I write lots of slash/erotica so I need to describe it a lot. To me it's like butterflies in my tummy, but really pleasant ones not nausea, and feeling really naked and wanton, even if I'm fully clothed. It's also a very liquid feeling, and hot. There's also a sense of being hurt, but in a nice way, like a bruise you can't help but keep worrying. Beyond that it varies, it's really hard to describe accurately. Can anyone help? (Please don't get mad and ban me for putting this here if it's in the wrong place or just forbidden. Just tell me and I'll never do it again, I promise, and I'm sorry in advance.)
There are such a variety of erotic experiences that actually happen that it's hard to empathize with someone else. We're all so different from one another, and also our individual experiences vary hugely over time. The best you can do is portray in detail a single love affair or sexual experience. The author who does this better than anyone else I know of is Henry Miller, in his book "Sexus". He's kind of a male chauvinist, but very hot.
If there's anything western culture needs less of, it's sex. But if you have to write about it, I'm sure you can find plenty of inspiration.Just type in 'porn stories' and you'll be inundated. There are blogs about it, fictions about it, studies about it, people complaining about not getting enough, etc, etc. In fact, you could get plenty of ideas just by checking out the 'Love and Sex' (not so much love, excessive amounts of sex) forum here on this very site. Also, be aware of your audience-- ask yourself 'what do the sexually sick masses really want that they can't get anywhere else?'
The key, so I've been told, is to describe the not-so-niceities of sex. If you're having a hard time putting words to a feeling or action, go into your grittier vocabulary.
That's really too bad. I had an amazing boyfriend for 2 and a half years, that relationship really helped make our sex lives amazing.
It's interesting... most people seem to go for the raunch factor. It seems rare to find those drawn to the intensely deep and passionate connection.
I can't imagine it any other way. I can see why people go after sex yet don't enjoy it when they're in a dysfunctional or unsatisfying relationship, but it isn't good. The end of my boyfriend and my relationship got really bad (he has depression and thought I didn't care) and so our sexual interactions where the same - no connection, very unhealthy and no fun like it used to be. It was really terrible for me (and him of course) at the end, because as I tried harder to reach out he closed up to protect himself. Sex can be a great thing but it has to come from a personal relationship to be truly amazing. And even then, if you and your pattern aren't on the same page, it can go really ugly. Lol, anyway, we're supposed to be describing sex. From my personal experience, I'd say speaking metaphorically would help capture it as well. Being inside a person's head as well as their body type of thing.
A lot of good responses here. I have described sex from metaphorically to down and dirty. Don't think I'm supposed to put in a link but go to literotica.com and look for member Shale and you can see some of the stuff I've written over the years. I write what I know. So in all those stories I have experienced what was written about, only characters and circumstances have changed. Sometimes I wrote about sex before having done a particular thing and would have to do R&D with my wife to see if it was possible and got good results. That was the fun part of writing porn. So, if you read Shale's descriptions you will find out I like to feel people with my hands (lots of massage themes), explore them with my mouth and nose (lots of licking and sniffing the most intimate body parts). I really get off on odors, so it may be a niche readership who can appreciate that.
