who Chris was (he's in my grade, we've had a couple classes together before), and a couple days later I started a conversation with him. We talked about a bunch of things, and we kept talking the entire period (40 mins). One day, we were talking about jobs, specifically my job. I made up a story about how a guy at work was hitting on me, which I thought made a nice segue into the topic of homosexuality. Sure enough, it did, and he said homosexuality is fine with him.

Just when everything seemed fine and dandy, he got into an argument with the study hall supervisor, and was transferred to another study hall. (If you're wondering, it started because she wouldn't let him go to his locker a second time in the same period.)

So now I rarely see him, but I really like him. I don't want to make things too obvious, because I'm not 100% sure he's gay, but how do I move forward?

 

look behind his ears for red spotting Yes? No?
...then put some common table salt on the left baby toe.

Do you see you see the spotting now? Yes? No? ...Maybe?

repeat only once if an uncertain result happens to occur.

Dr. _K2_

 

He's gay if he likes men.

 

roll him in flour, if there is no wet spot then you're good to go!
unless he just came from the club...eeeeeeeeee!

 

Where do you get your facts from. Just cuz he likes men dosn't mean he's gay
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on a more serious note, rd2742, meet up with him on your own time. Chat, msn, cell

 

Maybe we should be more specific then:


He's gay if he likes putting other mens penises in his mouth

 

What these guys are trying to say , in their good humour, and this comes up alot, there isnt ne way to be sure. Some guys have gay tendancies that are visual or audiable, but others, like my bf, you would never guess is gay, ever.

If you want a chance at it, you gotta talk to the boy, sometimes making it obvious , will get you places.

 

Have you ever seen him posting in this forum, sucking cock, or tellin you he fantasises about men ? If not then he is either hiding it or else he is hetero. One thing you can do is wait till you are alone and casually say "Oh by the way, can I suck you off later this weekend when youre not busy "?
If he says yes he is probably gay, if he says no he is probably not gay

 

Well I am in the same situation and Am also at or around your age (17), and I really had trouble with this kind of thing before. I still haven't said anything to him, but I have my reasons. I don't think he is gay, but I do think he's bi. Well first thing you got to do is think of ALL the things that make you like him. After considering ALL options, then you should run by as many different scenarios in your head as you can. (Good and Bad), This can really help with a visual and mental aid. Finally role play these scenarios with a (close) friend, make sure they will be SERIOUS too! If you finish with all this and have enough confidence in yourself than here's how you do it... NEVER, just say "I like you" as an opener! Gently brush the idea that you have thought about being gay, until you find that you can't go around the fact that you are, and that you have to tell him. What you do next is based on his response. Let's pretend he's fine with that for now, you should make sure this won't affect your friendship with him, befroe pursuing. Now ask him his thoughts about it, don't leave the subject until you have to. This may cause him to tell you that HE is gay. If you never get him to say anything about it, don't be discouraged. If you can still remain friends with him, you will have more time to connect with him first, and maybe eventually he will finally open up to you!
BEST OF LUCK, :hug:
CHRIS (lol I think it's funny that I have the same name as him!)

P.S. Sorry this was SO long!

 

No way of knowing someone is gay unless you confront them with the question or they confront you with the statement. Otherwise people staying in the closet would be pointless 'cause there would be a way for others to notice your sexuality.

 

listen to your inner gaydar...it is usually correct!