This may seem like a dumb idea, but my boyfriend broke up with me about a week and a half ago and last night he rocked up to this local club which he knew i would be at coz i told him, with his ex girlfriend!!!! Now that was a 4 year relationship (obviously with a break in between when he went out with someone else) and i'm really unhappy as you could imagine. Now im trying to find someone new. seems like a good way to have some fun and make myself feel better. It could be bad, but i haven't thought of anything bad about doing it yet hahaha The Problem: where the hell are the nice guys out there? like maybe im looking in the wrong places but where else can i go?? As you know i was at the club, it was packed, and to tell you the the truth, i think i saw 1 person that seemed decent, and he could be a real asshole once i get to know him. Guys are so sleazy sometimes!!!! Maybe i have to be alone, but thats seems so...... lonely... Love Amanda
Christ, I can't believe people are still asking this question. YOU. WILL. NOT. FIND. LOVE. WHILE.. YOU. ARE. LOOKING. FOR. IT. I know no-one takes the advice, but Jesus, do we really need to trot it out every time? While you are looking for a man, you are going to scare men off, because most men are not looking for a woman to settle down with, they are just looking for a good time and a few laughs. If you go out looking to just have a laugh and don't think about pinning a man to the wall and taking him home to make a baby, you will be much more fun to be around, and the boys will appear. That is it. If anyone comes that "keep looking, you never know when Mister Right will show up" crap, punch them squarely in the chuddies.
me = nice guy, too bad the saying "nice guys finish last" is very true and sucks. control, she never said she was looking for love first of all, she is looking for someone to have fun with, so simma um, i must say you might wanna hang out places that interest you, like say you like golfing maybe you'll meet someone at the golf course? (bad example bc there arent many people there....), then you'll almost be sure to find somone that'll have similar interests and if you're looking for a rebound i guess and someone to have fun w/, why not have them enjoy the stuff you like? that should just make things even more fun. iono, just a suggestion, ive never really gone out and looked for someone to be w/, all my relationships have just kinda happened
Man, you are so right. Yes it is true, and yes it sucks, incredably. A question for the ladies, what do you have against nice guys?! Come on, what's better, us nice guys, or an asshole? Jesus, I just don't get it....
Yeah i don't want the love of my life jeez im sick of long term shit i just want a cool guy who i can have fun with and hang out with on the weekend. not marry jeezz... i dont even want to get married at all! let alone now.. Anyway, its hard to pick up i think? i dont even know i was in a relationship too long, from like 15 to 19 years old. what a fucking waste of time. I think a party must be an ideal place.. too bad everyone hangs out in sleazy clubs Amanda
I gotta admit, my first reaction is "don't use a nice guy for your rebound!" I have nothing against nice guys, they're the only ones worth dating when you really want to date someone. But, if I'm just looking for something cheap & meaningless to amuse me until something good comes along (since you won't find love when you're looking for it) or to help me get over a real relationship, I don't want to hurt a nice guy. Assholes don't have the emotions to be hurt & if they somehow do develop a heart, they deserve to be hurt as they have hurt others. Nice guys deserve better. Are there any clubs you could go to that aren't sleezy? Is there a college near where you live? At my university, there are a lot of student organizations that you can go to without being a student -- you can't get some benefits that students can get, but you can hang out with people who share your interests & meet lots of new folks...
Assholes a) have no emotion, and b) are way better fucks. Reason being, they'll do all that weird shit you've always wanted to do but have always been worried you'll feel cheap and dirty, because they already thing you're cheap and dirty. Also, there's something really cool about being fucked by someone who takes pride in the fact that they don't wash.
He was obviously trying to get a reaction out of you. This is time you need to be spending for yourself. Self control nailed it.. If you are looking for something, you'll never locate it.. Just go have fun, go a day at a time - Someone's gonna show up and want to be involved in your scene and you can decide at that time if they are worth it. Til then - Blue skies....
its like this...i searched for years for a guy, YEARS.... im not a bad person, and iv been told countless times im no where near ugly...(though i have a low self esteem...) yet i had NO ONE... i tried and tried.. nothing worked...so trust me...DONT CHASE AFTER IT! i FINALLY met my first boyfriend from hanging out with friends who introduced me to him....and now my second, and wonderful bf i met through my best friends bf...so to me if u r gonna look for it at all try meeting friends of friends, chances r they arnt that bad, espeically if u think of it like this : ur friends with ur friends cus u like them, they r friends with other ppl cus they like them...so if ur friends r nice so should the other ppl they hang with...my mom always said "friends make the best boyfriends..." so meet someone as friends first, hang out, and then HANG OUT good luck! maddie
This. And I can't really tell you how to have fun because I'm a miserable **** and have no idea myself. I've noticed that a lot of people on here seem to have communication problems with the opposite sex, and that - based on what few details they give - these problems stem from not actually talking to them. If it's that hard, just talk to them as if they were of your gender (except for the obvious topics, like genitals and periods) and relax the fuck up. I don't get why this is hard.
its very very hard to find a decent person. there is no one place you can go to find a good person. if you go to the club in tryin to find a good person all your gonna find are asshole and idiots. so really dont try to rush into another relationship try and be single for a while. hang out with your friends go shopping, go for walks, go to a park do whatever it is that isnt degrading yourself that makes you feel happy. i used to be just like you wanting to rush into another relationship and all i would find were assholes. so just stay single and be happy.
OK, here's what you do: go out with your friends, meet people of varying degrees of goodness and assholedom, and stay in touch with the likeable ones. It's not like there's any real rush, is it?
Sweetheart, I thought this was Very fascinating... I just did this with a girl for about the last two months. Only seen her on the weekend and we would cuddle and whatnot when we slept. Never did anything sexual. So of course we get feelings for each other and whatnot, and I got really drunk this last weekend and basically told her I couldn't be with her because I had a small penis. lol. Yes, I had way to much to drink. Anyways that completely pissed her off and now she is with another guy to which I feel very hurt and betrayed. She plays it off like she didn't have any feelings and whatnot when I know she does... sigh... why do I do stuff like that? eh I figure she wasn't my type anyways, but it still hurts... weird isn't it? I hate emotions. Anyways, sorry for side tracking here... You seem very cool that is for sure, and I think you are very pretty as it be... Go out and have some fun... Next thing you know Mr. Right will be right back at your doorstep You just got out of a long relationship... take it easy for a few k? As Always, Drew
shame you live in sydney otherwise i would hang out with you hmmm i don't want believe to be this is a fact... but quite possible..
hahaha thanks SO much guys.. friends are the best. You know you get the best advice when you ask for it. Friends can be just so good. That's what i like about this forum, i get asked for my opinion and people can give me theres, straight up. I LOVE YOU PEOPLE I think it would be cool if we all went to a party together. I think there'd be lots of sex though, but still, i think everyone here would be the most interesting and open minded bunch Love Amanda
Clubs, bars, etc are generally bad places to find a good relationship. I think the best way is through close friends, that is how I found most of my girlfriends that turned out good.
My last 3 boyfriends I met online... The first was terrible, the second was a better friend, than boyfriend. The third I've been with for 10 months and its going great.
