erm, ok im almost 17, and 2 nights ago was my first time in a nightclub... (i know, its just i've never had the opportunity before) so i went with a much older friend, and i somehow slipped in ( i mean i look maybe 15). the bouncer didnt say or even look at me. all was really good, we got some drinks, and at the bar i cought a look from this really great looking girl - she was almost next to me, i stared into her eyes for like 5 sec and we both smiled. so 5min later we walk to the outside smoking area with my friend, and she approaches, i introduced myself and just started getting to know her. and thats where i fukt up. she asked my age, and i said i was 19, it turns out shes 23, and she says oh i look so young and how thats a good thing, and i thought she may suspect what age i am. recently ive started lying to people i will most likely never see again, i dont know i kind of do it for a laugh, to see peoples reactions etc. but afterwards the more i talked to this girl, the more i started to like her - shes pretty much into same music as me and has similar oppinions on various topics. considering i have so much trouble with girls (mostly due to me being a kind of outcast to ordinary people, not having much to talk or relate to) i was suprised the conversation went on for maybe 30min+. all of a sudden she started telling me about all these guys constantly expecting one night stands and shit like that, getting her number and never texting her, and thats where i started asking and found out she was single, and eventually at the end of the night got her number with a promise i wont just ''loose'' it or something like that. i really really dig this girl, she was really sweet, my height, had these realy beatifull blue eyes (which i complememnted on twice :S), black hair, and i dont know, pretty much my ideal girl. but fuck, the age thing is getting to me. i texted her a few times today, turns out shes at work (works at a club opposite the one where we met) and turns out shes working all week long untill really late. i said when shes free to call and we could maybe hang out ( shes interested in learning guitar and i could teach her a few things). so now im thinking, how do i find out if this girl likes me. she wasnt too drunk and i mean every 15sec we'd just smile at each other, and i couldnt help but just constantly gaze into her eyes. crap i have no idea what to do now, do i just wait out the week or what. she said she wants a serious relationship, and i guess a person wouldnt talk about these things with a person they just met. shit, im in no way interested in just sex, i really like her and i kind of feel completely angry and the whole outlook on age these days. she said she agreed on the judge a person by his actions and character, not the age idea. i have no idea what to expect or what to do, im sorry for a long post, but i would really appreciate detailed help. also should i made some sort of move or something, i mean you know when youre looking at each other for a while in silence, is that like a signal for a kiss or something? i mean i called her to dance, but the music that was playing was crappy so she refused. fuck i suck at this whole thing :s
hmm thats really cool that you were able to make a connection but yea it really sucks about how people are so down on age differences one of my friends read through all my posts recently and in one of them i mentioned how ive dated someone five years older then me and they idonno got freaked out i say go for it and get to know her the only thing is she may feel really betrayed because you lied to her so if it were to become a relationship you would have to tell her so yea good luck!
u cant let the age thing stop you, if she took an interest, and you ARE interested, the age thing doesnt matter, now im talking about the mission, which is to get laid here obviously, lets be realistic, ur 16, she is 23, that will NEVER work out longterm, no way amigo, BUT you can get the goods, perhaps, which should be your goal. You cant really think your gona bag a 23 year old when ur 16, and even if you do, theres no way ur gona be able to compete with guys her age who can do stuff you cant due to ur age, so you should look at it this way: you met an awesome girl at a club, be her friend, be chill, and try to complete the mission, ie, sex. Im sry but 23 female and 16 male, it aint gona work, maybe in another world it could, but not in this one heh
Damn. youre jail bait. if you care for her, dont put her at risk of getting in trouble. if you cant be honest from the beginning, whats the future gona be like.
It probably won't work, but I think the best thing you could do is next time you talk to her admit you lied about your age. Tell her you really like her though and would like to get to know her better anyway, if she's still interested. Maybe at least you could end up friends.
I can definitely relate to the age concerns, but I think what is more important here is focusing on being confident and learning from your mistakes. In the future, I'd say just be honest about your age, but for now you have a bigger issue to deal with. You're very hard on yourself for constantly "messing things up." Be confident and up front. You sound like a concerned and sensitive guy (that's a good thing). Remember that this was your first time in a club and that it's not always the best place to meet relationship material -- the message behind the atmosphere is 'tonight is the night to hookup.' Although you might not want to hear this, there are lots of other blue eyed girls that you'll have an opportunity to get to know without an age difficulty. Good luck.
if you get to see her face to face soon, own up to how old you really are. in somewhere kinda public, not liek in your house or anything. and try to do taht ASAP. see where it goes from tehre (if anywhere)... can always suggest that you two try just friendship since she seems like a cool cat
thanx guys, i was kind of thinking there will be plenty of girls like this one, but also considering the fact that ive met few so far and i just got lucky this one time and really blew it by being so young. i dont know, the whole night was just a bag of random coincidences going in my fav our (after saying good night to the girl)
meet with her have some fun and at some time confess. and say you did it so she won't think you are to young and that you reaaly like her if she won't give you a chance then you ain't got no chance anyway
Yup, I was gonna say that. You can't go uot with her for like another year atleast, for her own safety.
Yup, I was gonna say that. You can't go out with her for like another year atleast, for her own safety.
