WHat hurt a bit...but then you realise it's just a part of the game

To (YOU!!) I know if youi read this you might think i mean you...and i do a little but i know you are a real friend so this really isnt me being mad at you....

What has hurt me over n over thru my life...
is that when Im getting fucked up on drugs n alcohol, friends galore.

When i decide to get healthy.... some friends still chill...many more kit and i know they care but we dont chill...cause i dont drink...its denied but know on now.... when its a multiple times weekly thing to TWICE in over 9 weeks since i stopped drinknig....

People i thought (and still do think) are true friends... it hurts...
a bit..
i know it's life.... to quote snoop without the right words "i gotta get mine before you get yours"- that's the game of that kinda stuff. i dont take it personal.

just wish i had more friends who would wanna hike with me, run with me in the mornings, sign up for yoga classes... do healthy yet fun things....

but i seem to have the most friends when im partying.

its dumb.

 

I know what you mean. If I didn't smoke weed I wouldn't hang out with friends half as much as I do now. Luckily, smoking weed is something I enjoy doing alot right now but maybe some day I'll be in your shoes.

 

now that you have new interests, you simply have to make new friends that have similar interests

 

I wish u were around here I need a yoga and hiking partner. But I didnt quit smoking like it tooooo muc but still want to be helathy. do know what you are going through though I think if quit which will not ever happen then alot of friends would bounce

 

if a straightedge person suddenly started drinking and getting high all the time, they would probably spend less time with their friends too...

 

oh i smoke on occasion n i love smoking with my friends.


and to the poster after this...
i do need to find new friends who wanna jog with me and meditate with me and stuff like that...but it seems all my friends just wanna get crunk all the time.... either that or they have kids and cant find the time....

 

But the difference is that REAL friends that say they love each other (as friends) and care so much would chill even if they cant drink in front of you....
but some of them just cant bother... i know its their own issues but it's fucked up.

 

i live in pa too.
where in pa are you?

i bought cigs today...been stressed about money n shit but i went nine and a half weeks without... im not starting again..guaranteed.

it just hurts when friends become distant when you dont wanna poison yourself all the time, ya dig?

anyways id love a friend to hike with, jog with, take walks with, just talk to smoke or after toking a little, meditate, do yoga with....
but they are so hard to find...

my friends text or call me to see if i wanna go out to bars, clubs, parties, drink, etc.

 

this is true... most people only have a few REAL friends though...

you can't stick by every buddy you make through everything; you'll stretch yourself too thin. it's only the truly important people that will stay by you through anything...

like for example, don't you have a husband that has been there through all this?

 

Sometimes the friends you make through getting wasted aren't really your friends.

 

hm. it seperates people. they were probably real friends at the time. but the choices and decisions people make, change them. and in turn, change friendships.

i dont really enjoy chilling with half my friends anymore because its just boring to sit around when everyone gets stoned or go out when everyones drinking. Everyone thinks i'm weird and there for fun to have around. Its usuallly me who finds them boring.

you kind of just lose things that you once had in common. Make new friends. it sucks, and it always will suck, losing friends. but people change all the time. once you start joining new classes and doing new activities, you'll find new friends who fit into your lifestyle.

 

i also don't know enough about your situation to even begin to guess if this applies, but it's worth mentioning that everyone i've known who was heavily into benzos was HORRIBLE company at the time...

 

I know how that is. A lot (probably the majority) of my friends are potheads. I know who my true friends are because even now that i'm taking a break from smoking for a while, I can still hang out with them all the time like I did when I was smoking and still have fun, even if they're smoking and i'm just chilling with them.

 

Luckystripe I live in mid western pa 45mins from erie 2hrs from pittsburgh and cleveland

 

I almost got my ass bea protecting a frend i have no family here except for my mom and dad

 

people are drawn to people with similar interests, and when those interests change, you will have less in common with the people you consider your friends. I wouldn't worry too much, if the friendship begins to struggle because of you changing your haibts, it probably wasn't that strong in the first place. of the few people I call friends, none would abandon me in any way if I stopped smoking. I guess I'm fortunate.

 

Yes underwear..my hubby is my real friend. he does outdoors shit with me and does not drink


and red.. i totally agree..learned it more then once...

 

thanks. yeah.
i dont mind the smoking but the last thing i wanna do is be around loud, drunk people. Id rather meditate in the woods or just talk or sit outside. They may call me boring (or think) but i think there same old same old is boring..

 

So like two ish hours from me.

PM me sometime!

 

its never the smokers i mean. its the heavy drinkers.