Okay, I am sure I do my fair share of it, but there are people out there whose whole lives revolve around complaining. It's very annoying and makes me sick. How many of you are around people who complain constantly, and want everyone to feel sorry for them (when infact, everyone just wants them to shut up)? These complainers THINK everyone loves them and they think they are the greatest people in the world. You know who I am talking about. That one guy or girl you know who thinks he/she is god's gift to humanity. The one who wants you to know ALL of their business. These people have nothing to hide. They have no shame (which is a crying shame). The one who thinks that if they are having a less than perfect day, then nobody deserves to be having a good day. One of those people that try to tell you what to do constantly, and always try to be in charge. If you finally tell him/her what you think, he/she gets hysterical, then turns everything around on you. Does anyone know anyone like this? Please share your story.
yep my ex was the biggest whiner in the world, he blamed everyone else for his problems. When I would tell him he needed to take responsibility for his actions he would blow up at me. He failed his real estate renewal license exam and blamed it on me for not having sex with him the night before. He blamed his paretns for the root of all of his issues and problems. I can say he was and is truely an prick. We have tried being friends over the past few months but his bitching and moaning makes it unberable so I cut ties a few weeks ago and feel a huge burden has been lifted off of me. We have all had some horrible things that have happened to us. Something unimaginabley bad happened to me a few months ago-but I don't bitch about it I healed myself and moved on. If we bitch and whine about our problems we are letting the people who caused them win. We all really just need to get over ourselves and think of our selves as a part of society as a whole rather than ourselves being the only thing relavant in our society. Good thread skylie!!!
Thanks Lynsey, this guy sounds awful! I am glad you have moved on though. I am also glad you don't blame others for your problems!
The drummer of our band, the only girl. She would whine and gossip about every single person we knew,including the members of the band. She would whine and complain behind each of our backs, and the rest of us have known each other for years. I found out she called me a "scumbag" after acting all nice to me at our practice, for no real reason that I can think of. It was really annoying when she would drink, everything she said came out in this annoying tone, all complaints...complaints about us, where we live, etc. Anyway, we kicked her out and got a new drummer.
I hate gossipers! I say what i have to say to peoples face or stop talking to them. I mean I gossip about normal bullshit but as far as complainging about people behind their backs it is not cool with me at all. How will the people you gossip about know how to change if no one says something directly to them?
quote: hate gossipers! I say what i have to say to peoples face or stop talking to them. I totally agree, When my frind told me she called me a scumbag out of the blue, i was thinking "well, we aren't going to talk to each other anymore, because that kind of hurt my feelings, and if she feels that way why would she continue acting civil towards me." But then she went on acting completely how she always did, like nothing happened.....why would she tell one of my best friends around here something like that?!
Sometimes it sucks though, because as BAD as you want to tell the person what you think, you just can't. These people will not listen, and will not accept what you have to say to them. Or they will just turn it all around on you.
yeah I know what you mean. I 'broke up' with my best friend since high school last year because she started getting really petty. I would try and tell her to her face and she would start crying or make up some excuse. She had the easiest life out of anyone I know and would call me crying because her dad was mad at her for not puting her dishes away. It took so much effort on my part not to tell her that at 25 putting her dishes in the sink should be a given.
actually I pity those people they live in the prison of their own mind they wouldn't know the truth if it slapped them
it's okay, i complain about people who don't complain sometimes... complain sounds kindof funny after saying it so many times...
ugh, my dad. All he does is complain, about everything. His fucking back hurts and his legs hurt and he's tired and it's hot out and it's too wet to work outside and the house is too dirty and work is too hard. I know he has alot of shit to do at work, but it's all his own damn fault. I have to be out there doing all the fucking work for nothing. I'm fixing the fence and picking up the branches(note:we just went through two hurricanes) and stacking the logs. All he does is stand around and complain while I work my ass off. It's like, I'm out here too you know, I know it's hot! You don't have to tell me how fucking uncomfortable it is out here! What makes it worse is that he treats me like shit about it. Anytime I ask for anything(like the car insurance I've been trying to get him to buy for the last 4 months) he says he "does'nt have time". Of course, he's on the couch eating a bag of greasy potatoe chips, or on the porch smoking a ciggy. Sure, really looks like you're running out of time, dad. </rant>
do we have the same father? no, couldn't be, mine is alwyas out "looking for a job" and "doing everything ever asked of him" in his chair in front of the tv
so, if you dont complain or vent about anything, ever, then what? do you swell up like a balloon until you burst?
At least as I see it, the issue is how you complain & how MUCH you complain. My boyfriend & I have actually discussed this quite a bit because we have one of those friends... If she gets a cold, it's a huge deal & far worse than any cold anyone else has. If she's stressed out about a class, you just don't understand, it's far more work & the professor is far more unreasonable than any you've ever had. If someone says something ambiguous, they obviously meant the absolute worst meaning you could infer from it (which is often worse than the worst that you or I would infer from the statement). Several of our other friends have complained about how negative she is at times. Some have limited how much they hang out with the big group of people we hang out with because they can only take this person in small doses. The thing is, my boyfriend & I both bitch quite a bit as well. We make fun of one another about it. But neither of us has gotten any indication that people see us as being generally negative. Why? The best answer we have come up with is that we don't dwell on the negative like this one person. For her, everything revolves around whatever melodrama is happening for her at the moment. For us, we bitch, vent, whatever, then either shut up about it or make fun of one another for bitching so much. Plus, I think the fact that we can make fun of each other about it in front of other friends keeps us out of that category of people that will never accept being wrong or will blow up if you tell them they're going overboard.
