I've managed to put myself in a pickle that I can't decide what to do. I've been talking (just talking) to this girl which I find to be very attractive and but she seems to be a bit conceded. Just recently she started putting the moves on and accepted them with open arms, the only problem is that I have a girlfriend I've been dating for 9 months. I keep trying to reassure myself that nothing will become of it but I have a feeling the next time we meet it's going to lead into the bedroom. I hate to come off as a mindless asshole but this girl has got me by the nuts and has rendered me powerless. The only option I have is to break off the whole relationship with her because I do love my girlfriend very much. The only question I keep asking myself is will I regret this decision in the long run? I know I'm still young but when I do turn 30+ I want to say I lived life to the absolute fullest when I was in my prime. /personal relationship rant.
If you loved your girlfriend very much you woulnd't be welcoming advances from another girl with open arms. I'm sorry but that is TOTAL BS. Stop talking to this other girl, and tell your girlfriend what you've been up too. When your 30 sure you make kick yourself in the ass about not fucking this other chick, but at least you know that you lived a honest life and that you weren't another dude who cheated.
I agree with sarahrei on this one. It's normal to get crushes when you're in a relationship but you don't act on them unless you're not truly committed in your relationship. You can't have the cake and eat it too and all that... If you do choose to act on it and take it further with this girl, then do the right thing and break it up with your girlfriend first. And if you're worried about how much you might regret not just going for it, then think also how much you'll regret it if you cheat on someone you love and break her heart. Good luck.
do it, eat the pie and then go home and enjoy the cake! have fun, you only live once, enjoy both the women, the gf doesnt have to know
Some times you have to leave the thing your comfortable with to see what else is out there. That can come with regrets but the only person who can make the ultimate decision is you so i recommend spend a whole day mostly by yourself and really think about what you want to do.
would you like her to do the same to you? if you love your gf you won't do it, because you'll lose her. and the whole "she doesnt have to know", you will know, and trust me, guilt will get to you. it's ok to have crushes, it's human, but to act on them make you selfish and cold hearted.
Do you love your g/f very much? I am not sure. I don't say that to be judgmental, I know that life isn't black and white. But I do think if yuo really did love your girlfriend very much you might find this girl attractive, you might want to fuck her brains out, but you wouldn't do it. It is natural to be attracted to other people while in a relationship, it is only human. But to act on it means you are not truly happy with the girl you have.
