Hey, new out of the closet

Hello everyone,

I'm sure most of you don't know me at all, I used to post under donvito1122 (couldn't remember my log in information ;p ). Anyway, well recently I came out to my wife (we started dating in highschool (freshman year), and finally married a year ago) that I am a woman. Not pysically, yet at least, but I have known this since...well as long as I can remember. (I remember being six or sevenish? praying to God that I would wake up in the morning as myself). Guess what? She was fine with it! Actually since coming out she's said I'm a much nicer/happier person to be around. She's been so supportive with everything! I'm just glad that she can finally meet ME...not the shell of a person I was before. I was trying too hard to make myself a man, when I didn't even know how to be one (other than what I have learned from living as one for 19 years)....I was an idiot, but finally I can be myself.

I tried my entire life to deny this, deny who I am. I was even ready to go into the military because I felt this would force me to accept how I was born...but luckily I decided against that, that would have been the biggest mistake in my entire life. Whew, it still feels so good to say it, I am a woman.

I've been living 100% (or as close to 100% I can get ;p ) at home. My wife was great accepting this, she even helped me pick out a wig (and she didn't even care about the price..which I was suprised about also $500..but it's real hair so yay! I love it so much! http://wowwigs.stores.yahoo.net/athena.html I think it's pretty at least), she's let me wear her items (until I managed to pick up a few of my own), and she's starting to help me work on my voice too! I'm going to be coming out to my band this week (it's kinda hard not to...we practice here ;p)..but they have all been friends since I can remember, so I'm hoping they'll all be able to adjust....plus I'll just remind them just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I can't still play a mean drums! (I did manage to crack a nail though the other day when my wife and I were jamming...ugh.)

The goal is to tell my parents, and her's (not worried about them, they are the most easy going, accepting people I have ever met), sometime in the next month or so. Any advice regarding this? I mean I'm going to do it, just very nervous about it..ya know? It's not everyday parents hear this. Either way, they can accept me or not, theres no changing whats inside. Once I let them know I'm going to start on hormones, and start living as myself 100% of the time (not just at home, around friend, etc.). Also I'm going to start seeing a psycologist/gender therapist so I can start working on my 1-2 year real life living test, and also start collecting recomendations for the surgury. I'll also start the transitioning period durring this phase, meaning changing birth certificate, drivers liscense, social security, etc. (I've been following the advances in this field since I could understand what this was, and had internet acces ;p so I'm just ready to get the process moving..but it's always good to make sure to do this properly)

Finally, the overall goal is to undergo Facial Feminization Surgury, Breast Enchancement (if hormones don't take care if that ;p), Butt and Hip augmentation, and the big one Sexual Reassignment Surgury! My wife and I want to wait until we have enough money to pay for this all up front at one time (or as close as the doctors will let it happen). Again I couldn't ask for a more wonderful wife, she's so understanding, supportive, and AMAZING! I couldn't go through this without her at all! She's even fine with calling me by my new name...which I thought would be weird for her..but nope she even helped me pick one out! (she said it was a perfect choice for her hippy chick)

Well, sorry for how long this was, its just great to finally, after keeping it bottled up so long, be able to acutally discuss this! Just wanted to introduce myself, and say hey!

Peace, love, and health,

Alice

P.S: About my new name. My wife and I knew I'd have to sooner or later choose a name for myself. Here's how we picked Alice:
The first reason is simply because I like the sound, acutally I've always been between Alice and Alyson for as long as I could remember. Second is a reference to Alice in Wonderland and the forrest where she can't remember her name, hence she doesn't know what/who she is. Thats how I have felt my entire life, and now that I can call myself by my name I know who I am...if that make sense to you guys.

Again just saying hey, and introducing myself to these forums for the first time as myself!

 

good for you baby. congrats and all the best {{hugs}}

 

Well I'm glad everything's going so well for you! I don't have anybody to talk to about it, so I'm realy alone in real life. (I don't even drive so I don't even have a way of getting clothes. T_T)

Also, I just have to say, I did the same praying thing when I was younger. Just a little later in life than you (probably 11-14)!

 

hi sgt pepper thats really good to hear that you are finally out of the closet and being true to yourself and to a very supportive wife which nowadays is rare to see them to support you she must love you so much and be a very understanding person aswell i admire her for that i just wish there were more people out there the same the problem with this day & age is too many people judge wether its your gender, sexuality, disability, and other things makes me angry long as you are happy and not hurting anyone else so be it lifes too short
and if your not happy you do something about it good luck on your journey to becoming who you have always been
femmym

 

Best wishes to you in your transition from being a man to being a beautiful feminine transwoman.
It is good that you want to spend the time and money to get feminized properly, with female hormones, facial feminization surgery, breast implants, etc..

I am a beautiful feminine pre-op transwoman who is on estrogen and anti-androgens, which have given me soft feminine skin, reduced my masculine muscle mass, femized my body to some degree, and somewhat feminized my voice. You also ffel more feminine and ladylike on estrogewn and anti-androgens.
I have also had facial feminization surgery to give me a beautiful feminine woman's face, and have had breast implants and hip and buttocks enhancement as well to further feminize my womanly figure.
I have pierced ears and love wearing long dangle earrings and jewelry.
I always am in my makeup and good with it.
And I love dressing very feminine in dresses, skirts and blouses, etc..
I have beautiful long straight silky blonde hair.
I also have had feminization voice lessons, and I have very good feminine mannerisms.
I look, act, talk, walk, and dress as a beautiful feminine lady.
I am a slender 5'10" tall, I weigh 130 libs., and I have a cute, shapely, feminine woman's figure of 38-24-36.
When I was living as a man before I transitioned to female, I weighed 175 lbs. and had a masculine athletic man's body. So I have changed due to my feminization.
I not only easily pass as a lady, but unless they know, no one would guess that I was once a male.
I had my name legally changed to Angela, and live and dress as a lady full time, and a beautiful feminine lady at that.

I live with my handsome masculine man Todd. We have a wonderful loving husband and wife relationship. I also have a good relationship with my beautiful feminine ex-wife and my wonderful lovely daughters.
Thankfully my family and friends have accepted my transition from male to female.
I love being a beautiful, feminine lady.