Whats your opinion on this situation

Let me start by saying sorry for the long post.

OK Im not sure were to start so, Ill start from the beginning and hope I dont leave any thing out. Im a 20 year old male and she 19 (18 when I met her) and were both collage students. When I met her I was immediately attracted to her, but didn't act one it because she was with her boyfriend she had for a year from back home (his name is Ryan). But all she ever did was say what a D-bag he was and how she wants to break up with him (this girl seems to have a thing for ass whole guys all of her past boyfriends have threated her like crap and/or cheated on her). So I figured I would wait till they were over.

So she dumps this guy over winter break, and when we get back to school about a month later we start to hang out a lot more. And I notice not only is this chick real cute but she is like one of the coolest chicks I ever met. We are able to talk for hours on end ( some thing I really like because I find most girls really uninteresting to talk to. They dont any funny or clever enough for my liking).

Ok so about two weeks after we get back from break we go this party together and things are going good shes dancing on me and we start making out and stuff. Later that night we go her room were she asks me to spend the night, so of course I do. So we cuddle up in bed and were talking ( I dont really try any thing cus at this point Im real tired and her roommate is sleeping like 10ft away) So I tell her how much I like her and how much I like hanging out with her and how pretty she is and stuff. And she tells me im like the nicest guy she ever met but you know shes not ready for another relationship yet and that she is not sure if she wants to get involved with me because we share all the same friends and thinks it will cause problems if we break up ( she also brings up fuck buddies but again she says she doesnt wanna do that because we have the same friends).

So at the time im fine with hearing that and, figure all she needs is some time. So I continue to hang out with this chick (and we flirt and stuff) I spend most of my time with her when im not in class. When shes done with class for she comes to see me and stays like all day which Im fine with I love her company Im happy when ever Im around her. I come to have strong feels for this girl, I really like her.

So about a month after the first time I sleep over I end up doing it again. She tells me Im the nicest guy she ever met. But I also learn that shes not over her ex boyfriend (Ryan) and has pretty poor selfesteem. She says like “I dont get why you like me Im a terrible person” or like “I dont get how anyone other than Ryan can like me”. And when ever I try to do any thing with me she would like turn away or say something like get your ands off my boobs. And she also said something I find strange she told me “Ill feel bad if I sleep with you, I feel bad about every thing I do”. And stupid didnt bother to ask why at the time.

So I spend the night with her about 5 more times over the course of the rest of the semester (always at her request, every few weeks), and it was always the same thing as in the above paragraph. Ive tried to get her to stay with me but no go. So I hang out with her till the end of the semester. As summer came I talked to her everyday and a few weeks ago I decided to stop talking with her. I told her it was pretty obvious that we didnt want the same things out of our time together and that because of that I didnt want to speak to her anymore. I am happy that I did this despite the fact I miss talking to her. She was pretty pissed at me and she said she didnt understand it because we got along so well. And that if I stopped talking to her she would miss me forever. (same thing I would say when she would say she didnt really want a serous relationship with me). She still will like text or IM me but I dont really like talk to her much maybe like a word or to.

So again sorry for the long post..I was wounder what was the deal with this chick? And whats your opinion this whole thing? I dont get this chick I mean she told me all the time how much she liked being with me and how fun and funny I was. I would have really like to be with her but I guess things dont work out that way.

 

it sounds to me like she has gotten really hurt, she may not be over her ex perse and not ready for a relationship either but she is probably willing to sit down and have an open ear . She may not be a bad person , but the more you stay with a manipulative ex the more in depth you seem to lose your control of your self esteem/worth. What i would do is TRY to understand why shes like that. I'll give you an example.
When i was 12 i got molested i blamed every guy . No stop staring at me its your fault to , i had it terrible for relationships . I got abused like no tomorrow. But reality is NOT everyone is like that right?? When you think negative theres always a positive to it no matter in what context you wanna face . Life brings you many obstacles and you know you may just want to stick by her side because you just may be the one - if she wants to come to you that meand shes ready to talk . Please don't take what she says personally.