hi im wondering what u ppl think. Im a paralized and an amputee, its been two years since my accident. what do you think, will i ever find anyone? I used to be so confident and attractive, but now im not sure if ill ever meet someone who can look past my problems. I'm still the same person on the inside, but i dont think ppl can still see the real me anymore. all comments are welcome.
there are websites for people with disabilities to hook up. google it. my understanding is that it's not at all impossible. good luck.
hey one arm don't worry about it. Don't think of your single-armedness as a disability, it just gives you a different ability. I know this one guy who's a singer in a rock band and he's on two crutches. And another guy on crutches is a top animator and graphic designer. And this blind girl with a beautiful voice who can play keyboards. These people are cool because they're great at what they do. So great that people don't notice their disabilities. In fact disabled or handicapped are not fitting terms for them since their conditions do not hamper their talent or encourage people to pity them. Oh and the animator is married - so yeah just because you're handicapped doesn't mean you're "handicapped" when it comes to dating and relationships.
To be honest, I don't think anyone would be too phased by the lack of an arm. The whole arm, or just a portion? Sorry, just trying to picture what it looks like. But I don't think most women would have a problem with that. Not the ones worth bothering with, anyway.
I'm not sure if its his arm that truly is his worry. He mentioned he is paralized. The right person will be out there for you.
So in order for him to find someone he must go to a website for people with disabilities to hook up.. Mmm'kay...
Alright. i'm going to be blunt and if i may say so if anyone has any comments take them where they don't belong and swallow them. I for one had a brain tumor and had that removed at age 3 than i was diagnosed with CP (cerebral palsy) , on my Right side , which is spastic. School was VERY VERY difficult for me gaining friends and working with the asshole teachers who thought i couldn't do it because of the lack there of. I was told by doctors that i would never be able to have children live on my own get married i'd be in a whelchair the rest of my life (i was in a chair for 3 yrs) and i would never attend a "regular school or go to college. EDIT that . i have step kids, have taken psychology, 3 college courses French for that matter live on my own cook WORK with handicapped children am a respite provider enhance support worker and am taking Social work right now. I have a husband as well. I would NEVER in my life say to anyone in your shoes one arm your lesser of a person because you may be able to do something much more better than me where as if you met someone who doesn't know how to play soccer you can teach them. One thing i have learned is NEVER give in on drs advice think what you ant to think on yourself. My mom, was there for me medically but she was a fucking bitch telling me for years i could do nothing. No people like that ned to grow brains . WE learn by understanding the needs and the hearts. Do we need to know what happened in the past- not really we want to know what is happening now!! correct!! Understand that it may be hard for ppl to accept ppl with different problems but not all of us are rude like you may think .. Try and change how you think about what you want and things will be better. You are a beautiful person inside and out , but YOU need to see it before anyone else oes , stay away from negativity. Fuck those who put you down. i really despise ppl who say can't . Whats that word?
i thought it was safe to assume he wasn't having luck through the usual channels based on what he posted, so i made a suggestion of an additional resource he might not know about yet. if you don't like that, i'm sure you know what your options are.
I dont really have any 'usual' channels, whatever that is, but i also appreciate the info so yeah.... im not opposed to dating someone handicapped, but having an able body around does help... idk what ill do... time is wearing me down or god is... i.. feel.... weak(in the heart).
well, if you want to check them out you can try googling 'dating for people with disabilities'. you might be surprised at what you find.
i, for one, would definately date a guy with one arm, provided he was a good person and we had things in common! it's unique! it makes you special!
jesus people, his name is one arm. What do you THINK happened? Bro, start redefining yourself and focus on you and your abilities, rather than what is lost. Read Between a Rock and a Hard Place (Aron Ralston, old show bud of mine) I'm not saying you can, will, or want to take up mountaineering, but the ability to still be YOU is important. People will pick up on that. Another buddy has been married for five years. Just before he popped the question, he was diagnosed with ALS. She still said yes.
There was a paralyzed (i assume) guy that would always wheel through my line at Best Buy who had a smoking hot girlfriend. It was so funny too, cause he would strain so much to see the card reader and shit. I was honestly a little afraid of him kicking my ass. He was a muscly dude My cousin was born with one arm, he has had many girlfriends. He's a cool dude too. His dad, my uncle, had his leg amputated and he was incredibly active after the surgery. I honestly look past the handicap my cousin has and what my uncle had. The fact that they are disabled and do everything we do is so cool, cause they do everything with twice as much effort.
i once met a guy named jason, who was born without ALL FOUR limbs. yup. just little nubs. he was probably one of the coolest people i've ever met in my whole life. and he's married to a super-pretty, super-sweet girl. blonde, thin, the whole bit.(and for the record, it's not like he's rich or anything...) see. it's not impossible. the right person won't care about your arm-challenged body. she'll love you just the way you are. the best of luck to you in finding her.
