what do women mean when they say this?

i'd say something like that when i feel oppressed by the relationship...not able to be who i am or do what i want to do...or don't feel free to just 'be'.

 

So.. you were going out with her while she was still living with her BF?!?.. That right there should have been a clue to her 'true nature' I wonder who her bf rescued her from.. she don't want to have to answer to anyone, she is free and freedom is like a drug sometimes, it gets you high and you don't wanna give it up.. she is not in love with you and is keeping her options open. Now would be a good time to 'step out' of the whole thing and give her total space and thank your lucky stars she didn't move in with you and cheat like she did with her last X, your her current X. Best to git, while the gittin's good, fella. IMHO

 

Mike; no I never got back with the one guy I said that to. But there's still a big place in my heart for him, it could happen someday.

To respond to the post:
It kinda depends how old she is - not by a number but a level. The one guy I said that to, well, I had been with him almost two years, I was 20. Before that there was a three month span since my previous ex, also a two year relationship. and before that, a two month span since my ex before that, a one year relationship. I told Dan, the last guy, that I needed space because I did - because I was 20 years old and had been in 5 consistent years of relationship. I knew I could really marry Dan but the thought of having never been single since the age of 14 frightened the hell out of me. I didn't know anything about myself, who my friends were, what I liked to do - I only knew who I was with him, who our mutual friends were, what we liked to do.

Now, Dan and I talk about once a month, we're good friends. I don't see myself going back to him, but I wouldn't say it's impossible.

If this girl is just now moving out of her ex's place, I would guess she's in kinda the same place. All you can do is give her the space. You know that cheesy shit "if you love something let it go, if itcomes back to you it was meant to be" or something like that. ( ::vomit:: )

 

or there was a lease issue or sometimes with an aimiable break up, the person leaving doesn't just pick up and stiff the guy for rent, they can be mature enough to ride out the rest of the month or so, till the leaving person has a place lined up or the stayee has a new roomie to foot the bill with. I've seen it happen and work out....

...though admittedly, for the age of 20, your scenario has a higher probability.

 

The only time I ever heard "I need some space" I just never called her again, she never called me either. Think it is their way of breaking up. I didnt even smother her, I think she was more pissed because I was out all the time racing or working on cars with my friends. Its been 3 years, and my number hasnt changed....nothing to lose sleep over bro. Plenty of fish in the sea...just be thankful this didnt happen after yall got married or had a kid.....and if either of those has happened....i feel for you.

 

good good attitude, man! awesome. sometimes shit just doesn't work out. nothing to get in a twist over. right on.

 

Yep! Perfect! Thats the way i handle those things. Or used to handle them, rather.

 

haha.

 

i say it when i need to get away from him... usually upon deciding whether or not i want to break up with him.... if being away from him isn't hard for me... it usually ends up being over between us......... but if i find my self trying NOT to contact him... or if i accedently on purpose need to go past his house 3 times a day for something lol... then i stay with him! that's just me tho... if i'm wondering whether or not i should break up with him i usually do because it's not going that great in the first place!

 

.... you look really cold

 

Honestly When I tell a guy I need some space it does not mean that I don't want to date him sometimes I tell him this because There might be something that is going on at work or at home and I just don't want to blow up on him...