I HATE nags

I agree with rehab. I think you need to tell your husband how close he is to losing you.

 

i probably shouldnt clarify,,but when has that stopped me before??

i think for trish rehab is just the first step,i think there are many more issues that need to be addressed after rehab is complete in a controlled environment with professionals,,lest the rehab be for naught....

serious ive seen this girls posts for many years and i gotta say,,,its gotten to the point that its really not amusing or entertaining anymore...

but who asked me?? lol

 

Trish are you following a titration plan? I swear the one I linked you a couple of months ago works. I have been benzo free for 3 weeks now. It was hard, but I didn't have insurance at the time so I couldn't do rehab.
If you can't quit on your own I would try rehab. You sound you you are taking a lot and going down may cause seizures. I just don't want you to run out with how many you are on without medical supervision. I would be upset if anything happened to you.

 

Rehab. You've been up and down this road lately and you've had enough health problems without risking more by trying to kick the habit alone. I won't tell you what to do with your life, but I do think you should look into the rehab programs your local health facilities have to offer.

 

rehab can be pretty expensive, but totally worth it.

 

There is no shame in getting help for yourself. Its seems like you can not do this on your own at the present time. I mean you are under stress, you are having marriage issues, etc. It's going to be really hard to do this on your own. I don't want to push you because you have to choose for yourself, but most of these people are wanting to help you.

I still think you and your husband should go to marriage counseling if you really want to make it. If he really loves you and you really love him you should both be willing to go to counseling. There is no shame in it and they will give you good tools on how to communicate and such. I hope that you two will learn to talk with each other and get through this.

 

I gotta agree with some of these people. If you don't think you can deal with the addiction yourself, then maybe rehab would be good. If you wanna try to wean yourself off first, then do so. I know you're strong enough to do it either way, but you have to truly want it for it to work. You know whatever you decide, we're behind you. I know I'm gonna support whatever you decide, and I'm sure everyone else will too.

I'm not even gonna comment on you and Dan's situation. I'll support you either way, and you know how I feel about it, but the decision is really up to you, and none of us can tell you what's best for you. You know what I want, but it's not up to me. I guess the same can be said about your benzo situation too though.

 

I think that with the right mindset, you can get yourself out of just about anything. And even rehab can be futile if you don't want the changes for yourself. Personally, I think you are mixing too many different kinds of drugs looking for escapes. One of the problems is you now probably have overlapping effects, and can't even tell what is twisting you.

Just from what I know in the past month or so, youve been dosing on opiates, benzos, ssri's, nicotine, alcohol, cannabis, and mdma. You're using drugs to treat side effects of other drugs. I think at this point you should only eat pills with the intent of weaning yourself. I mean.. who is giving you all these meds? Most reputable dr's won't even write scripts for benzos anymore because of the abuse/dependency risk. And if by chance you were to be bipolar, you shouldn't be taking ssri's which would induce mania. You seemed pretty manic a few weeks ago then crashed, the reason I bring that up.

In all seriousness, if you don't get more of a grip on yourself, you are going to be on a fast track to rehab, getting baker acted, or worse.

So I think you should try to make a change and take care of yourself, rather than continuing to destroy yourself. Maybe you need more spirituality in your life. And it sounds like your relationship with your husband is unhealthy for you, but your patterns together are deep. Its your comfort zone. So you will probably have to take steps to move away from that. Or like others have said, make marital decisions after you are no longer strung out. Maybe you should on some kind of journey, or find ways to put energy into helping other people out. You'd be surprised at how much that would help you in return.

I hope you feel better soon.

 

aw trish.....you know I have always loved you lots and it saddens me very much to see you down like this again.
Not that my opinion really matters much to anyone or you, but I would have to agree with the rehab idea. They have a lot of programs (at least here) that are for people with no income, low income, no insurance etc. Maybe try and call a defense attorney who may have a list of where they send their clients. I know that we have a list of rehabs/programs that help people who can not really afford to go to a rehab.
Do you have Teen Challenge back there? some of local churches have programs.
Its hard to break a habit on your own especially with the different side effects from the withdrawal of what you are taking.
maybe some NA meetings might help as well.
I cant stand to see you in this type of mood again, it brings back some not so fun times.

