Does having heart as a man make you a pussy? A candy ass? Some men think if you have heart you read poetry, show affection to everybody, and basically do girly things. That's not true. As human beings we can do all those things, but as men we have to use our STRENGTH. We were born with it. We have to work, not go around being a ballerina. Thats a woman's job. They love to read and write peotry. They love to initiate the romance. They dance their hearts out because they love it. Any man can make a decision in life and hope for the best or not even hope at all but it takes a REAL man with HEART to make the RIGHT decisions in life. So I know this person who just turned 20 and is about to be a father. He's been with this girl for not even 8 months and already he got her pregnant. This guy doesn't have a job, he plays Xbox 360 all day and to make matters worse, his relationship with this girl is very sketchy. One day hes calling her a bitch the next day hes at the movies with her. I'm 18 and even I know all those things are so wrong. Imagine how the baby will grow up, knowong he was conceived for the fuck of it. No planning years in advance, no thinking about the beautiful life they are going to give to this baby but just for the fuck of it. Every time I try talking to him about making this situation better, he runs away from the subject. He reminds me of an immature 15 year old. He says hes going to care for his soon to be son, but I can tell he is not ready for the responsibility. Does this "man" have heart? Did he make the right decision?
In my honest opinion, you are merely a little boy or girl until you use your heart in your everyday life. A man or woman will cry when he sees a beautiful sunset gleaming across the ocean horizon, if its expressing his true feelings about it. A boy or girl will keep that feeling locked up insecurely, if you understand the concept. He doesn't use his heart in this situation, and if he does its a very weak attempt. Its going to be a lesson he will have to learn on his own I believe. From what you've said his level of maturity and mentality is shallow and his future intentions naive. The most you can do for him is show him the truth of what hes done and what hes facing and going to face. If he runs from it, its his choice and its unfortunate, but he and his son will be the ones to pay for that choice. Once his son is born, it could be enough motivation for him to change, but if that isn't then your words won't reach him. For what he and his future son mean to you, just do what you can for them, and goodluck
i think, since it's established that while the original post is well-intentioned, it's incorrect, i'd like to ask a question. i'm not one of those people who's moved by scenery or poetry or whatever it is that women are supposed to be moved by. it's just not in me. i don't feel it. i don't get all misty when i look at a sunset. it's not that i don't get excited and moved by other things, but they're not those things that make other people confortable with my supposed femininity. my children are the center of my universe, but i don't pretend to want them with me ALL the time. and to be honest, i get tired of people who cry a lot, whether it's over beautiful things or sad things. so the question is, what IS heart?
The scenario I gave doesn't literally apply, just the concept of it. You said yourself there are other ways and situations you would become more in touch with yourself, thus just the concept.
well, i understand that. but people have so many fascinating definitions for the concept. you know, military funerals REALLY move me. i love the ceremonial dignity with which more masculine groups use to show their feelings. in our society, which is frequently so unforgiving of males showing emotion, i LOVE the rites and traditions that men have devised in order to survive with their dignity intact. other people will likely think it's complete bullshit. but my traditions in my family are very militaristic, all but myself have been in the military. it's what i understand. it's very deep for me.
okay you guys, yes every person is very different, there are gay men that are into things that most straight men arent and there are gay woman that do things straight women wouldnt. but what im aiming at is the point of having heart. like you said mamaKCita, having heart doesnt neccessarily have to mean reading poetry and doing "girly" things, thats true, but our SOCIETY today thinks thats what it means to have heart. men especially think that. what im trying to say is, as men, were are biologically structured in a way to bring home the meat and let the wife prepare it. its our anatomy. i know thats not the case all the time but its what we were MEANT to do. having heart changes any human being. they understand emotions and interpret them and make decisions. without out heart you would be lost from the beginning. as for my cousin, it honestly feels like im the only one giving him shit. my family is very different from his. we are more loving and we know how to comfort one another while my cousins family always give you the cold shoulder, and since he was brought up with the mentality of not showing affection or emotion, he got lost in what he did. he made WRONG decisions. p.s. Manamiko, thanx for the good luck and hopefully he will be a good father.
Sorry but the women worth having will laugh their ass of at that garbage. I like to use the word passion. i have a great deal of passion. however; I'm not weepy and pathetic. I never cry unless something truly hard has happened. I damn sure dont quote poetry! All that said, I can on occasion do something romantic and it melts the heart of my gal but had I come at her with all that crap when i was dating her she would have moved on to a real man. The guy you described earlier may or may not have passion. The way you described him pretty much says he's a loser and if he dont get on the stick fast he is in for a hard damn life full of pain.
