Good-looking girl likes me, but there's one BIG problem!

She's got the herp. She's got it down there. Oooooh yea. She's a coworker, and gossip at work being what it is, I found out about her little problem. Can it just be a rumor? Of course it might, but odds are that it's true, because I was told this by a good friend who has happened to know her for many years, and I trust him.

So what do I do? I'm as horny as the next guy. If we start fooling around at the bar and then head back to her place and it continues, what do I say to her? I can't have sex with you, I heard you have herpes? That would be bad because she'd then have an issue with our mutual friend who told me about it. I suppose I could just lie and say I want to stay a virgin (I am not a virgin). How contagious is herpes anyway, assuming that she is not having an outbreak and I'm wearing a condom?

Cheers

 

Damnit for you. Don't know anything about herpes. Sorry. Why did I post here then you are asking?

 

go ahead and pack the herp

 

if ur wearing a condom and theres no outbreak at that moment the chances of transmitting herpes is very low but like always this isnt 100% certain

 

don't do it man!!!!! herpes is for life, it's not worth it, even if this girl is hot. go find a hot, herpes-free girl

you could always do what I do... 'I'm sort of seeing someone'

then she can't take it personal

 

^ I'm with them. I mean, if you're so desperate to fuck a girl and are willing to forget about herpes, might as well pay a fucking hooker. Jeeeeeesus.

 

How about you just be honest and ask her is she's gotten tested in the last 6months. Tell her that it's something your very passionate about since your life might be at risk.. :cheers2:

 

that's a good, diplomatic response, or just tell her you have a 'no play without checkup' mindset. You go in, she goes in, you both get tested, and that way...it's nto accusatory or anything.

 

That's a good idea, for you both to go in and get tested like born25 said. That might take some of the uneasiness out of it. And honestly, if you choose to do it, that's your business, but I really don't think it's worth it for a one time deal. I mean, if you love this girl and all of that, that's one thing, but a few min. of pleasure could mean a lifetime of problems for you. Just think it over.

 

i agree its not worth it for justato busanut, but i wouldnt close off a possible relationship if she was a girl you were actually having feelings for. herpes is not easy to contract with a condom and it would seem mean and wrong to turn down a serious possibility for real happiness based on that. as long as she was 100% truthful with you that is

 

Why not just avoid getting into a situation where this becomes a problem. You aren't obligated to take her home and screw her. Don't fool around at a bar or any place else with her. Is this a real question or something you created to get comments from us?

 

Chances are, the HERPES you contract will last longer than your relationship with her...

There are plenty of hot women on this planet that you will encounter at varying times in your life. Stay friends with her and leave it at that. If she asks what happened to you two going out, tell her that you've found someone.