I LOVE YOU!

oh and I know you love Dan you two have been through so many ups and downs but are still together. You obviously love him and he loves you, but are you "in" love with him? I am not saying to leave him by any means, unless of course things are physical, but then again, mental/verbal abuse can be just as traumatic as physical abuse. (not saying he is doing either one).

oh and one more thing, dont say you arent beautiful, because you are a very beautifuly person.

 

Why should it be fixed if he's treating her like crap? Just because people are married doesn't mean they should stay that way if it's not working out.

 

She is beautiful, isn't she. I hope she doesn't get mad at me for saying this, but Trish was actually talking about going to rehab the other day. She feels that she can handle it on her own, but thinks rehab would be a good break from Dan and life, in general. She knows she needs to cut down on the benzos, and I hope she does, because she needs to be happy and healthy, neither of which can happen when dealing with addiction. Pain creates more pain. I know I sound like a hypocrite in saying anyone should cut down on benzos, but whatever. lol

I agree too.....her and Dan aren't happy. You can only do so much, and if none of it works.....it's time to move on. I know I sound completely selfish saying that, but I actually want Trish AND Dan to be happy, which obviously isn't happening while they're together.

Trish....you know I'm not saying you should or shouldn't go to rehab. Rehab isn't for everyone and it doesn't work for some people. There's no shame in going to rehab and there's no shame in trying to get clean without rehab. You just have to decide what's best for you and what will make you happy. I love you and I hope I can make you happy and give you strength, but just do what you need to do.....not for me, not for Dan, not for anyone on the forums, but do it for yourself. Being addicted to something doesn't mean you're weak and going to rehab doesn't mean you're weak, so I hope you don't think that way, as that is the way many addicts think. There's a lot of good advice on this thread, and I hope you take the advice that is best for you, whatever that may be. I have complete confidence that you WILL get better and you WILL be happy; it's just a matter of how and when. You can do it though. You are a very strong person and you've made it through worse stuff than this.

 

I agree. Sometimes people grow apart and, no matter how much they love eachother, sometimes it just doesn't work out. People change and relationships change.

 

Relationships change alright

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_0u5oDxPMMk


Hotwater

 

has anyone here that is bashing dan ever talked with him? has anyone here ever gotten his side of the story?

if not,i from experience have to say that everyone(the ones that are) should just back off judging him and making him the root cause of all trish's problems because ,,i have to say,
the reality is your only getting one side of the story from someone who is so fucked up most of the time she cant even type straight..

while i have no doubt that there marriage has had lots of problems over the years and i have no doubt that it is on the rocks at the moment i personally refuse to accept trish's version of the story as 100% fact.

long term extended drug abuse does skew the way a person sees reality and i have read enough about the saga from trish's view point to see that at the very least it seems he loves her and is trying to stand by her through all this fucking mess..

till someones lived with someone with severe mental and emotional problems that they are using copious amounts of drugs to mask instead of dealing with them you have no idea what dan is going through..


that is not to say dan is innocent in all this,just that he has not even got to tell his side of the story.

so please reserve judgment on him..

thank you..
have a great day

 

i no longer believe she can do this on her own. she needs outside medical help in some way or another, whether thats rehab or something else. but that needs to be the course of action to get to the root of the problem, because its just going to keep manifesting itself in the same addictions or other addictions.

 

Just for the record, and I can't really comment on Dan's character because I don't know the guy, but I've heard the way he talks to her and it's fukt up, to say the least.

 

Is rehab not free?

 

I dont know Dan well enough to judge him so I wouldnt pass my opinion, but I have been there in person and seen how he was towards her and his attitude at me, a simple friend, visiting. It is like she says, at least from what I saw.

 

Definitley not :tongue: Even when its court ordered you have to pay!

 

haha, no.

anyway.
I think Trish and Dan should split up because I'm familiar enough with the relationship to know it hasn't been working for a long time and that's unlikely to change.