Kind of an Awkward Situation. I'm weird. Your thoughts, please?

Really?
This wasn't good advice?:

I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Maybe we did misunderstand the situation a little bit.

 

I guessed I missed that. Thank you for actually giving me advice though. I'm sorry for getting all bitchy at you earlier. I was very emotional earlier....I had a long weekend backpacking in the woods with a lot of alcohol, weed, and lysergic acid. My mind is fresh and a bit fragile from the experience.

 

if you walk up to someone out of the blue that you hardly know and get all heavy right off the bat, yeah that can freak them out some. that doesn't make you a creep, but most people can't handle that right away. they need a little time to get used to being around you and learn your ways a bit. i think that's all anyone here has been saying. i've been accused of being too intense myself, so i understand where you're coming from...i think.

 

It's alright. I was bitchy too.

 

To me, you sounded romantic. So what if it came off awkwardly? I commend you for doing it. She got the wrong idea, which is a pity for her because I think it was lovely. How many girls can say they had an admirer who liked them enough to approach them like you did? I don't think you are a weirdo, a creep or anything (not saying anyone else does either).

If I were you, if I saw her again, hard as it might be, I would go up casually to her and explain laughingly the whole misunderstanding. If your ego can handle that, and I don't mean that in a mean way, I just think it would be a hard thing to do. But it really was just a thing that didn't go how you might have imagined/wanted it to. Life isn't like the movies where everyone can rehearse their lines and practise before speaking, and have another shot at it. She sounds awkward too, perhaps she will end up understanding the situation. If not, then she wasn't worth it is my humble opinion.

 

If she smiles at you when you pass her in the hallway, then she's probably not going to care if you go back up to her again. Just do like what angelina31 above me said. Go up to her and just be like, sorry about that whole awkward situation that happened, I just figured I'd clear things up. Just tell her she seems like an interesting girl and you'd like to get to know her better, if possible.

Then again, I'm a pretty awkward dude myself, so you probably shouldn't take advice from me. Haha

 

I'd go back up to her and say...

"I'd just like to apologize for calling you 'cold' a while back. I only said that because you made me feel awkward and embarrassed the first time we spoke, I was caught off guard. I realize I may have approached you wrong, I guess I could've worded it better. You just seemed like a person I was interested in meeting."

If the conversation ends after that, walk away, and atleast you'll feel better about the situation. If she apologizes for what she said to you the first time you interacted, accept the apology and then continue the conversation.

How do you know she's not on another message board telling people about how stupid she was when you approached her, and what she should do to fix it? Haha

 

well you need to stop being so damn paranoid....who cares what she thinks....if you really think about it you got the awkward stuff out of the way already...give it a couple of days when you see her at her locker just go up and talk to her like you have known her your whole life...ask her how her weekend was...thrown in a you look nice today comment......you want open ended questions/comments so she has to respond....******THE KEY IS NOT TO NE NERVOUS, GIRLS SENSE THAT********watch her body language....if her answers are real short and she seems to be in a rush.....let her go and tell her to have a nice day...do it a couple of days in a row and if by then the conversation isn't easy and your not comfortable then you know she isn't interested....but stop being paranoid

 

One of the irrational beliefs we all cherish is "It's necessary that everyone should like me. If someone doesn't like me, that's TERRIBLE." Neither is true. We all have the right to seek new friendships, we all have the right to turn such offers down. It seems to me you just goofed up your first meeting (came on too strong, too suddenly), and then when she couldn't seem to get past it, you got angry and verbally attacked her. I suspect your anger was really directed at yourself for blowing your approach. Dude, I'd write this one off. Sometimes things just don't go the way we'd like them to. It may happen in the future the two of you get to know one another on some neutral territory, but I wouldn't push it. Let it go, man.

 

Advice:

You could tell her "hey, I am sorry we got off on the wrong foot, but I have seen you around campus and you have a great vibe.....I just had to say hi" and see what happens.

You could just move on and not worry about her. You don't have to click with everyone you meet. Sometimes you put your hand out in friendship only to get it slapped.....doesn't make you a social pariah...it makes you normal.

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Oh...Chances are her showing up in odd places is not fate. Because of what happened you are probably noticing more.

Being a socially awkward teenager is normal. Most teenagers go through periods of social ineptitude, having no motivation, being "depressed" or morose, overly energetic, wanting to take over the world, feeling 10 feet tall and bulletproof. Hell, I have worked with some that go through them all at once.

Its not like the OP was following her home or calling her all hours of the night. All that happened is his confidence took a hit and he reacted like many people do (even though many deny it) "you made me feel bad so I will make you feel bad." He didn't spit in her face and call her names...he said "you're mean" because he hasn't learned a more appropriate response. Why? Because he is a socially awkward teenager. He'll get there....a little quicker if people offer him guidance instead of criticism.

Advice:
Don't be so quick to get mad next time. Some of the most amazing people will take some time to get to know.....take the time it is well worth it!

