Ok first i ask that no one say rude things about her. But here it goes. I met this woman almost a year ago on myspace. We started talking and i fell for her. Somthing I said i would never do. Anyway i had women friends on my page and she had a problem with it. I got rid of them all and only had her on there. We made an agreement that we would not add anyone of the opposites sex. I have kept that promise, but she found a place called yearbook and started adding male friends and i asked her not to. I know jealousy is a bad thing but she has it too it was her idea to not add to our page. She more or less told me that if i dont like it sorry but im going to do it. Am i wrong to feel the way i do and to hurt so much. I would like to know womens opinions on this. She says its control, and i told her no she had a choice me or to keep the men on her page. She chose to keep them and she has been able to access my page anytime and see i have nothing to hide from her. I have kept my word to everything. Your comments are apprciated Thanks Hurting so bad
shes hypicritical. controlling, and if that meand you have to leave leave. your losing a battle you can't win, and whether or not you say something and keep your word she'll be a vandictive bitch. (sorry) She wants to get her way and her way only. Put a pswd on your page, and see how jealous she gets and thats how childish she is. Is that what you want in your life? Thats your answer. T
I'm sorry but....... What is she, 14? That is absolutely ridicilous. Sounds like she's just playing with you, I wouldn't waste my time if I was you.
neither of you has the right to dictate who the other has as friends, especially on freakin internet sites
why don't you go out and meet some real people and have real relationships with him? the internet is a desease
I've learned not to date anyone who dictates what I do online. I find it silly if people try. It's a double standard that she's suggesting and that's not fair.
Thanks for the replies. let me clarify something here, It was her idea to do this and i did it for her out of respect, not to dictate anything. I thought the right thing to do was to prove that im not like one of the players on here like so many men are on the internet. I did what i felt was right for her i did not feel she was dictating what i was doing, just as if someone thats married on here and they have a load of friends that is nothing but the opposite sex. If their spouse seen that they have the right to be jealous. I know there are men and women players on here and some sincere but who knows with out proving it in someway. I did what i thought was right to prove im a man of my word. Thats all it was about and no more. She was the one that changed her mind and tried to hide it from me so am i wrong to be upset over it. Thats what im asking am i wrong to feel hurt like i do
you r not wrong and she is trouble. she is insecure and jealous. and when someone starts these types of games so early on it just spells trouble. seriously, get out while u can.
No, you're not wrong at all to feel that way. It was a mistake however on your part to agree to her wishes in the first place. You don't deny your friendships just to prove your loyalty to your lover. And I wonder how your women friends must have felt.
Isn't part of the point behind MySpace to have a ton of friends on your page? I could see her having an issue if you constantly talked to a specific girl, and weren't open about it. However to suggest you keep women off of your MySpace page, or to get jealous is controlling. Unless you have an exclusive and committed relationship (with a monogamy clause) neither one of you can "suggest" that the other person not chat with or "Friend" anyone of the opposite sex, and pout when you don't get your way. It is controlling, immature, and manipulative. It is cool that you don't want to be "like all the other players" but don't be a doormat either. What is good for the gander is good for the goose. Just say "oh, we're not doing a "gender ban" anymore, cool." (or some such remark) Oh, and fyi....you'll find a lot of female players too.
I'd just like to add that even if you do have an exclusive and committed relationship with a monogamy clause, it is not a good idea to say "don't have friends with anyone of the opposite sex". Okay, it's normal to feel jealous sometimes. But jealousy is an emotion that needs to be dealt with through reassurance, trust, and communication - not prohibition. To say "don't have friends of the opposite sex" is not normal unless you live in a society where segregating genders is the norm.
Personally, I fail to see how anything over the internet can be considered "love" How does anyone expect something like that to work? How can you trust someone you don't know? Without trust or without even knowing the person how can you develop a relationship? In my opinion, internet "love" is nothing more than fantasy. Please, if someone can shed some light on this subject, I would really like to know more.
Umm just had to get into this lol If you are respectful to another in repect to yourself as well....... If you feel your being disrespectfully treated Then follow your own Put your myspace your way Someone who feels the same ...will repect your space Now in relationships we generally share some space (some more than others) I use my space for family an friends basically kinda close knit but is nice way to learn others circles as well....... Not everyone uses myspace for same reasons Show respect for yourself.....so others can respect you that wish to
If you made an agreement that you would not add anyone of the opposites sex, then shes wrong doing it. Simple as.
