crush on gay uncle i need help!!!

When i found out my uncle is gay, i began to realize that im also gay like him.One day i came out to him and we all laughed.I like talking to him and really need his advice. we talk a lot about gay life and gay issue. I feel him like my father. But as i admire and respect him, i got a crush on him.I feel warm and happy whenever i talk to him. Sometimes i try to touch him but he seems to feel uncomfortable. I dont know any gay except my uncle. He's a very good person to me. I dont want to break up this relationship because of my crush.we've been living like father and son. I really want to let the feeling go but i can't. I love him so much eventhough hes much older than me. I dont know wat i should do, i need advice to help me decide whether i keep loving him or trying to let it go.

 

It's your uncle. Let it go. Unless he can reciprocate your feelings (am i using that right? reciprocate?), then by all means go have crazy incest sex with your uncle.

 

- that seams a bit wrong i mean have a relationship with him but i wouldn't take it that far.

 

Dude - keep it out of the family - please!

 

Agreed. I mean, there's nothing wrong with having that attraction, but it's just one of those things that I don't touch with a million foot pole.

 

dude your going to have enough proplems with being gay don't add incest to it

 

i think u only feel this way because he is the only gay person u know and u feel safe with him u need to get out more and find some one who u can feel safe with and have sex with them ur unkle isint an apropriat choice

 

probably the best advice in this whole thread. It's kind of like "you always fall in love with your first." He's the only gay you know, he's taken on a protective aspect of your life so you feel comfortable and grateful to him for the support you don't have anywhere else. and when you're young, lust gets mixed into everything.
It looks as though he knows you have a crush on him, and he's trying to avoid it. a less scrupulous man would have manipulated you into bed by now. Be thankful for that and take it as a sign that you need to wait for someone else.

 

This is sort of off-topic but does anyone here know about the origins of negative feelings towards incest in the human species? Also, does anyone know if any other species recognize incest as being "bad." I really don't think incest is that bad, but I would never do it because of its major taboo.

 

Also, I sort of felt these feelings for the first gay person I knew, but I later found them to have been more of a pull because I knew he and I could relate and he would accept me completely and wouldn't treat me any differently. What I thought at first was a crush, was absolutely nothing at all. Just wait a while, and sort out your emotions for your uncle.

 

I'm a new bi cross dresser looking for a home at hip forums. I've been stumbling around for a while now, but hav'nt found one yet.

Your thread caught My eye because of the Uncle thing! When I was young My uncle would come to town for X-Mas every year (reunion). Even tho it was winter He would put on His speedo and go swimming. When He walked around I couldn't keep My eyes off His enormous package and I didn't know why then as I was too young to know what it meant. But now after all these years, I think back and wish I'd grabbed it. I know if I had, I'd be totally Gay right now! He was like a Super Stud (SO Hot) -Ohh My...Oh Wow!!

Anyway He was My Uncle dude! Is Your Uncle a blood relative? If so, than don't touch!
Don't run away tho, it's alright to Love Him (hands in pockets).
You have a unique situation here. He Loves You, and He is willing to share with You his knowledge and give You advise -how cool!
Plus after You meet Mr. Right, You'll probably have a safe place to hang out and be free

 

thank all for ur comments and advices, im trying my best not to think sexually about him.I always think he is like my father, i love and respect him as a father. But whenever i am closer to him,i can not stop my passionate feeling. He is so hot and attractive in my opinion.I just like to touch him and being hugged by him. It is totally weird.I know this is wrong, i wont ever do that. I never meet any gay as my age,cuz they dont really come out in real life, but i came out to some friends of mine.It is very hard for me to stop this feeling.I dont want to stay away from him cuz we are like a bond right now, father and son.

 

I guess it's because it often goes hand in hand with sexual abuse, and that if everyone's doing it all the time it's a bit sucky in a genetics way. Probably there's a psychological angle on it, that reminds us of our primal nature and shit. Certainly, incestuous relationships don't develop in what we consider a "normal" way a lot of the time, and the feelings one has for a relative are unlikely to be akin to those we have for a boyfriend. It's an interesting thing.

And yeah, not that I have any ideological objection to incest, but as someone said above, you probably only fancy him because he's the only gay person you know and seems a bit more like an authority and stuff. I'd say don't move on it until you've met a few more gays, at least.

 

Just gotta ask, why does it matter whether or not he's a blood relative? (I'm pretty sure he'd have to me if he's "available".) It's not like they're going to have mutant gay babies together, is it?

 

lol good point

 

Ok lets try this... You get Your Mom's Sister pregnant, and have a 9 headed baby. But get with Dad's Brother, and it's no big thing right!?

This guy isn't just looking to "getoff" with Uncle once for a nice memory, or a learning expirience.
Sounds to Me like He want's to get Married to Him!

Maybe it's ok in Your Country, or in Arkansas i guess too. I think I'll go bone my Brother now and think on it some more.
:cheers2:
p.s. That's how sasquatches are made by the way- Read the Enquirer!

 

w/e if u wanna bang ur unkle go right ahed

 

I wouldn't fuck your uncle if I were you. I wouldn't start a relationship with him. I think maybe just talking to him about things you're curious about, maybe asking him if maybe he'd be willing just to do little things with you (maybe just something like mutual masturbation, but probably nothing further). Good luck...Keep us posted

 

Hanson 258,
I think that what you may be feeling for your uncle is admiration, he is someone you look up to and ask for advice. It is probablly normal to feel like you, it may just be a passing thing. Either way, I would not reccommend you go any further with your relationship. He's your uncle and with time you may regret acting out on your feelings. I am certain that you will find someone who you will have things in common with, be patient and cautious.

 

Doesnt everyone want to bang their heros??

i know tons of people look up to superman and also want to bang him. hahaha

i say your uncle obviously doesnt feel the same way so stop thinking about it.