Im in my first serious relationship in my life, and its with a girl...And Im really happy with her, but my parents are so disapointed, angry, etc. and I dont know what to do.... I spoke with them and made them clear that Im bi, and that Im more than happy with my girl. But they cant understand me, they hate my girl, they tell me horrible things about her and my future, and they really hurt my feelings, cause even if I try not to listen all the shits they say I end up crying and confused.... Unfortunatly I cant run away from home as I desire... So what the hell I do?
My mum isn't exactly thrilled, so you're not alone. Many huggles to you, because you deserve them. The only person in my family that is cool with it is my step brother. Just to keep the family off of my back I try not to rub it in their faces too much. Things in time ften blow over at least a little. I hope things get better for you. I'm a PM away if you need to talk. I hope that helps even a little. Song
I agree. Your parents most probably were brought up in a strict home, and taught that gay/bisexuals were dirty, wrong etc etc. Imagine the shock when they find out their very own daughter is bi! So, let them cool off a bit, and maybe don't mention your gf for a while. See her outside of your home and try keep things as low key as possible. Soon, your parents will have to accept you are bi, and everything will turn out OK. If they really love you (which they do), they will accept you for who you are and love you no matter what. Good luck babes! **Huggles** xxxxxx
Unfortunately bigotry exists and your parents have bought into it. You have what I like to call expanded sexuality and they are likely the one-man-one-woman mindset as put down by their Lord and Savior or whatever ancient outdated code they subscribe to. If I seem a little hostile here it's because I've been there a couple of times in my life, both with my male partner and my "black woman" as my mother once called her. Try to get independent as soon as possible. Once you are away from their nest you can tell them the facts of life and if need be disown them. (Sounds harsh, but my mother and I went a few years without communicating - until she found out my black woman was a long-term fixture in my life) In the meantime, you have to cowtow to their wishes while you are under their support. Meet your girl on the sly, keep a low profile to avoid conflict, and just work real hard at gaining independence from the bigots. Then, as an independent adult you can meet them on your terms.
you're 18, ignore them and do what makes you happy. they're going to bitch and whine every moment they get to try to get you to change your mind.. if you ignore them they will eventually come around, if not, they really didn't love you to begin with!
Do what you like, like what you do. It's as simple as that. Your decisions/behavior might not make your parents happy, but if it makes you happy, then its worth it. At some, point you need to start living for yourelf and forget the demands others place on you. Good luck and if you want to talk sometime, pm me.