 

Moksha,

I've been in your situation before and beaten myself up over not pursuing it further. Believe me it's worth another shot at a fresh start. We're not all uber social beings able to interact perfectly in any social situation. That's what makes us unique and human. From what I've gathered, you have a serious non-verbal vibe going with this girl worth exploring, so explore it. That's what your teenage years are for. Don't beat yourself up over what damage you may or may have not done regarding a psuedo potential relationship you could or could not have with this individual. If you seriously are interested in getting to know this young lady give it another shot. Next time you get that mutually curious eye contact, approach her casually, start anew and just be yourself. As hard as that can be it's always the best approach.

"What the heck; it's just life. It unfolds right in front of you." - Bo Ryan

 

I love you all. 4 pages...I must say that I wasn't expecting that. That's a lot of different views on the subject. Thank you.

 

It may just be me, but even if you did approach her a little too strongly, she sounds like a bitch and you probably shouldn't waste your time on her. I'd probably be flattered by such a comment because I've admired people in passing the same way. So nothing happened, no real loss, right?

 

You should apologize to her for acting rude, say that you were hving a bad day then ask her to hang out sometime. If she likes you (like she sure seems to) she'll say yes. Unless you offended her by not talking to her for so long. Hurry up about it.

 

I knowww I'm completely running out of time. Only 9 days left of school. People are like....Oh awesome the school year is ending! Me, I'm saying Ohhh yeaa.

 

Ummm....listen to this. This is kind of unexpected and not sure what to make of it. Today was the day, that I had finally worked up the courage to go back up to her to apologize. Finally, nervous as shit before but walking the hallways to where she would be I became confident and relaxed, I'm flowing with courage to talk to her again, and what do I know, she never even goes to her locker. I kind of rubbed it off because I'd thought I'd just see her later on, but I don't for most the day until after school where she's talking to someone so I don't want to create an embarrassing situation (at least more embarrassing than the inevitable haha).

I have to say I feel extremely discouraged. I woke up today and I just felt like it was a different day in general. But it seems like it was fate for me to lack the opportunity I was finally planning on taking.

 

Careful...you don't want to blame fate for every missed opportunity.

People get busy, so you have to wait for a better time to approach them. To blame fate is just making an excuse for you being shy and uncertain, instead of dealing with the issue at hand. Next time approach her. If she is talking to someone say "can I talk to you for a minute about the other day...privately" and if she says no then you can blame it on her not wanting to talk to you.

No worries...you will have a chance to apologize..or not. Either way life will continue.

 

She could just be a Scorpio (which would account for her intense vibe, loner style, her suspicious nature, and seeming coldness --- although she'd be warm underneath). If her sun's not in Scorpio. Maybe she has a moon or few other planets in that sign.

At any rate, she smiles @ you SO SHE MUST REALLY LIKE YOU. Please be assertive and ask her out. (and yes I agree with you that fate could be pushing the two of your together -- for whatever reason or season).

P.S. I like the way you approached her on both occasions. You WERE NOT RUDE or too strong. You were direct and dispensed of fake flattery and courtesy. Great. And she didn't even frown at you after you called her cold. She probably liked that you were bold enough to like her but at the same time "spank" her. Your line actually is not mean, because you suggest that you longed to be her friend. I think its super cute.

You both seem incredibly unique and deep people in a world where so many are ordinary. I hope the two of you can get together. Hey, what's your sign?

 

I'm a gemini. Also I think you're analysis could be very accurate and is indeed the most interesting one I've read so far.

I'd like to mention that there were a few points where we made eye contact and she had some kind of negative face. Not quite sure how I'd describe them at all but they were very intense. There was one really weird point when I was standing in hallway talking to my friend, in our conversation I made an exaggerated gesture of extremely upset confusion (kind of jokingly..i like to overly express myself) with my hands out like "WHY?!" Right then I quickly glance left and make immediate eye contact with her in that EXACT posture and expression. Immediately she appears really upset and her face gets red and quickly looks away. Yikes. Didn't quite know how or why something THAT coincidental would happen.

I'd really appreciate if you could share what you think about that because you seem interestingly insightful on this. Thanks a lot.

But aside from that the first time I saw her after I called her cold I was running somewhere and I ran right past her...didn't quite notice her till I was right in front of her. It was then I noticed her smiling at me. I felt like I ignored her. This may have actually upset her.

 

you should tell her this, word for word, "can i talk to you for a second. i like you, i like you since the first time i layed eyes on you. i say, she's a tiger, she belong to me. anyway, i want you to marry me, and i want you to be the mother of my children." and somehow through one of these in there too, "with the right woman, theres no stopping me, i can go right to the top." anyway, so your game didnt work on this girl, spit it at another girl, because trust me, you dont want to try and start a relationship with a girl that you waited to long to try and get at. if you still like her, put her on the backburner and wait for fate, which i know you believe in, to set you two up. are you a senior? if not, see what happens next school year. see if she comes around to you, you've already made it known that your interested in her, see if she tries to start up conversation next time your in close proximity with her.