introvert girl

I have these feelings for this girl I've been talking to. Its only been a few weeks, but she is very cute to me and I find the shyness appealing. To me introverts seem to be deep. I myself am a introvert and I dont let people know me very easily. So this whole process of getting to know this person is exciting me. I havent been so interested in knowing someone before.

These feelings are bothering me alot - like desiring attention from her, it makes me feel like I'm some creep. My feelings are pretty intense sometimes. I feel akwark as hell, because I dont believe I should'av these feelings so early. This definately isnt a mild interest either. I think I've found someone that is very similar to me and its driving me nuts. She maybe more different that I realize, but have you guys ever had the feeling you meet one of your own 'kind'? I know that probably sounds weird. I've only felt this way towards one person in my life. Its very special to me.

I've been feeling listless for a really long time until now. I havent had a girlfriend in 4 years either, so I hope I'm not over reacting to this whole thing. I'd really hate to come off as weird, because I'd hate to scare off something this rare to me. I'm not very good with new girls overall.

I'm basically just venting but I want to hear your opinions. What should I do? I've already asked her on date, but its going to require her to know me better(I.e - avoid getting hurt. Create more comfort. ect...) Now I feel foolish to have said that(also bothering me emotionally). I'm fairly good at reading people. I knew this would make her uncomfortable. This isnt the normal me acting. I rarely act on emotions. I'm literally out of my mind(lol). I honestly dont know why but I felt the need to express these emotions out here in the open. I believe it'll make me more comfortable. Thats all. Hope I didnt come off as creepy. My intentions are good.

 

i think i know exactly what you mean. i guess, like you said, give her a chance to get comfortable around you. let her get to know you. once she knows you, she'll know there's no harm in you.

 

Thanks. I'm glad you understand some way. I forgot to add she is pretty standoff-ish(she said so her self). It just makes me feel she isnt interested in me at all. But I've expressed that before and she's released that tention from me before. I've been going through several moments of being unintentionally teased emotionally due to misunderstanding. It might be whats making me so intense about the whole thing. -
Edit: removed some pointless babble.

 

I wouldn't label yourself a creep just because of the way you feel inside.. No matter how hard you try, you cannot deny what you are feeling, so that doesn't result in creepiness... And don't feel foolish that you asked her on a date, don't have any regrets because then you will continually beat yourself up over them.. Just take it easy and get to know each other, if you are that into her, wait until she feels more comfortable.. Slow and steady wins the race (sorry, always wanted to say that...)
The best part is getting to know people, that is really all you can do and only time will tell..
Good luck...

 

True, true... I do tend to regret even when its nothing personal. Its hard for me to not feel bad about that. I just felt I made things awkard. Can't beat myself for that anyways. I felt it was right to have expressed myself. Actually, that was the first time I ever asked a girl that...(out of being in a relationship) I feel kind of accomplished.

 

You should, taking a step like that should make you feel good that no matter what, no matter how unsure you were about it or what the outcome would be, you took that leap and you should be proud that you did.. Life is all about paths, and we can choose which one to take, one filled with regrets and not taking chances, or one where we take chances we normally wouldn't take and to not be ashamed and regret our choices, that we stick by them and feel some sort of self-pride in the fact that you did something you otherwise would be too scared or timid or nervous to do..
Just relish in this moment and the feelings you feel for this person and not sulk and think negatively... Life will continue on and at least you had felt the feelings you have felt...

 

*pussy on a pedestal...*
Who said that?!
*looks around* -_-
*Laughs to self nervously*

 

nothing wrong with that.

 

Oh! You've seen The 40-Year-Old Virgin! Hahahahaha!

 

A good first date would be for lunch. Go to where she works or goes to school. Walk to a restaurant. Walk back. You are never alone with her, so she can learn that you are safe to be alone with. By talking over lunch both of you can learn whether or not you have much in common. Don't be afraid of being shy. Many girls and women think that is charming, and more agreeable than thinking you are God's gift to womenhood.

Also, because you don't know her very well, do not project qualities onto her that she may not have. You may be disappointed. On the other hand, she may be everything you ever dreamed of. Find out. Good luck.

 

I am in a very similar situation right now, I met this girl at work last monday...and we're becoming really good friends so fast that its weird, good weird...She said it to me that she does like me and i have taken her out after work a couple of times now..
I do like her a lot too, but I don't wanna say anything to ruin our friendship and like I said I've only known her since monday.
But she is smart and knows there is something (That I have feelings for her) and shes been nagging me everyday to tell her whats on my mind haha ..
Not sure if I should go ahead and tell her that soon or wait.

 

Give it sometime. Investigate if thats what she really wants you to say. Over a week isnt alot of time, but I can't see whats going on to analyze the situation. Maybe you should hint your feelings, be subtle.

 

The only time you should hold back is if you are uncertain about her feelings about you. If she thinks of you as "just a friend" (and not much more) you may scare her off by telling her that you are in love with her. On the other hand, if she has a romantc interest in you she wants to know that you feel the same way about her.

 

Well... I told her today that I have feelings for her as well, and she was really happy and excited..We are together now, I am quite surprised how easy she made it for me. (I am not the kind that expresses emotions well)
And I've no idea where this is headed, but I like it so far.

 

yeah, go ahead and boast about it. This is the perfect post for me at the moment... easy... urgh, freaking lucky bastard, lol.

 

well, you made it easy for her too, don't forget...by being up-front and honest with her about your feelings. right on. when it works and no one gets freaked out by it, it's a beautiful thing.

 

haha sorry man, but to tell you the truth although I knew she had feelings for me, up until the moment i told her I had no idea what her reaction was going to be..So I really didn't know what to expect and I knew it was better to get it out in the open regardless of the reaction.

 

It is beautiful, thank you.

 

Nah its fine, I was just adding some of my sense of humor. Honestly good moments in life.

 

yea... I know this is weird(because its been months) but i finally found out and was denied. : ( lol.