Butter's Girl Issues...Again

DUDE!

I skipped from like page 3 to 8 and you still didnt ask her!!!! what's up?!!!!

Your just stalling at this point!!! I GOTTA KNOW WHAT HAPPENS NEXT!!!!!

I bet she's picking up on your indecisiveness and nervousness and thinking to herself

"does butter like me? I dont know, sometimes i get that vibe. But he's such a nice friend too. . ."

YOU CREATE YOUR REALITY BRO!
YOU NOT KNOWING IS KILLING YOU!!!!!
Trust me. here's what you said pages ago:

The only way to get experienced is to push through the uncomfortable moments. So just take the risk, say it, and even if she's not down with being an item, i bet you'll feel a lot better cuz it won't be eating you away!!!

 

no news from butters... i'm afraid to ask... maybe he hates us all now... or has better things to do, than yak on the internet...

 

Hahaha, no no, I love you all! I don't hate anyone, I've just had, well, nothing to say. Nothing has ever happened, and I honestly haven't talked to her in quite a while. I guess she was never interested to begin with, I don't know. So I'm once again by myself, as usual. Man, I really always hate to dissapoint everyone. But even moreso, I hate being alone. Maybe someday in the distant future, a girl will realize just how nice of a guy I am...Eh, we can always dream...

 

Dude....

Im honestly not saying this to be mean.

Your a victim by choice. Think about it . . .

 

I know you're not being mean, and I understand completely where you're coming from. I screwed up. I'm just so nervous around women that I don't really know what to say, how to act, etc. Heck, I'm so pathetic that I honestly still don't know exactly how to flirt! So, say I meet another girl. Exactly what steps should I take so I don't screw it up???

 

Hey all, she's talking to me again! And I'm actually seeing signs that she may well like me afterall. She's very nervous around me it seems, and even moreso when we're kind of alone, or with just a few people. I don't know if I want to outright say it yet, she just seems really shy, and I don't want to scare her away. But, are there any ways I can slowly help this along? A few days ago, I told her I was going to learn how to play the guitar, and she plays too. So I asked her if she wouldn't mind helping me learn, teach me some stuff. She got really nervous and said no. Does this maybe mean she digs me, but is scared she'll screw up, like me?

 

now rule of thumb says never do as i do but for some reason i feel it nessisary to say it anyways.

what i always did with girls is when you are alone just say it out right...alot of girls are shocked at first but now that they know this they are going to act approprately...and if she stays close when ever you for example walk her home or something always try to throw in something like a kiss on the forhead and say something like good night lovely or something like that...make it clear that you want to be more than friends but dont be to aggressive be cute about it. thats how you go about getting a girlfriend from the polite path as i guess you could refer to it as...how you act is the same way i do and thats how i always got it to work/not work but dont get scared.

 

See, this is just the thing. She won't really let me walk her back...She always says "no thanks I'm fine." whenever I offer. She just seems to be avoiding all possible opportunities to be alone with me. Is she scared of me, like in a bad way? I hope not, I'm nothing like that at all! I keep trying to be alone with her, but she seems to try just the opposite...

 

i think she is avoiding it because she thinks it will be awkward maybe? Just blurt it out.. cmon this is silly. Either ask her out or don't... make up your mind!

 

And take control of your own destiny.

Consider the following points:

A) You can't change someone -- they will either like you for who you are or not. If you become someone else for soemone to like you, eventually you will not like yourself. lose lose situation. So point in case, don't trip out on what you can't change.

B) You can't base your relationship on "signs" as they are extremely easy to misinterpret. Perception is reality. Example you have all these 'speculations' and perceptions of what the hidden messages mean and what the sign's she is giving you mean, but you really do not know. Trying putting yourself in her shoes, and look at some 'weird' things you may have done or 'weird' ways you may have acted out of being nervous cuz you like her. I'm sure she could take a myriad of meanings out of it, including thinking your just weird, or gay, or not interested cuz you haven't made a move. maybe she thinks sometimes your interested and others your not -- sound familiar? hehe

C) You are nervous and inexperienced.

D) You have no concrete information that she does like you.

E) You have no concrete information that she does not like you.

"Hey Jane, have you ever thought about getting together and going out on a date?"

"To be honest I'm inexperienced and nervous, and I feel like my nervousness has been getting in the way of me getting to know you. What do you think? I think I'm nervous because your very attractive and I'd like to take you on a date"

I guaruntee if you come clean and communicate clearly with her then you will feel 10x better, no matter what her response. because not knowing can eat you away forever, or just long enough until its too late.

Your heart gets fluttery -- you need to practice speaking from it. The more you do, the easier it will become.

Come on Butters! Don't fail yourself now! You got the looks! You have the charm! You have the want! You have the need! You have everything but the ability to be honest with yourself and this girl and just come out and say how you feel.

It doesn't have to be a smooth flight. The only thing that matters is you get the experience of speaking your feelings...

DO IT!

*begins chant!*

BUTTERS BUTTERS BUTTERS BUTTERS BUTTERS!!!!!!

GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BUTTERS!

 

You could also post your butt in the butt club, then write her a message in the post, and send her the link of your ass with some romantic bull in it. LOL

GO BOOTY CLUB!!

 

Wow. Thank you! Those were some excellent points you made, and has really made me re-think my actions. You're absolutely right, I have to say something. Its tearing me apart no knowing, so even if its no, I'll still feel better by knowing for sure. Thanks alot for the chant, because I'm going to need it. Why? Because the very next time I see her, I'm gonna do it! I'm finally going to say it! Its been too long of this wondering crap. Good two lines, too, by the way. I'm thinking about maybe saying something like the second line. I'm nervous, but very excited!

 

Honesty is the best policy bro. Just admit you've been nervous. Girls love it when nervous guys get balls to make a move.

Take things slow -- just share your feelings and go with the flow of the conversation.

WE BELIEVE BUTTERS!

 

Goooo Butters!
Whooo Woo Wooo Whoooo