just a question.....

Is it possible to fall deeply in love with someone, date them, break up with them, and then be completely and totally incapable of remembering why you were in love with them?

I don't have any issue with it, I'm just kind of weirded out by my own mind right now.

 

If you asked that in this forum to get a more objective view and are talking about a guy:

Girls maternal instincts can work on a very subconscious level, sometimes you can be drawn to a guy not know why, but its like your body and subconscious know what kind of guy might be good for later on as a future husband, father. But then he does something, or you see some behaviour from him that makes that subconscious change its mind. Guys are also ruled by subconscious paternal instincts, just that at your age its covered by sex instincts in them, so its hard to see.


If you've posted here instead of the Lesbian forum:

Well, I doubt that would be the case, you wouldnt say "then be completely and totally incapable of remembering why you were in love with them?" about an ex

 

i don't understand the second part of your post, i am talking about an ex boyfriend... but the first part sounds right..there must have been something happening on the subconscious level cause i don't know any other way to explain it!
sorry, i'm just so confused and mad at myself about this, and i had to say it to somebody.....
see, i fell in love with this guy, stalked him for about two months before finally telling him that i liked him, then we dated for about four weeks...and by the third week, i had pretty much started hating him..... now when i look at him, i cannot remember what it was about him that i loved at all....all my friends said i was crazy when i started dating him, because they couldn't see the appeal in him at all, and now i can't either.

but the whole thing worries me, because it seems like what happens over and over again is that i fall in love with someone, and i'm absolutely sure that i love them, but then i start dating them, basically i get exactly what i want, and then i lose interest. it's like i'm in love with the idea of being with someone, but once i'm actually with them, i don't care anyone. i guess maybe i just haven't found the right person, but, honestly, it really feels like love at first. gaaaaah!!!
it worries me because i really really want to get married and have kids someday. but i doubt i'll ever be able to actually find someone that i can committ to. and i'm sick of dumping people, i dont want to hurt anyone else. i feel like i cant trust my own feelings anymore.

 

Every girl has a baby making switch, for some it gets turned on early, but for most it gets turned on mid to late 20s. Doesnt mean they consciously want to have babies, but does mean urges change from smaller pretty boy types to more the footballer types.

When its most about babies for women they go by 4 main things, and these are in order:

1. Height
2. Strong dad look in the eyes, what you girls call the smouldering thing. Says the guy is in control of sex urges and is ready to be a dad
3. Beefy
4. Manly

You dont have to be attracted to all these qualities, for most it'll just be the first too, for girls with extra strong maternal urges it'll be 3/4 or all 4 things.

So depends what these guys look like, if its more about pretty boy for you at 18, then that switch hasnt been turned on and you may not be all that interested in commiting (subconsciously anyway). If its more about one or more of those four things, then the baby making switch is on and you havent found the right guy yet.

As I said, womens maternal urges are ALWAYS subconscious, you may be picking guys that are all 4 things, you're conscious mind is like "what the hell he's a dickhead", but for your subconscious mind its all about tall, fatherly, stronger, manlier, longer lasting sons you'll eventually get from this guy which will help you later in life and make all the other mums jealous