My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years. We have sex rarely. Sometimes, months go by without sex. This year, I've had sex 4 times with her. Normally, she experiences a great deal of pain. I'm not bragging, I don't consider myself big but she says I am and that it hurts. She says it feels like I'm tearing her up and when I'm inside her, she tells me she feels pressure against her abdomen. It's extremely frustrating since I obviously don't have sex often and if/when I do, it hurts her. She simply doesn't want to because of this. She's been to the doctor and the doc says she's okay. My problem is two-fold. First, I need sex. Secondly, I don't want to hurt her. Any thoughts?
i think it's statistically highly unlikely that hipforums could really have this many posters with a gf who finds sex painful.
Well, if she did it more often it would probably hurt less... That's usually the case, anyway. =/ Her mind could be doing it, too. "Closing it up" down there, so to speak. I had that problem when it first started having sex. I expected it to hurt, so I sort of... resisted, I guess?
try different positions, they ALL can't hurt her. plus oral sex is always an option i highly doubt that hurts either of you lol
Actually, she could suffer from a real physical condition. A gynecologist will NOT find this. She needs to see a vulvar pain specialist. Get a referral, and have her see him. The WORST thing to do is to have sex despite the pain. This will set her up in a cycle of expecting pain, and tensing, and getting pain. And this will be in addition to any physical problems present, i.e. vulvodynia, vestibulitis, etc. So, she is absolutely right to avoid intercourse if she is in pain. Until she sees a specialist, you two should refrain from intercourse. There are cures for many of the physical ailments that cause pain. It's just a matter of going through the process. Frankly, after 7 years, I'm shocked she has not gone to a specialist sooner! I'd have been to a specialist within 2 weeks, lol.
She may have Endometriosis, which can cause pain in the abdominal area. It is very common one out of five women have the condition. My mother had it. It also effects everyone differently. To diagnose a surgeon would do a tiny incision through her belly button. You can’t find it with a pap-smear. In the meanwhile, try anal or :wank:.
didnt you pay attention in class ? ... its not the hole she pees from..... its the one below that ! sorry to shatter your ego, but your dick is actually quite, quite tiny ...
That's amazing that you have stayed together so long. I discovered that I had vestibulitis when I was in high school and the longest I have managed to stay in a relationship is 5 1/2 years. It's hard to condemn someone you love to a life without sex. I think couples in this situation are screwed because the disease is rarely curable and because we are so unimaginative about what constitutes "sex". On the bright side, we are forced by circumstance to become more imaginative lovers than most people. Best of luck.
Is she well lubricated? Most of us will experience pain when we are not wet enough.. Stimulate her with lots of foreplay and make her absolutely aroused and aww-so-wet. Then have it off with fingering and stimulate her clit... Then the real penetration! Sometimes it has got to do with emotional on why she will experience pain. Or else, seek medical attention again.. Hope this helps!
