Hey all. I have a problem, i have been dating a gorgeous man for a little over 2 weeks now. We get along great and seem to really understdand each other. I am allways laughing with him and i am soo god damned attracted to him its not a joke. Doesn't sound like much of a problem does it? But here's the thing; I can't seem to concentrate on anything else. It is a kind of suffering when i can't be around him. God this is embarrassing, i'm not normally like this. I feel semi insecure too. He says he loves me and i love him too. So whats the problem? Whats wrong with me? Why do i feel so anxious? And more importantly how do i snap out of it so that i might be able to function normally lol? I keep telling myself rather masochistically to suck it up and just feel bad. Don't call him , DON"t text him. Just wait! Particularly after last night which was the first time we made love. Which was fantastic. I don't want to call and seem needy or whatever. I would rather see what he does and or says just to be sure he still wants me around. Which he says he does and yes i have heard from him. I still feel weird and edgy though.. Help!
you're perfectly fine, dear. it's normal. it's also called the infatuation stage of a relationship. as the relationship progresses, the feeling will surpass, but it might take a long ass time, maybe 6 months to a year. then again, some have been known to only last for a couple months. just don't make any big decisions and you'll be fine. honestly, i can't tell you how to snap out of it. i mean, when i went through that whole stage, i was wondering the same darn thing. when the truth is, i don't think you can snap out of it. i mean, it's like that person is burnt into your brain. just be aware that however perfect he may seem, he does have flaws, he is normal, just keep reassuring yourself of that and it will control the feeling. hopefully. =p well, good luck and best wishes!
Thanks so much I am feeling alot better today. Some days are worse than others. Really i think my prob stems from insecurity more than anything. I got through yesterday and i am feeling alot cooler about it all..phew!~lol. And yes i know he's not perfect for sure, i am just so drawn to him. It's ironic we both wished for this kind of lust/infatuation/love and found it, and yet it does present it's own problems doesn't it? I don't like the term infatuation though because it implies a fleeting superficial attraction but i also realise it is usually a phase passed through as a prelude to real lasting love so thats ok I think we are gonna be just fine. Thanks again.
