Hi I'm pretty much joining up here in hope of some help with a problem I've been having. I'm 6'2" and my girlfriend has a growth disorder that made her stop growing at 4'9" I'm 9inches long and even though that's fine for normal sex I have a big anal fetish. Being the amazing girl she is she wants to indulge me but can't seem to handle it at all back there. Does anyone have any advice that has had a similar experience? Any help at all would be greatly appreciated
umm, howsabout you dont try adn cram it all in her? youre 9 inches long, theres no way in hell youre gonna be sinking down to the balls in her in other news, lots and lots and lots of lube, plus preparation (finger or toy) and always use a condom when venturing into the butt
Sadly there is not a whole heck of a lot you can do if you want to go all the way in. There is only so much length inside. With width you can start off with a finger, small dildo, larger dildo, and then your massive cock. Don't force it thinking that she's just being difficult. You can seeriously injure her if you aren't careful back there. It might help to understand the human anatomy. Do a google on the topic and see what you are fucking. And if you still can't work around the issue then look me up and we'll see if you can fill me up.
lol thank you both for the advice. I doubt she'll ever be able handle it all length wise but I'm hoping to at least get it close width wise. She can handle a finger with some pain but once it gets to two she just can't. I'm going to go buy some lube tomorrow but I'm really not even sure where to begin. I'm not really looking to spend a good deal of money on it in case it doesn't work because I'm not entirely sure I could handle the embarrassment of trying to take back anal lube. Is there anything I could get through a normal avenue that wouldn't be overly expensive? I know I've seen stuff that was like $20 or $30 for a little bottle and that seems pretty steep to me. If I'm wrong then just tell me, I'm not trying to come across as a cheap scate on this just not sure about what I'm doing lol fuck that was a long reply sorry for that
well, the other day my bf and i used a small butt plug with just KY, which is pretty cheap stuff. admittedly we didnt get up to his cock in my ass, it was just some fooling around with teh buttplug as part of foreplay
Well I just bought some of that "WET Original" stuff. I'm not sure how well it'll work because I won't be seeing her until later today and probably won't be alone with her until Weds. Any feedback on if I made a good call would be greatly appreciated
Yes, Allonym is right on the nose. KY Jelly can be bought at your local supermarket. Look by the diapers, tampons, or in the drug sections. Just don't buy any large cucumbers or anything phallic shaped or the cashier might look at you funny. Check out with a girl cashier. Women know that sometimes girls go dry down there and they need a little help. She'll think you are a sex god for thinking of your girlfriend's well being and will probably want to fuck you. See I'm getting you laid by other women as well. Anyway, KY is very cheap. Under $5. It works just fine. If she really wants to try it then get her in the mood. Go down on her and get her really hot and wet then when she's nice and relaxed, or turned on as the case may be, lube it up an slip a finger in. Keep working on her and and make tiny circles barely stretching her out, then insert a second finger. It doesn't have to be done all in one shot. Work up to it and show her how pleasurable it can be. Hell, tell her to do the same thing to you when she goes down on you. Butch up, baby! Once she realizes that you can enjoy yourself she'll relax more. You CANNOT do anal and be uptight. And if she can't take 2 fingers with lube then I'd really hate to see it when she goes to cop a squat in the bathroom.
I just bought that WET Original stuff. I didn't really know what it felt like but it looked like the best choice..any experience with it? Or do you think I should just get KY Jelly and call it a day on the WET stuff I was so embarrassed buying it that i ran into the store at like 7am in the pouring rain grabbed it, hid it in my arm and ran like hell to the self check out lol her whole family is small. none of them are over 5ft tall. her youngest sister is 13 and is the same size as my 7 year old niece. If I were fucking an 11 year old I highly doubt I'd give enough of a damn to ask how to make it fun for her as her fun would undoubtedly be least of my concerns.
No, never used it myself. KY has always done the job good enough for me. Just make sure that the lubrication, whatever kind you use, is water based. That way it doesn't eat through your condom. Most lubes will be good enough for the timespan involved for anal sex. Over a long period of time KY will become tacky when it dries. But you will be finished with your anal play by then and already done with clean up so there shouldn't be a problem. The only time you need to worry about re-lubing is if you are using a butt plug for extended play. You might consider using one for your girl. It will help out with the stretching and comes in differing sizes. Just lube her up, insert the plug and go about your normal sexplay. Then after a while you can enter her with little resistance. Damn ... I'm starting to sound like the Anal Queen or something. What can I say? I love it.
actually, silicone lube is fine for latex... it's just that silicone doesn't like silicone (ie dont use silicone lube on silicone toys, baaaad bad bad) ive heard people rave about silicone for anal play. personally, i dont like that it doesnt seem to clean up as nice as water based does (and even water based isnt exactly tidy). probably part of what makes it such a good lube is what makes it so dang annoying to clean up water based is nice in that if it begins to dry up/become tacky on you, you can add a few drops of watera nd it tends to revive the lube
Yes, but petrolium based lubes will eat through your average condom. Water-based lubes are good with everything. That's why I always suggest it. You shouldn't have to think too hard when having any kind of sex.
Jo Anal Lube works works great, even in the pussy. Try different positions until one feels good. My favorite one is on my side with hubby behind me. We start many sex sessions this way, butt first without foreplay just lube. The other thing is learning how to relax and I hate fingers up my butt just a stiff one.
I really appreciate all of the help from you fine ladies. I must say that your men are tremendously lucky guys to have such anal loving girls lol. I'm getting to (finally) try out this stuff tomorrow. We used a little bit tonight during some fingering but it was just in the pussy, it did however work great for that. I did remember today that a few years ago when I was with my ex I bought this stuff at a sex shop downtown that came in a little red pouch and worked really really REALLY well. I don't remember what it was but it was warming and had her ass so open that I could easily fit four fingers into with out causing her any pain. I think that's something like what I need for my girls first time. Any one have any idea what that stuff was?
They have things that are called 'poppers' here. You buy them at sex stores they make your muscles relax big time, chances are thats what it was. They aren't technicqually legal
My BF is about 8 inches, slightly over and he can fit all of his dick into my butt and it feels so full. It is great, I love it and it makes me orgasm real easy once he gets thrusting. But if it doesn't fit in her butt then I don't think you can make it fit. You just have to accept what she can take, if you just force it into her you can hurt her and cause serious damage. It also didn't happen over night that I could take all of it into me, it is possible once she gets more comfortable she will be able to take a bit more, but I wouldn't reccomend forcing it.
Well we tried over the weekend. TONS of lube, lots of foreplay, I licked her asshole for a solid 45 minutes and she could barely handle the tip. I know I'm larger than normal and she's smaller than normal but fuck this is rough. Any advice on how to get to where she can handle even a little bit so we have something to build from?
