To sacrifice sex, for love.

See, I have a bad history of relationships. They all revolve one way or the other around, but not in the way you might think. I dont intend to make this story too long, but I will tell you how.

My first relationship, involved the conception of my son, two months into a heated and intensely passionate sexual relationship. We simply enjoyed each others bodies and never really thought beyond our carnal and addicting lust. I would have told you I loved her at the time, and it would have showed, but I never saw very far into the future then. And apparently she never saw very far into ours, ended up talking to a guy from england and getting married. All of which took place less than a year after my son was born.

My second, well it was a passionate and also brief, intense and emotional (at least for me), relationship with a beautiful girl I met after high school. It was short lived, but incredible.

My third relationship. Here is the big one, involved my reuniting with, and marriage to, a no less passionate high school sweet heart. whom I met before I even knew what love was. A brief and uneventful high school acquaintance re-ignited, resulting in a 7 year devotion of my life as a happy, and truly passionate, husband.

There was a catch, she had a very disturbing past that still haunted her. Preventing her from having sex, only emotionally however, as everything else was fine! My love for her, clouded any thoughts beyond love. For 7 years I devoted myself to her loyally, even though she could never consummate the marriage. I didn't care, I was in love, and would have waited for the world to start turning in the other direction. But she fell in love with somebody else, what was I to do? She has since ended it with this man, and we are still great friends. She is not totally to blame, as I know it was partially my fault in the end.

The fourth was little more than a one night stand, regretfully. And I refuse to ever do that again. Which has essentially left me stranded, in a world of instant gratification that I was unable to comprehend.

I have since come to terms for the most part, with my life. I want love, and as I have learned it is worth giving up these carnal desires. Please do not misunderstand, when I find love, true love, I will have plenty to give. But is it worth giving up my desires to find the real thing? I believe so.

There is a problem however, I am overflowing with sexual energy. My friend says its she can sense it, she says she can see it in my eyes. The way then glaze over with passion when I speak of being with a woman. I am a gracious man, and delightfully deviant, and always willing. She knows me well, and I would like to know her better, but I am scared to make the first move. And so is she, as her past has been more chaotic than I could imagine.

I think we both just enjoy each others company and don't want to sacrifice and sully that and risk it coming to an end, somehow. It's not that we don't trust each other, we just don't trust ourselves.

Would you give up sex, for true love?

 

True love...if it exists...is stronger and more powerful than any sexual relationship could ever be. The intensity and passion of sex often only lasts a short while, true love, however...lasts forever...in some form or another.

I've given up sex for love before...

It's amazing, actually.

 

It is truly inspiring when it happens is it not? Only draw back is that its hard to start over and its hard to give up, until you find it again! In other words; its the space in between love, where it can get rather lonely. When you are alone however, is the only time you really find your true self.

 

Holding out for it is worth it in the end.

 

in my mind , true love involve sex~

 

Though I don't entirely disagree; What if you were just head over heals in love with somebody but they were just incapable of having sex, for medical reasons?

 

i think once you find true love you have sex to take it to the next level and to feel more connected in order to be as one

 

hello dear friend,,,,,,WOW!!!! you know how much I love you...you are a beautiful man,,,what are you going to do,,,I would do anything for you ,,,,but you already know that...love you Babe....penny.

 

re read it ,,,,,fuck it zen,,,babe go for it,,,like I said love you....you need the love you deserve,,,just love you me....

 

Just checking back around to see how it went,,,hope you are o.k. you are always in my thoughts and prayers ,,,love Penny.

 

After 16 years of marriage and supressing my sexual energy for a cold woman, take it from me, Love and Sex go together. Don't get me wrong, the all night hump fests that a new relationship goes through stop, but the intesity of love make the sex better. Don't give up a part of yourself for anyone. Especially a part that is just nature and natural. You will regret it over time.

 

I agree with iriegnome, i wouldn't give up sex for love. That's what friendship is for, not 'romantic love'.

 

You cant be so naive that you're comparing friendship with love when it doesnt involve sex.

Sex is *A* way to show love for someone - but its far from the ONLY way!

How many of your friends do you kiss passionately? Im talking without the influence of alcohol, and without the hint of sex. Kissing is a great way to show your love for someone - and its definitely done in a romantic way!

I would happily give up sex for true love - you dont have to have sex to have an intimate experience - nor do you have to have sex to give each other feelings of pleasure. Theres so many ways around the obstacle of sex - but theres no way around the obstacle of true love.

 

If she can't have sex for medical reasons, can't she still give you head? Or in the butt?

 

And to think I thought anal sex and oral sex were sex! LOL

 

I mean, lol, I'd say they are, but what kind of medical reasons are we talking about? If there's something wrong with her vag, couldn't she still have anal and oral sex?

Or is it a psychological thing, like she has a history of rape or abuse? I don't want to seem like a dickhead, but it seems like that's something that needs to be worked out and fixed. I don't think I could have a relationship with someone who won't have sex because she has been raped before. I would stay with her and help her work out her issues and be open and gentle and loving and patient, but at some point...

Or am I missing something

 

No. You are right. I was having fun at your expense. Sorry.

You've also tested my limits on freedom. I normally favor all freedom, 100 percent, but PCP? dunno. Watch that stuff. Bad idea to use it. Same for LSD. Take it from an old head, and survivor, if you know what I mean.

 

i wud give sex up for love
but i beleive sex is important when your in love (although it aint everything)
hence the term, "making love"

 

To give up sex for love is called marriage .
After over 26 years of marriage we still have hot sex , just not often enough . I can make do in the hard times by myself , but a life time true love is worth it .

 

If anyone is still reading this thread, Jack23 is a lucky man. I have hot sex but with different women. Home sex is an obligation, not the fun it once was. Moreover, I think as you get older sex becomes less important. Jack may be about 10 years younger than I.