I want to be friends again ...

Okay, so I had this friend for three years and i could pretty much tell him anything. Well over the summer he got a girlfriend and when I talked to her over IM we were cool and everything. So when school started I greeted them both and I got a bad vibe from his girlfriend anyway. When I approached them she asked me what I was doing there. And I didn't think much of it, and so before I left, I hugged him. Later on that day, my friend tells me that she didn't like it when I hugged him. So I refrained from hugging him and everything and I even tried talking a little bit more to her, so I could let her know, I'm just his friend and I want to be her friend as much as his. But she acted as if she didn't want to accept me as his friend or her friend. So I started to hang around other people and one of them was this guy (lets call him Stan). And my friend and his girlfriend didn't like me hanging around this guy Stan because they had personal issues with him. And he tried to tell me that he would make sure I didn't hang out with him, so I got mad and told them that I was going to hang around whoever I wanted and why they were concerned because his girlfriend acted like she didn't want me around anyway.
So he gave his girlfriend my IM and she was calling me a dumbass and a slut and a bitch and harrassing me over my IM. So I blocked her and she just continued to harrass me over her other accounts. So it went into this blown out fight, with them picking on me. And I felt betrayed by my friend, because we were friends for three years and he only knew this girl over the summer. Mind you, it is October, so they were only dating for 4 months. And then he tried to say I was jealous and was trying to break them up and he didn't want anything more to do with me. I was hurt because I was really trying to be-friend both of them and I lost a good friend. At the same time I was pissed because they were seniors and I was freshman and they hang in the same group of friends as I hang with. So it's really akward hanging around my group of friends and having them being mean to me and giving me the cold shoulder. To make things more interesting, as the year progressed on, I'm slowly getting along with the girlfriend, but we still don't talk much. But shes nice to me. But I just want my friend back. We haven't talked for this whole school year over a stupid and immature fight over someone who I am not even friends with anymore. And the school year is almost over. How could I get my friend back and make ammends with both his girlfriend and him?

 

This might help :H


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Hotwater

 

It's a shame that girls act so catty and jealous and can't understand the concept that yes you can have platonic friends of the opposite sex.. I think it's sweet that you still want to be his friend even though he treated you this way, personally I wouldn't have even wasted the thought or time with him or his girlfriend until either him or her grew up some. His girlfriend has a low self-esteem and thinks of girls as threats rather than people (which is sad and pathetic).. Someone who has low self-esteem or is not confident with who they are or their relationship is bound to be a jealous person of other people. If you really want to talk to this with him you could always write him either a note or email explaining how you really feel and if he disregards it or doesn't come to you than he wasn't a real true friend in the first place and you are better off..

Good luck...

 

your friend didn't appreciate your friendship as much as you did. it is unfortunate, but that's how it is sometimes. you can only extend your hand so many times before you have to let him go, and let it be up to him to resume the friendship.

 

Tangled, my grandma told me this years and years ago, and it might be a good thing to think about now.

'When a man's involved, never let a jealous woman pick your path.'

I hope it works out, but it might be best to let him wonder where you went.

 

to me this all seems so grade schoolish i mean on their part you didnt do nothing wrong

 

I guess girlfriends can be like that sometimes, it's been a misunderstanding, and maybe the fact that she is being nice to you now is ok, perhaps you could talk to him too and try to solve things out.