So, I used to spend tons of time with one of my best friends in his dorm (He's bi but has a girlfriend). I've slept over on several occasions - We never did anything but jerk off together - but a new problem has arisen. Since my coming out, my two sisters have taken it upon themselves to make my life miserable by complaining that I shouldn't be allowed to sleepover guys dormitories (Girls dorms are out of the question as per school rules.) They believe that, because I do have sexual interest in guys I shouldn't be allowed even in their rooms, and my mom agrees! She had no problem with this situation until my sisters brought it up as being unfair. Also, I asked if I could sleep over a girl's house because I obviously have no sexual interest in her. Her parents said that it would be fine, but get this, my mom said no. She has no reason as to why I can't she just doesn't believe it's okay. Sometimes I just don't understand people so I'm asking for your opinions.
Fuck'em your not here to impress anyone your here to do what you were put on this earth to do and then your going to die. What they don't understand is that your not going to be sleeping with every Tom, Dick or Harry out there. They think that since your gay you're going to be trying to have sex with every guy that you see, but that's not true. They just need to get off of there high horse and over it. If they are going to treat you that way then I guess your sisters shouldn't be allowed to go out on dates because you know that after dinner and a movie they are going to be droping the drawers and getting some tube snake then.
Your main dilemma is that you are very young and apparently quite candid. While your family seems to have accepted the fact that you are gay and open about it, they are putting the parental brakes on your sexual activities. When I was your age, young man .... NAH, you don't want to hear it. But we were not openly sexual, whether with girls or guys. Therefore, I'm afraid you are going to have to find ways to sneak. And stop confiding in your mother and sisters - they have proven to be overprotective. Parents should know that sneaking is what kids do when they are forbidden to do stuff. Knowing that, when my daughter was a teen she was allowed to have her boyfriends spend the night in her room rather than risk their lives in a car on some lovers lane. But not everyone is an old hippie.
The only problem with sneaking is the fact that my mom will most likely notice if I'm not home at all. I can't run back and forth between boarding school to sneak into my friends room. She knows that I'm not allowed to sleep anywhere on campus so if I don't call, I'm fucked. I guess staying over dorms is just out of the question now. I'm utterly screwed. X__x
It pretty much sounds like you are fucked, unfortunately. Its too bad that your parents are being such assholes. I know I hate it when mine are like that, and I am 18. EDIT: Also, like Shale said stop trusting your sisters/parents so much. Seeing as they are the ones that ruined it for you, you have no reason to treat them like your best friends and personal diary. (no offense, but its necessary)
sounds like you've got parents and siblings who are all whacked out about sexuality. and whether they have accepted the fact that you're gay or not, it seems they fall into the trap that most people fall into... believing that because you're attracted to the same sex, you'll be attracted to EVERYONE of the same sex. which is so not true. i mean, i'm actually way more picky about who i like and sleep with as a lesbian, than many women i know who are straight. they get turned on by just about every cock that walks by. i dunno... just really sucks for you right now. i get the being open and honest with your family thing, it's nice to be able to do... but obviously, they aren't really understanding you. but then again, no one can really stop you from doing what you really want to do anyways. but this is coming from a no longer teenaged rebel.
Thats what fascinates me about this generation, guys coming out at like 14/15. I remember back when I was that age, I had NO clue what gay was. I was already doing naughty stuff with guys, but I thought thats what everyone did, every guy had their secret guy friend and after high school we all marry a girl and have babies. Well that turned out to be partly true, some of us do hide in plain sight . As for exclusive gay, I had no clue until I got out of high school. Not that anything would have been different if I was more aware at 14, but geez, its just a reminder of how flippin naive I was
I figure if you can't be trusted to keep your dick in your pants just because you're in a room with someone, you shouldn't be sleeping over anywhere with anyone. The actual gender really shouldn't be an issue far as I can see. Sharing a bed might be iffy and I could understand someone not being happy with me sharing a bed with their partner, even if it was, like, me and a lesbian or otherwise some other situation where nothing was going to happen. Jealousy seems to be a bitch for some. But yeah, generally I don't see why it's a big deal, and it seems wrong to assume that two people are going to rut each other just because they're of the same/opposite sexes and share a room. I say this as someone who did bad things to a guy on a sleepover. But... he was asking for it?
You should probably just be able to do whatever you want. It's not like a guy can get pregnant though, so at least guys. I thought that was the whole point... preventing pregnancy.
