casual sex?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Casual_sex


Would you get involved in such a relationship?
I was reading an article in a Romanian magazine about this. Some couples presented there though sounded like posponing the moment they would eventually admit to themselves first of all that they don't want anyone else but the person they have close. Because they were seeing no one else, although they had the freedom to. They had decided for this sort of relationship as they were undecided about a relationship, or had been deceived in a previous relationship, or wished to finish their studies before going for a serious relationship to end perhaps in marriage and kids.
It sounds more like a trial period to see if that person is right, or it just provides love without any obligations, which is quite comfortable.
I've not been in such a relationship yet, I don't know if I'd try it... but I'm not saying never, as you never know...

 

nope, mostly because im not singel right now
i have 'dated' someone, we called each other bf and gf but really, we were only together because we liked sex. no other connection. hell, i sometimes forget to count him on my list of boyfriends/people ive fucked, he was about that memorable (we did date for a few months too, oi)
its not really what im looking for now anyway. if i were single, id be wanting that emotional ocnnection thing that makes a realtionship awesome and special. casual sex/fuckbuddies dont have that usually

 

im in one right now.

 

i'd probably prefer something of the sort right now anyways

 

I don't think I can be in a classic, emotional relationship anymore, cause I could care less what the other person does anymore, I want to do what I want, and a girl wants to come over and fuck me that's cool and if it feels good to hang out. But I'm not feeling the whole relationship thing, like you are eachother's possession. Get real.

 

by approaching a new relationship with this perspective, I think you lower its chance of lasting. instead of easing the constraints of a relationship by removing accountability and obligation it makes more sense to me for both to agree not to sleep with anyone else. if you start out with the relationship defined as "casual sex" it is guaranteed to cause hurdles down the road, should you decide to stay with that person long term.

instead of worrying about definitions and rules, and keeping easy ways out open, why not just have fun with eachother for as long as you can, and be honest and not hurt eachother when it stops being fun?

 

No, but not because I'm a prude by any means, but because sex can make babies, and I'd at least like to be in a relationship should a little bundle of joy pop up. I'd imagine it would be a helluva lot easier making civil decisions about a new life with your partner than with just a buddy, you know?

 

Yes. Its the only kind for me. I feel suffocated in a relationship. I like being free without having to worry about any one else or their ego. Love and sex dont have to come together. I literally feel ill at the thought of being committed to someone. Put me in a room with padded walls instead.

 

yah im in one right now but she wants a relationship but im afraid thats just gonna fuck things up

 

most sexual relationships I've had with people were casual.
I haven't been able to feel truly possessive of someone since I was like, 17..

 

thats what I cant stand. possesiveness. why must someone become a possesion? The usual problem with fuck buddies is that when they feel threatened by someone else comin into the picture, they get possesive. thats when I run. that and when they get clingy.

 

I'm alright with it if the times right.

Though I'm the romantic sort.

 

it's an interesting concept, unfortunately i'm committed to both my hands...

 

Ruling out any commitment would mean I'd never be intimate.

Ruling out casual sex would mean I'd end up in a lot of commitments by default.

I think commitment without possessiveness is possible between two people that really hit it off.

But commitment for me has more to do with emotional availability than monogamy.

 

thats too mature prax.

 

Ha. I need you as my mentor.

I've learned a thing or two from you already.

 

Casual sex for me (the little i've had) rarely lasts for longer than a night because:

a) I am the kind of weird person that girls will not have sex with unless there is chemistry enough for a relationship

b) Casual sex is great while it happens, but I always feel empty and gulty afterwards. So I don't go back for seconds unless I think its leading somewhere else.

 

I don't have any problem with it, but I don't like it. It's really awkward if I don't know the person. I think to myself: why am I being this close to someone I don't even care about?
But if I ever were in a relationship, I would not be overly possessive. That person is not my property, but a friend of mine who I am very close to.

Fuck buddies are different though. I tend to see that more as two friends helping each other out.

 

if it weren't for the risk of std's and getting burned at the stake by fanatics, i would probably never have gotten married. not that i was ever THAT lucky at it either.

but then maybe that was a sort of inverse luck, i keep telling myself, at least i never did come down with anything like that either.

and i might still get burned at the stake for being too honest politically.

=^^=
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I dunno. the whole casual sex thing doesnt do it for me.

for me sex needs that mind factor, and is meaningless unless you feel something for the person. sure it might feel nice and be fun at the time but if all i want is a quick orgasm i might as well just have a wank.