I've had a friend for 6 years. He doesn't live in the state anymore, but we still talk. But it's like, he's single with no attachments. And I'm married with three small children. Conversations with him are getting steadily more irksome. I don't care about your weed, for fuckssake! You got a wii, so fucking what? Gah. I think it would have been better had we just stopped talking. Then maybe I wouldn't slowly be hating him.
youve gone on two different paths, Its understandable. I have a friend who is all about baby and husband and the features on the mini-van. She isnt intresting anymore, its like she abandoned her old self. Every conversation leads back to her kid or her husband. Its quite irksome. Im happy for her, but its just dont care. we havent talked in months.
that's the way it goes, people take different paths. I would be sad though if I found myself unable to relate to my friends just because their lifestyle wasn't similar to mine.
Maybe he doesn't feel very good compared to you either. Maybe he's seeing his life as a bit pointless, or that you've done so much with your life, while he... Or maybe it's just the way it happened, the way each of you thought they liked to live. I'm 25, single, no kids... and sometimes I wonder whether it's the right way to live... although I'm generally happy with my life.
Eh, I have friends who's lives are completely different from mine, but we still hang out and share out new founds lives with each other.. It's interesting to see how people live their lives differently but how people can still be close and friends.. I mean I have a friend who talks nothing all day about going to strip clubs and going to bars, which is the complete opposite of me, but I love him dearly because he's a good person and we are friends.. And if I only were friends with people who's lives were just like mine, oh man, that would be pretty boring and not exciting at all.. Could it be that maybe you are mad or just a tad jealous of his life and that's why you don't want to hear it or anything..? That is just my opinion and what I gathered from your post...(and don't take that the wrong way, I didn't mean it to be mean or anything...)
totally. I don't want to hear about the exact same stuff that's going on in my life, I want different input, different opinions and experiences and views on life and the world. if all my friends were just like me, I wouldn't need them (or like them, probably.) good question. it seems to me like your friend wants to tell you about the things he does and enjoys. nothing wrong with that, atleast if he's interested in your life in return, and doesn't just shrug off your most-likely-interesting anecdotes about motherhood and such.
I'm 28 and not married and don't have kids, and I couldn't be happier. I chose to life my life the way I am living it, we all have have choices that we make and different directions we can chose.. Just live your life how you want and not of what you view is "right"...Eh, hopefully that made sense but probably not, so my condolences ...
Exactly... The people I am friends with, mostly all of them (haha the very few) they are all almost competely different from me. It's neat to talk to one other about our different views on things and our different thoughts. We have our deep conversations about life and they see it from my little mind-world and I see it from theres.. It's interesting.. But to each their own I guess, if you just don't want to talk to him because you are disinterested in his life than were you really friends to begin with...
well, if the way you want to live your life isn't how you feel would be the "right" way to live your life, then you might be due for some soul searching or something, because if you are happy, how can your lifestyle be wrong? shroomie, you continue to amaze me with your wisdom and insight. way to be awesome.
Why thank you kind gent ... At times I can be more than just a hairy warty mess..(but don't tell anyone..)
It's not that I'm jealous. I'm happy that he's happy with his life. I'm perfectlly happy with mine. It's just that I listen to him talk all the time about things that are important to him, but he never asks about my life. It's like ever since I got married and had kids, the subject of my life is off-limits. I can understand if he doesn't care about my kids or husband, but I don't care about his wii or his pot. It's a little frustrating that I try to take an interest in his life, but I feel I can't talk about the things that are most important in mine.
I know people who talk about themselves constantly, and I find that it's not that they don't care what's going on with me or don't want to know, it's just that they are at times wrapped up in their world and just go on for what seems like eternity but I don't think it's cause he doesn't care, I mean you two were friends, you could just start talking about your life or just be up front and ask him...
There's someone in my neighborhood who talks to me for two hours straight about her daughter. I listen patiently. Her daughter is precious and all, but two hours straight every time is a little demanding of me. When she was younger she would talk about various things. .
Not to say that I don't understand, but I also know you understand where he's at in life. Have you forgotten what it was like to talk about your weed and play tony hawk? I mean to me it sounds like jealousy, overall, on both sides of the equation. Part of the people who aren't settled and talking about mini-van features wants to be. For most, atleast. I wouldn't say it's like that for all. And many people in their first few years of parenthood still miss their former "freedoms" that they don't have the liberty to enjoy. People just can't be happy for somebody else who has something they feel they're missing, it seems. Not saying this is your case..... but I see it a lot.
