Oh God, it HAS to be a phase...or not?

OK, well...

I'm confused about something here.

I find guys attractive, yeah, so I know I'm straight. For sure yeah I like guys, but I've never had a crush that's lasted for more than a day at the least or for more than a a few weeks at the most. And if I do have a crush it's very extremely rare. I've never dated or even kissed a guy before, which is found weird among my friends lol.

Recently, I've been introduced to bisexual friends, and gay people. I find them awesome people, and we frolic with each other alot. Even among our straight friends. Example, smacking each other's bums, kissing cheeks, calling each other pet names, pretending to gay for each other, etc etc.

This is all good and all, but I think this has opened up another side of me.

A side that finds girls attractive, and beautiful. I find some girls hot and I find myself longing to kiss them or to stroke their cheeks or touch them. Other times I feel as if I want to have sex with them and to feel them in my arms. Which is freaking me out a bit.

But I do have to add, the side that finds men attractive is a bit stronger and feels more comfortable than the side wanting women.

I don't know if I'm bisexual, bicurious, or just going through a phase.
I mean...my bisexual friends are my age, if not a little older...and they aren't going through a phase...

I don't know. I mean, being bi/gay is great and all, but they have to go through so much shit from people.

And honestly, I don't know if I'm strong enough to deal with that stuff.

Help? Anyone, please??

Cheers.
xxx

 

OK, first off, your are normal! Well, let me clarify - I am a normal bisexual and that is the standard I used to determine that you are normal.

You are also very young and hopefully curious in many areas including sexuality - which is a new experience for you. EXPLORE (just be careful of diseases and pregnancy)

You bring up an interesting social commentary here. If homosexuality were a choice who would choose to be spurned, persecuted and discriminated against. If you live in a culture where homosexuality is accepted, good. If you live in some backward culture then be discreet and careful. Just facts of life to live by. (Unless you are real rad and don't mind being a martyr to the cause).

Don't know if this is any help. Just know that you are a normal exploring teenager and enjoy the experience.

 

actually, being bisexual myself i don't take shit from anyone because i don't let it bother me. yes, homophobia a problem that occurs all around us.

most people don't talk shit to me because of my size and strong appearence..i'm a fearless queer. he he he..

Uh, you're 15 years old.. looks like your friends got out the closet way too early if you ask me..

 

I don't know, I think at the experimental stage it kinda can be a choice. I know a fair few guys who fooled around with guys and enjoyed it but never particularly wanted to do it again - it was just a curiosity for them.

I think the thing is, you don't have to think of sexuality as being forever. If it's not a choice it's not a choice, but you shouldn't feel obligated to choose a sexuality for life. Not saying that "it's just a phase", just that you should take it on a "case by case" basis. That's my view, anyway. I've never ruled out the possibility that I might fancy a girl one day. I'm pretty sure it won't happen but if it does I'm not going to feel obligated to not act on those feelings purely for the sake of consistency. I've got a mate who to all intents and purposes is gay, but went with a girl "for a change". Again, not saying it's a choice, but you don't have to view it as a burden either.