Really don’t know where to start? I will start off by saying my husband and I have been married for 10 year and have 3 kids. I have a gut feeling that he is bi or gay and just keeping it in. He has been brought up with a very religious upbringing so I think that plays a big part in keeping this a secret. My husband and I have a very sexual love life. We like to try new things to keep it spicy! With that being said my husband has admitted in having a teenager experience with another man when he was a teen. He said he didn’t like and always puts down gay people. Lately we have been talking about trying new things again and I said it would be a turn on to see some guy suck my husband off. I asked him if he would be into that, he replied yes! I asked him if he would suck a guy off in return while I watched. He replied ok. Lately, we have been watching gay porn and I noticed that he got hard instantly! Even when we talk about him getting sucked or him sucking someone off he gets hard. While watching the gay porn I started to stroke him off and he came with in a minute, the quickest I have ever seen. Also at times we do roll play and I will use a strap on and do him and he loves it. A couple of times he has done it to him self with out me around. I have found him looking at porn (always ass fucking) but woman. Never have I caught him looking at guys. He has also said he might be willing to bottom for the right guy while I watch. He has never had a problem getting it or keeping it up for me. He always wants to have sex with me (mostly doggie style) so it leaves me really confused??? Is he gay and just doesn’t want to admit it or is he bi or just a sexual person like myself that likes to try new things? We have not tried being with another man yet. I guess I will know by his reaction to the other person? Any help would be great. I love my husband and our sex life; really just want him to be happy and not to be ashamed or scared.
He's bisexual it seems like. No straight guy that i know of would blow a guy or get a strap on in the butt. Sorry can't give help more but that's all i can say right now, i just got done babysitting on acid for 14 hours and can't think.
he is, just by the way you describe him. are you confortable with it? it seems like you are which is a good thing.. one thing you should know is never question his sexuality to him. don't ask are you gay.. if you see he likes cock then there is no point asking him if he's gay or whatever.... he will run away if he feel you are mocking him. i will tell you from experience women fall in love with a Bisexual guy faster than a str8 guy! he he he..
I don't think he is gay because he wouldn't get hard for woman and have sex with me with out any trouble. I do think he is BI and I am ok with that because once in awhile I enjoy a woman. I just thought it strange that he would put down gay people but turn around and say he would suck a guy off or take a dildo up the ass, if he wasn't bi. I think it was the gay porn that confirmed it for me.... To see him get so hard so quick was a clear sign that he enjoyed it!!! I do have a bit of a fear that if we do have experience with another man am I opening a can of worms?? I think regardless he will find his sexuality if I am helping him or not. Thanks to all that answered me
i was using "gay" as a general term. most straight people question someone's sexually and the first thing that comes out their mouth is "are you gay" rather than "are you bisexual," so i meant you shouldn't use these terms when you talk to him. he's not shamed i don't think, because if he was he wouldn't have answer you with a YES when you asked him about another dude. honestly, he probably thought you'd never ask! use that to your advantage! what i would do his hint at him about what he thought about a 3-some with another female.. if he's open to that then I'm positive he'd be more open to talk to you about his real sexual desire for other men. I don't think you'll open a can of worms. you've been together for 10 yrs, thats a long time. If he's aware of your sexual desire to once in a while have a women then that's a good thing, you both have similar interest and can relate with each other. are you willing to share him with another female on an occasion maybe? like i said, use that to your advantage in talking to him about seeing what he really wants. you're exactly right. so help him find it, rather than having him do it when you're not around.. i'm sure you rather be involved if/when he wants to have sexual activities with a guy.. who wouldn't want to be involved! so do it together rather than him leaving the house to look for it (if he hasn't already
I would classify him as repetetively bicurious. He might just want to try gay sex again, because he tried it when he was smaller, but he might not like it. He might also like the stimulation caused by a dildo being shoved up his ass. Either way, it's not fair to classify him for him, you have to let him classify himself. And be honest with him, tell him what you think, but try to do it in the manner you think would be the least offensive to him. He knows himself best, you, most likely know him the second best, not us users here.
He could also just be a straight guy strangely turned on by gay sex. I dunno. Sexuality and turn-ons can be a very confusing thing.
don't make it more complicated than it has to be. ONCE YOU LIKE COCK YOU NEVER GO BACK. a person can't like cock all their life and expect to been seen as straight or curious for that matter. you'd just be fooling yourself. i'm sure seekinganswers man has been thinking of cock for a while and once he has it, he will say what everyone else does: IT WAS GOOD. lol...
Damn right, im bisexual Im more of a girl person but if i ever got the chance i would fuck/suck any guy...
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Quote: Originally Posted by seekinganswers ...I just thought it strange that he would put down gay people but turn around and say he would suck a guy off or take a dildo up the ass, if he wasn't bi... I'd have to strongly agree here. I get annoyed with homophobics espicially the type that would jump at the chance with another guy. He may have been ashamed around you about his urges,but bashing gay people is no way to deal with that. Unfortunately it's all to common.
Thanks everyone for your imput. I will take it slow with him and see where it leads. Also yes I would like to be involved in some way rather him just going out and getting it on his own- even if it is just to watch. As for th 3 some we have had it with another woman and that's how this all came about . I said now its your turn! I would love to see you suck a guy off or get sucked. I said before we do this we have to sit down and go over what wwe are willing to do and not to do. Also If at any time one of us feels uncomfertable and wants things to stop we need a code word, and that means everything stops right then and there.. So everything is good and we are going to try this out maybe even this weekend!!
Ok a funnt thing just happened! I have been trying to get my husband to have sex for the past 2 days now and he says he is not in the mood. ( Never in 10years have I EVER heard that) I asked him if he wanted to get a hotel in Vanvouver this Sat and maybe seek out our fantasy. He said no I haven't been horney latley, So I said ok. A hour later I stuck in my gay porn and started to watch it and asked him to come watch, he say no but a minute later there he was sitting there with me watching it! We finished watching it and he turns to me and said I think he needs a suck. I said sorry your not in the mood remember! Then I look down and see he is hard! I said I see your in the mood now.. He just smiles and walks away.... I think he is having really confusing feelings and doesn't know how to handle them? What should I do? Do I not mention anything about bringing in another guy? Do I not try and have sex with him? Or should I start to watch gay porn and ask him if he want to watch with me? Do I give him head while watching it??? Or just leave everything alone and wait to see if he comes to me and brings it up? I don't want to presure him but I want him to know that I am ok with his sexuality.
Wow, Difficult questions.There may not be any right answers.I can't really think I'm going to bed soon,but hopefully some people here could shed some light on your situation.I don't think pushing the issue is a good thing unless you are very very suttle.It sounds like what he's going through is really freaking him out.Stay calm relax and don't scare him,hopefully he'll come to you when he's a little more comfortable.Letting him know in a suttle way you love him and are comfortable with his sexuality may really help.What he's going through is a very difficult emotional expirience,he may even cry.I did.It can be very scary.Be very kind,patient,and accepting.That's what I'd say right now.Beyond that I really can't say much more. I wish you the best of luck.
